connerash - Once upon a time, near my heaviest weight, I announced to my now-hubs then-boyfriend that I was tired of being fat. While holding a potato chip bag and a tub of cottage cheese for dip. He pointed out to me that saying I was tired of being fat while holding a bag of chips and a tub of cottage cheese was not very convincing. Many days later, after throwing said chips and cheese at his head, I realized his point - and realized that he loved me enough to know that I was miserable, know that I was in denial, and know that he was gonna have to get a tub of cottage cheese lobbed at his skull to help me effectively. My point is - can you talk to him? Can you tell him that this is *it*, this is *the* time, and make him understand - and make yourself keep your word to him? Try it. There may be flying cottage cheese, but that kind of honesty in marriage is really kind of amazing.



Hubs recently physically restrained me in the grocery from a package of dulce de leche cookies. I was glad we were nearly alone in the aisle, because I was really, really struggling to get at them. I was dragged on my heels for several feet. I appreciated it. I also appreciated getting those cookies a few days later as a gift. Sort of. He was trying to cheer me up... <sigh>
We have to review the plan with him. Yoga cheers us up. Repeat. Yoga cheers us up.

Mine is very supportive. He cooks dinner and does homework duty with the kids while I work out. Cooks for me. Makes sure I have water. Encourages to work out when I don't want to.

I have talked and don't want to get the laughing response anymore. I'm just going to have to DO IT and prove him wrong. Once he see's that I'm serious I know I'll get support but right now I've got to do this all on my own... and with the support of you guys of course!

My hubby is very supportive since hes trying to lose weight too Hes willing to try whatever it is I come with including yoga and pilates! Hes also a partner in crime which can be bad..wish he would be the one with the motivation sometimes hehe.

My boyfriend is very supportive of me but I've been on this diet thing before (of course) and he is skeptical that I will continue with it. He tells me he gives me a month. Well he is quitting smoking on January 1st and I tell him I am giving him a week. In ways it is discouraging and in ways it is more motivation to prove him wrong. He is thin, weighs 175 and I keep telling him I will weigh as much as him at Valentines Day. and bygoshbegolly I WILL!

p.s. he kills me though because he is 6'1 175 and eats my fat free things and all my healthy food! kills me he eats like that when he is that thing. grr!

I couldn't ask for a better husband when it comes to this. He dances around and gives me hugs and high fives when I lose a pound, and hugs me and tells me I'm sexy no matter what when I gain a pound. He helps me pick out menus for the week with food that fits into my calorie budget while still satisfying his taste buds, and compliments almost every meal I make (in his defense, even the dogs didn't want the pumpkin and sage pasta!).

He didn't argue when I told him I would prefer to not have to cook meat for him. He didn't argue when I threw out all of the dairy. He's even adopted a WWMD policy at work, before he gets his lunch he asks himself what I would eat. Sometimes he does well, sometimes not so much, but he's always excited to tell me that he ate a huge salad and a plate of veggies for lunch.

He's also eaten tofu, is starting to be ok with mushrooms, and actually requested eggplant the other day.

He's my rock.

Its so nice to see all the supportive husbands (and wives ) out there! Pat on the back for them!

My husband is the reason I started this whole thing. He wanted to lose weight last year at Christmas. I started cooking more and better to accommodate him and realized I could lose weight, too.

We're a team. He's the hoss, though, and I'm just along for the ride.

ETA:
connerash - I have to admit, I was not terribly supportive in the beginning. His efforts and successes are what motivated me. So you can be that in your family. He initiated a change for all of us. My kids haven't had fast food in at least a month, probably longer. Which is a big change, we used to be a drive through nightly kind of family

connerash - You can do it!!!! After the first 10 or 20, get something slinky to wear, and play coy, like you don't know he's ooogling you twice as hard as he used to.

My husband is thin and has never had a weight problem. He has never made any comments about my weight - very loving, thoughtful man. As I lost weight before there were many comments about how great I looked and that special look in his eyes. I gained back much of my weight, but he never complained. I told him yesterday that I am back on a diet again, and he seemed to be happy ... but not so much as to insult me about my current weight. He's easy about food because he eats the healthy stuff I fix ... when I don't choose healthy meals, he just fixes something for himself - no complaints. I think he will be happy with my effort to lose weight again.

me and my hubby are certainly supportive of each other.. He was slightly over weight when we first got together and by that I mean he could have stood to loose maybe 15lbs not much at all. so pre me he never really had a weight problem. and now like me he's obese.. so we are in the same boat now. we can be each others rocks or each others partners in crime.. If one of us is doing good we are both doing good if one of us is not doing good neither of us are on plan. It's nice that he is supportive he's happy and compliments me when I cook yummy low cal meals. and has been willing to add a number of new foods into his menu that previously he would have refused to even try a bite of (he's very picky eater) so I'm glad he's been more open to try new foods. there are some he still refuses to eat but he will at least try them now. He's happy and proud of me when I loose weight and drag myself to the gym when I don't want to.

My husband agreed to let me get the body bugg! I have been wanting one for over a year now and he finally said babygirl just go buy it! Its expensive so I would talk about how I wanted one but didnt want to spend the money.... he justified it by talking about how great I have been doing losing weight (even though I have gained) and how great I did in my college classes that ended a few weeks ago (3 A's one B). So I bought it last night and so far am loving it!

Ok, I have read this thread with interest because I have a bit of a "husband" support issue.

I am not married, but my friend's husband is so supportive and interested in my weight loss that I'm truly suprised she hasn't decked him by now. Although I'm about 6 inches taller than his wife, we probably wore the same size when I started down this road in April. He has been so vocal in supporting me including noticing my body changes in more detail than I have that I really suspect it's starting to bother her. She swears that it doesn't and I have talked to him privately about toning down the compliments, but I also know they had a pretty serious fight after he suggested that he join me on a hike that she wouldn't be able to keep up with us.

So, does it bother you if your husband's comment on another woman's weight loss? Or am I reading too much into this?

Caryesings

It would totally bother me if my husband did this all the time. I am totally not a jealous person and trust my husband and would be fine if he told you ( for instance) when he saw you that you looked great or he could see you had lost weight but it sounds like he is degrading his wife in the process of lifting you up and that is not right

My husband is naturally thin and he has that "normal" trait I desperately desire: the ability to eat when he is hungry and stop before he's full. Oh how I'm jealous. He naturally craves healthy food and naturally dislikes processed food (oh god how I hate him lol). All in all he's a good influence on me, I'm less likely to overeat or overcook because of him.

I do wish he enjoyed fitness activities though. He gets plenty of exercise since he walks to work and everywhere he goes, he's no couch potato. But he doesn't like planned exercise or organized fitness. He's not into playing sports, or bike riding, or tennis, or anything that I would enjoy doing with a partner and that can be a total downer. I stay pretty motivated on my own but I wish we had planned physical activity together.