Bee,
I hear ya, I’ll eat if I’m nervous or emotional about something. I think some people love to stress other people out just to see if they can get a rise out of them. Bullies have been around for a long time and they come in all kinds of packages.
We have to learn to protect ourselves other than with food and not let pathetic people try to hurt us.
Stepmothers can be B-I-A-T-C-H-E-S a lot of them are insecure and jealous of their new husbands previous wife and kids. They think by destroying them it make them stronger and in more control of their man. Men can be very blind and stupid sometimes.
The only thing to do with your stepmother is to forgive her and move on. Try to understand her reasons but don’t let her hurt you anymore. You and your father will always have the blood, blood relationship and that’s what stepmothers are usually jealous of. Best thing to do is say out loud her name and say, “I forgive you” a couple of time and you’re done then you won’t have to think about the hurt anymore. It’s a symbol of moving on.
REASONS:
Some second wives are mad because their husband spends money on someone else other than them and their relationship. Some women want their husbands to love them more than the man’s biological children and get jealous if they can’t have full control. Your father might not be aware of how your step mother has/is treating you. She may have tried to make you fat so that your father wouldn’t love you as much. Your stepmother may lie. People are strange and do strange things for love and money.
A lot of step moms fear that their marriage might end but they know
the father, child relationship will never end. It’s that kind of women that fears you might say something that would change your fathers love for her. It sounds like your ‘Step Mommy Dearest’ was trying to intimidate you at a young age and teach you not mess with her or else there would be consequences.
My BF worked with a guy who told him a story about his stepmother. As a skinny kid he said something to her which made her mad. She held him down and squirted a lot of dish soap into his mouth. It made him very ill and he couldn’t get out of bed for days. His father nursed him back to health for two days, mornings and nights and was Oh so nice and very worried.
The father didn’t want to take his own kid to the hospital because he loved his new wife so much and didn’t want her to get in trouble. About the 3rd or 4th day the kid got better and then the father took him on a shopping spree and spent about $500.00 on him to keep him quite. That’s when $500 was a lot of money.
I’ve even heard worse stories, years ago a guy told me a story about his own family. His father died when he was 10 and his mother remarried. When he was 14 years old his 16 year old sister told him that their step father was trying to molest her and their younger sister. Well, my friend decided to confront his mother and his step father “Lee”, about the situation. During the heated argument the mother sided with the stepfather and told her son, “Leave Lee alone he has to go to work in the morning.” So, there it is in a nut shell people can be very blind, ignorant and stupid and sometimes willingly.
When I turned 19 one of the hardest lessons I ever learned was that adults don’t always act like adults and life isn’t fair. For some reason I though the rest of the world was different from people like my Aunt, well it isn’t. It’s rare to find sane people these days. It’s a buyer beware kind of world and a hand shake isn't any good anymore.
Your life can be what you make it. Surround yourself with people and things that make you happy. You may not have control of what others do but you do have control over your own life and your own mind. We all have to keep our chins up and march on; it’s a jungle out there.
Best Wishes,
Kit
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Compulsive Overeating and How to Stop It
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“Here are some of his tips:
• Structure your eating -- knowing when and how you're going to eat. That plan helps you avoid the situations or foods that trigger overeating and establishes new eating patterns to replace destructive ones.
• Set rules, such as not eating between meals. If you know you're not going to eat something, he says, your brain won't be as stimulated to steer you to that food.
• Change the way you think about food. Instead of looking at a huge plate of french fries and thinking about how good it will make you feel, he advises saying that it's twice as much food as you need, and will make you feel bad. "Once you know you're being stimulated and bombarded," Kessler says, "you can take steps to protect yourself."
• Learn to enjoy the foods you can control.
• Rehearse how you'll respond to cues that set you up to overeat.”
chickadee32 , 05-11-2011 01:41 AM
joyfulloser , 05-13-2011 12:26 PM
I'm gonna bookmark them all! Thanks again!
Bumblebee224 , 05-14-2011 07:24 PM
I haven't been doing very good food wise.. ever since mothers day I've been eating too much and going out to eat way too much. But now I am facing the consequences for all that.. I realised its really not worth it at all, to eat like that. So I'm back and counting calories again!