I used to consider myself an emotional eater too. After a TON of soul searching I finally had to admit that stress, anger, sadness, etc. weren't TRIGGERS they were EXCUSES. With the help of journaling I realized that, more often than not I wanted to eat FIRST, then I'd feel whatever emotion and - bingo - I could eat what I wanted without actually having to be responsible for the damage done.
Maybe that isn't the case for you but the bottom line is still that putting food in our mouths is a CHOICE. Sometimes it is really, really hard to choose not to eat when we know we shouldn't but it is always within our control to do so.
Finding other ways to vent your feelings is a great option and I would venture to say that exercise is the most effective. It may also help to try and bottle the feelings you are having right now. Did the donut holes smooth things over with your husband? I doubt it. Did the cookies and candy make your anger magically disappear? Didn't think so. And THAT is the lesson. At best eating distracted you for a while. In the end, it didn't solve any problems and, in fact, created new ones that you are facing now. Keep that in mind the next time you start to feel yourself losing control again. It may very well help you make better choices from here on out.
And, it is true, that there is no reason to beat yourself up. You made a mistake, you regret it now, but you can't change it. The best you can do is start THIS SECOND eating the way you know you have to in order to meet your weight loss goals. You CAN do it and you will be sooooo glad that you did.
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