[Arkansas Kel]

OK, 1st - the best advice I ever got. You can't control what others do, you can control what you do.

2nd - 2nd best advice I ever got. Don't let the devils get you down.

And finally, I did at work overhear a collegue that views me in an unflattering light talking about me and not nicely. She was commenting on how I talk to myself. Yep, I sure do. So I pointed out "is that all you got? I'm short, fat, and have freckles too!" I am competition for this woman. That's why she talks about me that way. In some way that DIL resents you. That means in some way you are besting her. Forget it. She can't hurt you. It's just words. If you are fat you are fat. So what. I am too. And I hear that I talk to myself. If you can find the strength to hold your chin up and not let the devils get you down, and I know it's not easy, then you are better and stronger than her little comments. To tell you the truth, I probably would have said "yep, I'm fat, how smart of you to notice. I would have never guessed had you not pointed it out! I can lose weight though, so what will you do about being so rude?"

Hugs and best wishes.

[JerseyGyrl]

Robin,

Someone once told me family will hurt you quicker than anyone...sad but true! Reminds me of somthing said to me by my ex-husband's SIL. I was in the SIL's sister's wedding. At the time, I weighed 245 lbs. At the rehearsal, in the church, in front of the minister, the bridal party & my wonderful husband...the minster asked the SIL's sister "In what order do you want the girls to come down the aisle?" I was simply standing there, minding my own business when the SIL pipes up and says "I think Kim should go first since she is the shortest & the fattest!!" While I was completely stunned, there stood my husband, never said 1 word in my defense. Now you know why he's an ex!

On a happier note...I ran into this SIL one day in the grocery store and had lost about 90 lbs at that time...she did a double take! It was priceless! I use people & experiences like that as part of my motivation. Revenge can be very sweet!!

Hang In There

Kim

[kaplods]

I didn't mean to be glib, I just meant that when you deal with her in the future, a big ol' smile on your face while you do it, will cut her down a peg more efficiently than anger. And YOU will start to look at her in that light, someone who isn't smart enough or confident enough to act like an adult, and who is worthy of pity and amusement, but not respect.

[RobinW]

Oh no Colleen, I didnt think you were being glib at all.

In some way that DIL resents you. That means in some way you are besting her.

Kel, this is something I have thought of myself. There are times she mimicks me, and my ideas as her own....even coming out with comments that I had said a week before. All said as if they were her ideas, and her decisions. For the life of me, I dont know what the heck it is she finds so fascinating, yet hates at the same time. I do my darndest to stay away from her, and only talk when I need to.

Lily, I am going to have to remember that!! I like it!

Kim~ unbelievable!!! But I would have loved to have seen her face when she seen you with 90lbs gone!

I plan to dig my heels in, and get this weight off. It might be too late to say anything, but many lbs gone is a wonderful thing to rub in her face Especially when she struggles with the same issues. Nasty isnt it, but Im not feeling very gracious

[kaplods]

That's a relief. I talk about a mile a minute, and sometimes I post that way too. I never know when I've stuck my foot in my mouth (keyboard?)