Hi all, just thought I'd check in before trooping off to the park. Beach, I'lm so glad you're feeling better! Antibiotics make me gain too, but it goes away real fast once I finish the course. Chickadee, congrats -- me too! Lily, I'm sorry about the gambling. That is such a scary issue. If you've been through it before, you know exactly how scary. Is there anything you can do to protect your assets, or does he do the bookie/loan shark thing? I once twinkled all the money out of a joint bank account and hid it in my (inaccessable to anybody but me) savings account. I put a freeze on my credit report, canceled the credit card (only one had my name on it), and took his name off my car (it was only on there for insurance reasons) and mine off his. If he wanted to lose HIS car, too f*ing bad for him, I was beyond caring if he screwed up his own life, as long as he didn't screw up mine. When he had no ready access to cash, he borrowed it from Guido's Loan, Extortion and Off-Track Company. Note: I am now firmly single -- no kids, not years of history together before the gambling spinout. I cut his sorry *** loose. If we had been actually married (we were planning on it), or together for a really long time, or had kids, I guess I just would have had a nervous breakdown and checked myself into a mental hospital somewhere...thank goodness we didn't live together! I'd have been sleeping with a .45 under the pillow, waiting for Uncle Guido and the Boys to show up one dark night! I was heartbroken, but I survived, sadder but wiser. Now the very idea of financial entanglement makes me break out in hives. Funny, I had forgotten all about that chapter of my life. I was a lot younger (and cuter) then!
Another pound gone. I guess it's still working. Last night I made blueberry flax muffins from a low carb website A(not Linda's). I combined two recipes to get both the blueberries and the flax, and tweaked things a bit. They turned out chewy and yummy, and 2.3g each. I've never made anything with either flax meal or almond flour before. Only thing I'll change next time is I'll add more sweetener -- I used Stevia Glycerite, and had to guess. The blueberries added some sweetness tho, so it was still OK. Chopped walnuts would be a good enhancement, too.
2.3 TOTAL grams? (Not net? The whole "net thing" has wrecked my progress b4 so I'm relying on TOTAL only this time around - kind of gun shy!)
Speaking of "gun shy" . . . (COURTESY OF AUD "SEGUE QUEEN!") . . . WOW! What a different take on the gambling thing bouncie - PRACTICAL DOWN TO REAL LIFE EARTH advice!!!! PROACTIVE - so much better than the worry wart drivel I posted to lily. What was your former dh's poison? Racetrack? What's you dh betting on lily? My Sis's are SLOT DEMONS!!!!!! I think I may be calling DS oldest son and see if he can get thru to her or at least be AWARE. He's in SAN FRAN Bay tho' . . . maybe a sooner than Christmas Visit is in order?
Just LOVE this place! WTG on being a survivor GF!
I was logging back in here to comment that altho' I know all back problems are not created equal - I just CANNOT believe your problems would be cause by walking/treadmill, bouncie. Have had a LOT of experience on this issue - and every rehab I've gone thru involved LOTS of walking - walkingwalkingwalkingwalking . . . 2 things:
1) You're not doing the INCLINE option are ya? That's a no-no-no . . . .
2) Have you ever tried (or have the capability) to reverse walk on tread? Basically walking backwards? This is heavenly for the compression in the spine - opens up the spaces between discs. If this isn't an option - try pedaling backwards on a ex bike (especially if you can get to a recumbent) - the relief will be AWESOME, I think.
Soon2b, there's ALWAYS room! Welcome, we're glad to have you!
Aud, if I ignore the fiber, the muffins are 4.6g ea. I always have subtracted the fiber. If a package tells me net g and it isn't equal to total g - fiber g, I use my own number. Lots of things (Atkins bars, for example) use net g that make no sense to me, so I ignore their number. But it's moot, cuz I'm not eating those anymore.
Himself was addicted to sports betting. If no sports were available, off-track racing bets. There are people in that business that you really, really don't want to know. Shellie's Rule #56: Do not allow other people to drag their train wreck through YOUR life. Rule #57: If Larry associates with scary people, stop associating with Larry IMMEDIATELY. Otherwise the scary people will eventually know YOU. Note: these rules are not always enforceable.
I haven't been using the incline. At this weight, or anything even sorta close, alking too far has always made my back muscles hurt, if my poor feet didn't torture me into submission first. I'm sure it's weight distribution. My frame was designed to carry 115 lbs, not more than twice that! Treadmill does not have a reverse function. I'll wait until everything is better, maybe another week, then start very slowly to build the muscles. I'm hoping that will work. I think what really pushed it to the pain point was lifting small weights with my arms straight out, alternating -- one hand moving up while the other moved down, then reverse the movement. That one really works the back hard, I don't care HOW good y our posture is.
Ladies, I'll explain a little of what's going on. One week after Vic and I were married, he stopped me in his Patrol Car and told me he had won $1000.00 on horse track racing while I was at work that night. I asked him to put some money in our bank account cause we were broke. By the time I got off work 12 hrs. later, he gave me $50.00 and told me he had given the rest to his X-wife for his 4 kids. MY hugest mistake was I believed him since she was constantly calling to beg for money.
A couple years later, he went deep sea fishing with my brother and friends. While he was gone, I learned that he had hot checks out and had to pick them all up. When he came back, I threw a major fit. He admitted then that he had been gambling with the money. He swore to me , God and anyone else who was listening that he'd never do it again. Again, I'm an idiot and thinking he learned his lesson , I stayed with him. We had just bought our home and I couldn't afford the bills on my own.
Two years later, he started his own mowing business on top of his full-time job with the Highway Patrol. I thought, finally we won't have any financial problems. But, Oh No, things got worse. I never saw a dime from his new business and he spent over $12,000 on expensive lawn tractor type equipment. At this time, I was very sick and had to drop to part-time work. I was so sick with my Liver Disease, the Dr.'s did not want me working at all.
He then sold his truck and bought a new one. The buyer of his vehicle gave him a $9000.00 check. Much to my surprise he never paid off the $8500.00 he owed to Ford on the truck he sold. It took about 4 months for Ford to get ahold of me and let me know this. By this time, I wasn't able to work at all. I didn't know WTF was going on. When I confronted him with this, he took off and ended up landing in a mental hospital after attempting to shoot himself with a shotgun. (the dumba-- shouldn't used his revolver). This totallly coincided with me seeing my first Hepatologist and being told I needed a Liver Transplant. I couldn't just kick him out cause I needed his insurance to be able to get a new Liver. I desperately wanted to stay alive to see my kids raised, so he had me over a barrell so to speak. He agreed to stay in Mental couseling and was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and put on med's. For a short while, he took his med's and I thought things were going to improve. I took him off my checking account, cut up all credit cards and had him give me his paycheck each payday and I gave him an allowance.
The next year, I was hospitalized with Pneumonia and so sick I almost died. With my Immune system so compromised I couldn't fight off any infection and was placed on a ventilator. I remained for 6 weeks in the hospital. When I got out of the hospital, I found that many of our bills were'nt paid by him. He had written lots of checks on my account and everyone in town took them since he was a Trooper and everyone knew I was sick and trusted him. He had also cashed and spent my son's child support checks while I was hospitalized and took out a $7500.00 loan in my name during my absence. He had gotten a post office box to have some of these bills go to so I wouldn't find out about them. Once again, I couldn't afford to leave. I now had no job, no insurance, my disability hadn't started paying yet and me and the kids starving just wasn't an option. His mother paid our house payment for a full yr. while I was waiting on my disability money to kick in. I finally started receiving it 2 yrs. ago and paid her back the money we owed her.
Throw in the mix, DH's perpetual screw-up of a DD and there you have it. She got herself in ton's of finanancial trouble and he kept saying that anytime I find he had taken out a loan and not told me about it, that it was for her. To pay her utilities, rent, hot-checks and warrants. I didn't know he was gambling again. I thought he was getting us in hot financial crap to save her butt.
Last November, I noticed all of our hunting guns were gone. He lied and told me he sold them to keep her out of jail. I was furious but since I knew she had lots of warrants out, I believed him. Cops had even arrested her here at our house before.
Well, back in April, I mentiioned on here that I had "LOST" my wedding rings. And somehow my uber expensive Diamond bracelet was "LOST" too. Now, his DD's wedding rings that were locked in our safe are "LOST" too. Imagine that and last Monday I get a call from 2 different loan companies saying he is behind on his payments. LO and Behold he admits again that he is gambling. He swears he didn't pawn off my jewelry and I KNOW in my heart that he did. I wanted to tell him to pack his sh-t and get out. He begged me to let us both try individual counseling and marriage counseling. Once again the only reason I agreed is because Lacy now needs another stomach surgery and he carries the damn family insurance. I'm still on the list for a liver transplant and have finally lost the weight to be able to qualify for the procedure. My son is soon to be deployed to war.
I feel so friggin trapped that it is unbelievable. If I kick him out, we cant' have surgery and I know that I can't afford my medications without his insurance. What can I do?
Right now, he is starting to pout and whine cause I don't want Sex. Heck, I can't really even stand to look at him after all the trouble he's caused.
I dated him for a yr. before we married, he was a State Trooper and everyone respected him. Right now, he's lost all his friends cause he owes all of them money. Like I mentioned, he retired now from the Highway Patrol and is working on an Oil Rig. His Lieutenant was glad to see him gone, because of the embarassment he had caused when he tried to kill himself. He had even been put on probation because of his "inability to control his finanaces".
As far as I know , his choice of gambling is Internet Blackjack and Internet Texas Hold-em, plus lotto tickets, pull tabs and he has been known to frequent the 3 Indian Casino's that are within a 20 mile radius of home.
I have protected myself in that he is not on my house loan, he isn't on my bank account, I have Zero credit cards, I still pay all the bills and make him give me his paycheck each week. But, he still manages to take out loans without my knowledge and use stuff from around the house for collateral for his gambling loans.
Sorry, this is so long. I have No faith whatsoever that couseling will help and quite frankly I just don't give a damn anymore. I'm sick of trying to baby his *** along.
Here's my financial situation. My housepayment is $1100.00 a month, utilities $700.00 a month. Car payment and insurance $350.00 monthly. My medications $500.00 a month (if I had to buy them without insurance). I owe more on the house now than when I bought it because he and his X-wife hadn't payed TAxes for 4 yrs. and we had to take out a 2nd mortgage the first yr. we were married to keep IRS from seizing my home). So, I can't sell the house for even what is owed. I can't file bankruptcy cause I filed a Million dollar bankruptcy 2 yrs. ago due to my being hospitalized 6 weeks and having just had to quit working due to my Liver Disease. (DH's insurance waited a year to pick up my medical expenses due to it being a pre-existing disease). My disability pay is less than my above mentioned bills and that doesn't include the fact that I haven't counted for food and I still have a 15 yr. old DD in the home. My Dr.'s absolutely refuse to allow me to return to work since I am on steroids and have so many health problems and compromised immune system. I only see 2 options. Stay with him and wonder what will show up missing next and who he'll owe money to next. Or, lose my home. Get a small apartment for me and Lacy and pay money the rest of my life to whatever company forecloses on my house when it is sold at Sheriff's auction for half of what it's worth. If anyone has any suggestions please feel free to chime in. I desperately need help.
Morning all! Bouncing, thanks for the welcome!!
Lilybelle - I'm sorry hun, I have no wise words, or advice. Just that I'm here for ya if you need to talk/vent. I saw your pics & you look awesome!!
I'm off to check out some of the recipes....have a wonderful day!
Didja have a lawyer for your disability? A lawyer needs to help protect you from these loans Hub is continuing to takeout. Very sticky. Lawyer can also help ease worries about medical coverage - in MO the non custodial parent HAS TO provide coverage for minor child - after all these shenanigans - perhaps for disabled ex-wife as well?
Also - unless you're in danger (and with a bipolar semi suicidal under pressure ex Trooper - that is indeed a possibility) NEVER move out of the property. Yeah you may owe owe owe on it - but real estate is real! I'd get a safe deposit box for any valuables - in you and Lacey's name only - I'd also make a police report for the missing jewelry - and cruise the pawn shops. They may turn up in routine police work and you can get them back for free if you spot them - if you have the report.
Just so you know - I have had and STILL have quite a bit of drama "IRL" . . . I think you are just simply amazing for all you have achieved, lily and a total inspiration! I am so glad you have Posted about what you are going thru - just hated when you were gone for a few days! If we know anything about lilyb . . . it's that you are not only a SURVIVOR but a CONQUEROR (altho' bet you don't feel like one right about now?) You'll do what's best for your DD & DS - which is taking care of YOU at this stressful time - so you can be strong for them!
soon2bfab!! How long have you been LC'ing? Love your pic! Someday my oldest DD is going to help me Post some - she just turned 21 and has started a new job - she says it's her "calling" to be a nurse that helps senior citizens. She's been at the Nursing Home about a week working the 11pm-7am shift and training for Certification - Step 1. Last nite she called all freaked out 'cause some male patient kept begging her to "hold it" while he went potty. I felt like driving up here and slapping the ole guy! I liked it better when she was going to be a nursery school teacher or plumber!!!
Glad you're aboard - Do you work? Have any kids? Hope you (and the others I see in a couple of Threads here at LC!) will just jump on in here to Chat!
Sounds like you "know thyself," bouncie! I was just explaining the other day in the Challenge Thread that at this weight - SOME things are just not gonna work excercise-wise. Not a matter of embarrassment or self-consciousness - just not gonna work because I would INJURE myself at this point/weight if I went there. I'm really trying to be an "intuitive Eater" and also Excerciser- LOL! BTW: LOVED your calling the ex "Himself!" Priceless and I will use!
Who are we missing here? Ooooohhhhhh beeeaaaachhhhiiiieeeeee? azzzzuuuuuuurrrrrre? Callllyyyssstiaaaa??? Puncieeeeeee? lllloooottttttttts?? llllaaaaauuuuurrrrraaaa???? sssshhhhhheeerrrrrriiiiieeee? Everyone Else I've missssssseeeeed???? Newwwccooommmmmers from the other Thrrrreeeaaaddddsss here??????
It's officially September - Let's Do This Thang!!!
HAVE A WONDERFUL LABOR DAY,TAKE IT EASY & RELAX,AS TOMORROW IS BACK TO WORK AGAIN FOR SOME.
I'm feeling great this afternoon. Going to start the diet shortly,was thinking to give my bod a change to recoup,before I start.
Lost some poundage 1.5 this morning,its a start and hopefully it will go down further.
Aud-Good Luck on your W-I. I'm not going to get too serious of what the scale reads until next week.Was OP some of the time,hope to work on it slowly back to full time low caring. Happy to hear that your doggy Gretel is doing somewhat fine. The poor thing,its going to take time & patients,but she will mend.
Bouncing-Glad to here it might be the antibiotics that caused the weight gain, as I been off of them since Sat.maybe takes why I lost.
Soon-Welcome to the thread,theres always room for more.You'll like it here, woman are very friendly and supportive. I have a few low carb web sites that I will be glad to share with you.
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These will help you get started.
LILY-I don't know what to say or tell you,but I'm going to put you and your family on my prayer list. Going to pray that your life gets stress free and a answer will soon be found.
Have a nice day, what left of it.I will post tomorrow
Hugs BB
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Hey all! Hope everyone is having a good weekend. although I'm not doing anything special, I am enjoying having this extra day off. Still hanging in there trying to stay on plan. Just kinda been skating by & not trying really hard this past week or so but have been working on it today. getting ready to go to the grocery store so I can really stay on plan this week.
Lily: holy crap girl...you are one tough lady. I don't have any advice other than to agree with Aud and say "Get a lawyer!" will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Soon2bfab: Welcome. You will really enjoy it here. I've gotten LOTS of support in the past few months and don't know what I would have done without it.
Lily, I'm sorry to hear you're in such a tough situation. I think you are a very strong person to deal with all of this and to lose wieght on top of it all. I hope things start to look up for you soon, you are an inspiration and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm back down 3 of the 6 lbs I gained over my holliday. Back on track.
Enjoy the rest of your long weekend!
Lily, if you're not on SS disability, get yourself on it soonest. Then you can qualify for Medicare after a waiting period, 18 mos. I think, then you are no longer dependent on DH's insurance for your own self. When you qualify for medicare, get Part B and the drug supplement, and your meds will be covered -- pick your plan by the lowest cumulative cost for your particular meds. And you'll want to look ino Medigap insuance too, for all the stuff Medicare Part B doesn't cover, and deductibles. If you need help getting on SS disability, there are companies that specialize in that. I used one, and they performed miracles, and they performed them very quickly. I even got a big lump payment for backdated claim grant. And like aud said, Lawyer Up!
Health issues first. Like the flight attendant reminds the passengers, you can't help anybody else including your kids until after you put on your own oxygen mask. If you try, you just become another one of the victims. Health is critical. People are important. STUFF is not important. Nobody ever lay on her deathbed saying "Gee, I wish I'd taken better care of my jewelry."
Good luck, God bless, and keep us all posted or I will personally hunt you down and tickle you until you pee your pants. In public. Then I'll tell everybody. A terrible fate. Don't make me do it.
Hiya sunchick! Glad you're hanging in there! WTG puncie - 3lbs is 3lbs! LOL!
Welpers - went in and w/i at the Doc's Urgent Care Office (they were so nice!) - stayed right on 222 - so that's my official number for the Labor Day Challenge (Thanking Union Ancestors for this extra day off!) . . . Official Tally:
July 16th: Returned to 3fc and lc'ing (after a most disastrous all time 248lb high-dance with calorie counting and mindless self-medicating carb loading from March - July.)
26lb loss!!
I'm kicking my Type A Competitive Personality up a notch and entered TBLoser Challenge/ends Dec. 3rd & Also sticking with my Women On WEED friends for a Halloween Challenge - hoping to be 199# for ! Not sure what Dec. 3rd will bring.
BTW: FOUL on bouncie for the hunting down/tickle til lilyb pees Post! My monitor now has iced tea damage!!!!
Aud - Thanks! I just started lc, day one under my belt! I did atkins before & lost 40lbs, but then I moved in with my now husband (we were married in JUne) and I stopped Atkins & started gaining. Now I'm 50 lbs heavier!!
No children yet, but I want at least one, but I would like to drop the weight first. I do work full time as a retail manager.
) . . . WOW! What a different take on the gambling thing bouncie - PRACTICAL DOWN TO REAL LIFE EARTH advice!!!! PROACTIVE - so much better than the worry wart drivel I posted to lily. What was your former dh's poison? Racetrack? What's you dh betting on lily? My Sis's are SLOT DEMONS!!!!!! I think I may be calling DS oldest son and see if he can get thru to her or at least be AWARE. He's in SAN FRAN Bay tho' . . . maybe a sooner than Christmas Visit is in order?
soon2bfab!!
Someday my oldest DD is going to help me Post some - she just turned 21 and has started a new job - she says it's her "calling" to be a nurse that helps senior citizens. She's been at the Nursing Home about a week working the 11pm-7am shift and training for Certification - Step 1. Last nite she called all freaked out 'cause some male patient kept begging her to "hold it" while he went potty.
I liked it better when she was going to be a nursery school teacher or plumber!!!
BTW: LOVED your calling the ex "Himself!" Priceless and I will use!
Ooooohhhhhh beeeaaaachhhhiiiieeeeee? azzzzuuuuuuurrrrrre? Callllyyyssstiaaaa??? Puncieeeeeee? lllloooottttttttts?? llllaaaaauuuuurrrrraaaa???? sssshhhhhheeerrrrrriiiiieeee? Everyone Else I've missssssseeeeed???? Newwwccooommmmmers from the other Thrrrreeeaaaddddsss here??????
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! Not sure what Dec. 3rd will bring.
