Jill, have you looked into groups or organizations that you might be interested in? I understand the "bar scene is the only thing here" phenomenon- I live in a college town completely overrun by bars, clubs, and the like. I admit that it's really hard to meet people since I don't do the bar scene- and I'm not the type of person who could just randomly start talking to strangers at a bar, either. But you're right- if you meet people at a bar, it's a given that they like that scene and you'll end up perpetuating what you seem to be pretty unhappy with.
I mean I know it sounds kind of cheesy, but I think it's important for you to meet new people based on your interests rather than a kinship of drinking. Not that you have to ditch the friends you have at all! But it sounds like their discontents are dragging you down a little bit. That's great that your friend was supportive, and you're right- if they are true friends, there won't be a problem.
As for the psychologist, I agree that you should see a new one. When I was drinking heavily I don't think the psychologist I was seeing was the best, retrospectively- but she never held the "quit drinking or I can't treat you" card over my head, and I don't think that's an appropriate reaction.
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