Since last august I worked hard on my diet and fitness - taking my weight from 12st1p to 9st4p. Fantastic eh? But wait for it....
Well since july my weight has been creeping up 10st 7p (last week) with 2" on my waist and 3" on hips. So decided to lock in and get back into a loser mindset rather than maintainer(gainer). But as I step on the scales today it looks like I have gained (10s10p). So cue a binge.......scones, cakes, chocolate. I feel like crying....sabotaging my efforts. (again!) This morning I did so well at the gym and had an amazing session on the treadmill.
These blowouts are all too familiar and my emotions this week have been all over the place.... most of the time I pass all these foods and realise they aren't good for me and I don't even like them.
So how can I pick myself up? I need to get into a long term loser mindset...How can I do this?
If I am trying to loss weight I have to realise there will be times I will feel hungry, because my body is in calorie deficet.
Also I have a friend coming to visit and we have dinner out on sat night, you know I really can't face going out to eat. I just want to get back into the groove.
sorry for this ramble, its just hard for me to express how frustrated, disappointed and generally hacked off I am feeling at the moment.
I have to agree with the above poster, losing weight isn't about being hungry- I never am hungry, sure my loss is slow but I rarely, if ever, feel deprived.
Remind yourself that you DID get to 9st4p and definitely can do it again. I'd look back to what has changed- maybe you are eating more or exercising less?
Also- going out doesn't have to be a dreaded thing, how about you offer to cook instead? Or choose a restaurant that has good choices that will keep you on plan?
Thanks for the advice...... I think I will keep posting my thoughts. Its good to write my feelings down.
I need to lock in and take this challenge on....I need to get focused and be patient.
Lessons learned so far (since Aug 09):
1. Eating junk food makes me feel lousy - so there is no reason to keep it in the house (ever!) I have tried this on many occasions and eventually I crack and eat it all in one go.
2. Some healthy foods can also trigger me (peanut butter, healthy cereal bars, nuts etc) so again I will choose not to keep them in the house
3. When I eat out for dinner, it is up to me what I choose to eat. I am not going to let others pressurise me into drinking, dessert etc. I can also ask for items to be cooked healthier etc.
4. Eating inline with south beach diet, makes me feel good. I feel good and want to look good.
My strengths
1. I am a member of a fantastic gym
2. I like to workout hard - I know how to push my limits.
3. I love love love vegetables
4. I know how to cook healthy food, soups, stir fries etc.
5. I have done it before (9st4p!) and I can do it again.
6. I have a pt who is supportive and can help me achieve my goal.
7. When I eat healthy, I feel invincible and sleep better.
Areas to improve upon
1. I am impatient. I decide to make a change and I want to see results asap.
2. Sometimes work makes me feel tired and I skip the gym.
3. When I am tired, I need to rest and chill out.
4. I beat myself up mentally. I need to be my own cheerleader! Postive mental attitude
5. I need to stop going to the supermarket - I need to make a list and stick to it - veggies, lean protein, berries. (yum!)
6. I need to stop watching food programmes, I need to make food boring and mundane. Its like I am torturing myself.
7. Sometimes life is stressful (its life after all), I need to recognise this and not start using junk make me feel better.
Things I am still uncertain about
1. Do I eat too much dairy? Is it holding me back from dropping weight?
2. "Occassional Treats" Chocolate, cakes, are they really such a treat? Or do they just hold me back from being fantastic and achieving my goals.
3. Why I am struggling to be put together a long term run and seems to binge every few weeks. Whats all that about!
One really good thing I noticed here was that you realize your issue and you are reaching out. It's hard. I didn't even want to tell anyone my name because I was so embarrassed. And no one would even know me anyway but still. So you deserve a lot more credit than you're giving yourself. You are posting and talking about it. I am 34 and I just got the guts to talk about it to complete strangers...in typing. You deserve a big big kudos for that.
If I were you I would go to the restaurant but confidently. I tell you what I do sometimes before dinner parties. I eat dinner...my way...well when Im in control that is. It works out so then when I do go it's not like I'm drooling over everything on the menu. I have a take it or leave kind of attitude and I try my best to take what is healthier. Plan way ahead in your mind what you're going to eat there and what you'll eat at home to fill you up so you can make good choices.
I've always desired one thing. You know when you see rich people eating at restaurants? They're not gulfing down their food. They even don't really come for the food. I'd like the same attitude of I don't really need this food, I am here for the company, the socialization....and socialization is a good thing for me if I plan it out in my head way ahead of time. If I don't, it gets sabotaged and then it takes me weeks and weeks to muster up the motivation to stop binging and eating like there's going to be a sudden food shortage.
Like I said in another post, I was watching Dancing with the Stars to gain some motivation to look like them. Im so proud of some of them. Sometimes they come on there fat and all and dance their hearts out..and some even lose quite a bit in the meantime. I'd be embarrassed to get in front of the world and all it contains and jiggle it like that. O dear Gd that would bite. But they do it. So I like to watch them...and that motivates me.
Try to find something that makes you feel like how DWTS makes me feel. I ordered a dancing tape out of this motivation to have fun and stay happy and positive.
I am not an expert to give advice on here as I am deep in it too. But we all are. We all have our good days and our bad. Maybe I'll follow my own advice if I write it down to you.
Huge hugs.. and I know you can do this. You have done it. You'll do it again too. You can. You're way way ahead of me. I saw your lists!
You can see from my previous post(s) that I most definitely do NOT have this thing under control. I can say that for losing weight, it really helped me to define exactly WHY I wanted to lose the weight. Post those reasons somewhere obvious, refer to them often, remind yourself about your priorities. All of us feel better when our actions are aligned with our priorities, so for me, keeping them top of mind helped me to drop the weight (again).
I want this to be the last time, too. I can't comment on the maintenance part, other than to say it is as much or more work than the losing. We have to accept that & stay tuned into our physical & emotional needs.
You have taken awesome steps here! Bravo!! I love the lists you put together - I think they will really help you to continue your success & stop the pattern of lose/gain.
Come back often. I have found amazing support here at 3FC.
Hey there coad786, I am 34 and 5'3", Do you think we have been seperated at birth? LOL i76
Thanks for the hugs, Lets just give each other a virtual high five too.
I will be getting stuck into the gym and my veggies tomorrow. I think I might try weighing myself everyday and taking my waist/hips measurements. Rather than making a big build up to it once a week....hence my crazzzzzy binge today. If I want to get my weight down I need to take more responsibility for it all. I know its going to fluctuate but I am sure I will see a downward trend starting to happen. The scales will be a tool, not a rod to beat myself up with.
I am also going think of 3 good things about my day as I brush my teeth in the morning/night.
Well, these are my current thoughts about how to push through this....lock and load!
Where to go from here? Advice please...
i76
