My boyfriend used to be able to eat whatever he wanted, all the time, because he's tall (6'4") but lately, after hitting his thirties, the junk food and sweets are definitely starting to show. He's better about not having crappy food in the house (or at least out for me to see) but sometimes it's hard to coordinate dinner with him. If I want grilled fish, he wants it breaded and fried. A light dinner for me isn't enough for him. So you know what I did? I started cooking for myself and being selfish for the time being, while I'm working on my weight loss. If he wants what I'm having, sure, but anything else is his deal and if he wants to prepare it differently, be my guest.
I think too much of the time my eating has been influenced by his, and ladies, if I ate as much as he did, I would balloon in a couple of weeks. We need to concentrate on our own needs and not be tempted/influenced by our SO's!
This is really judgmental of me to say, but I wish my bf would exercise, even just a little bit. He doesn't do anything and by that I mean, nothing at all. And on top of that there's the junk food and high calorie meals and the worst, SODA all the time. We are living two different lifestyles under one roof and it's really tough for me sometimes...
My husband is horrible. He's mostly supportive of my efforts, but sometimes he just doesn't get it. Like we'll be eating something for dinner that I'm baking, instead of frying...like chicken breast, or potatoes. HE wants 'em fried, while I know it's better to bake them. Or I'll try to make something without meat, and he just can't take it.
Lately he's bad about snacking during the day, at work. I'll make him lunch and all, and he'll eat his sandwiches, chips and breakfast stuff. THEN stop and get a pack of donuts or a Snicker bar. Or a corn dog, or something like that. He's also started eating more after dinner (as if he isn't full already). Like the other night we ate chicken fajitas, and he had three big ones, with some rice and beans. THEN he ate a big bowl of cereal before bed.
He knows he's not hungry anymore, but he will always clean his plate no matter what, or eat after dinner, just because it's THERE. No exercise, either...other than what he gets at work.
He's 6'2" and 275 pounds...needs to lose some weight, for sure.
So yesterday DH ate 6000 calories... He's 6'3" 170 lbs.
Does any one else have a DH that doesn't realize that eating oreos really slowly making "yummy" noises in my face IS NOT nice and not a good way to get lovin?
*sigh* Let me hear your pain ladies.
I figure he realized it pretty quick :-) I don't believe in "punishing", but if it ruins your mood, it ruins your mood.
hubby eats junk seriously
Gatorade and donuts for breakfast
Sausage / Hot dog / brat or somthing of that nature for lunch with chips and mountain dew or if he's out fast food nice big bacon burger.
Dinner must be meat potatoes and bread.
Lets not for get the icecream sandwiches or a 5 serving bowl of icecream or brownies.
I used to give in (which is why I weigh what I do) however now knowing what I know. it really makes me ill just watching him eat this stuff.
My DH decided on his own about a year ago to drop some weight. Therefore he switched from triple-bacon-chili-cheeseburgers, fries, and an extra-humonuous shake to a mere double-bacon-chili-cheeseburger, large shake, and fries. Needless to say, he dropped twenty pounds without noticing it. Makes me furious.
Actually, he's really good about eating veggies, although he just won't eat fruit. He didn't eat it growing up and won't eat it now. He's supportive of me losing weight, and when he gets a bad-food craving, has it at lunch when I'm not around.
GRRR my bf eats whatever he wants. he use to be 5'8" and 160#'s football player, yummy, but now he's a bit more and a bit chubby. I'm on ww and asked him if he wanted to go on it with me and he laughed. All he has to do to lose weight is play raquet ball once a week and he drops 15 pounds a month! GRR Makes me so mad!! He is sweet in that he always tells me how beautiful and sexy i am, which i hardly believe, but he ensures me that he's head over heals for me and can not get enough of me. whatever... i wish i could eat like him, and like lostchick that's how i ended up here by giving in to his eating habbits and of course mostly from my back injury. uhhggg men anyways... ya know?!
My DH pretty much eats what he wants...always has. In the last couple of years, however, he's put on about 20 extra pounds. He's pretty good about not keeping things in the house that are too much of a temptation.
I've been at this round of losing weight for nearly 7 monthes now. I don't keep (or allow) cookies or ice cream in the house - as I couldn't not stay out of them. I think that DH realized that this is the longest time ever I've stayed consistently true to living and eating healthfully he now realized that I will eat in a certain manner and don't want him bringing tempations in the house.
Of course, we'll have special occasions where they'll be cake, pie desserts, etc. After the event......out they go!
We pretty much are eating the same suppers - sometimes he'll eat more or put butter on his veggies and such.
Sometimes we'll go on a Cookie Date - to the coffee shop. I get a cookie and coffee and he'll get some sweets.
No, my dh is a very disciplined guy! He is more likely to overeat on rice or oriental nooles than sweets but he does like a small sweet treat now and then. He esp likes pastries. in recent years he has developed diabetes (me too) and he has done very well at cutting back on his rice etc. He has never been a big snack eater. His idea of a snack is a small handful of nuts or raisins, or maybe a small candy bar or pc of candy or a 1/2 cinnamon roll about 9 or 10 pm. Then he puts the other 1/2 in a plastic bag for the next day or two days away! Not me, if it's there I have to eat it til it's gone. But that's my problem. I'm getting better about it...used to hate it when he would at something and tempt me, but now I realize that I made my choices when resulted in me becoming overweight, and I now have to learn discipline. I can't blame anyone else for it.
ETA: My dh has never really been very overweight. Just gained a few pounds as he got older, but since the diabetes dx he has gotten down very slim. He has always and continues to be very active. So how did he end up with me? LOL
OMG.
My DBF eats like a HORSE.
He looooves the food I cook so I often just cook a LOT of a healthy meal, but his portions are literally 3-4x times mine. and this is after a day where he's had 32oz of coffee, 2 cans of v8, 3 juice boxes, 2 single serving things of candy (like two packets of two reeses cups), 3 servings of breakfast cereal, a can of soup, a pudding cup, a fruit cup, and 4 snack cheeses. oh, and i think he still buys lunch off the truck some days in addition to this, even though he claims not to. after dinner he'll have a giant bowl of ice cream and like 10 oreos.
oh, and he's 38, 5'10" and i think 165lbs... he wears size 32 jeans and they're loose is all i know for sure.
oh, and he wonders why the grocery bill is so high!!
My SO has a completely different relationship with food than I do. He can, and does, eat whatever he wants and doesn't gain an ounce. It's like is body is incapable of storing fat--he is 5'10" and weighs 135. For a long time, I weighed more than him and I'm only 5'4".
But, he's just not that into junk food. He rarely eats fast food; he'd much rather eat whatever healthy recipe I've prepared for dinner. His choices aren't great--today's lunch was homemade quesadilla and chips--but they aren't terrible either. I pick up Indian meals (samosas and parathas) for him at the farmers' market, he eats frozen meals (not the low cal ones), and he'll make sandwiches for himself. For breakfast, he'll sometimes have cereal (usually Total or something similar), a breakfast bar, or a pop tart. On the weekends, he'll have a pastry that I pick up for him at the farmers' market along with bacon. He doesn't eat much in the way of sweets. I buy chocolate covered espresso beans for him and he eats about 4 per day (I could easily eat the whole container in a couple of days). A chocolate bar will last him a month. And he almost always eats a healthy dinner because he is too lazy to make his own (or go out and buy his own), so he eats what I cook and I cook healthy, low cal meals.
He also eats much smaller portions than I do. I like to eat a lot of food and really bulk up on veggies. So even though I eat less in terms of calories, I probably eat more in terms of volume. My SO has always had great portion control and he rarely overeats. If he gets down to the last few bites and he's full, he'll put them in the fridge (and then forget about them until they go bad--I have to remind him to eat his leftovers all the time), whereas I always clean my plate.
In some ways, it's nice that he can eat food that I can't. For example, I love parathas but they are way high in calories (I don't know for sure, but I estimate around 800 calories each) so I can only buy them for myself once in a great great while as a very very special treat. But I buy them for him every week and he always gives me a small bite. And there's no question of me going crazy and eating the whole thing because then I'd be eating his lunch, which would make him pretty PO'd (I'd be PO's if he ate my lunch). Same thing with the pastries I buy him from the farmer's market--I always get a little bite. So it gives me a chance to have a small taste of food that I otherwise wouldn't get to have at all.
Last edited by BlueToBlue; 04-28-2008 at 09:44 PM.
oh, and he wonders why the grocery bill is so high!!
lol Mine too, I have to sneak out and go to the grocery w/o him! he buys tons of junk and tells me that it's for 2 weeks of snacks... LIES!! It lasts him 2 nights maybe!
My husband is 6'5 and about 210.. not an ounce of fat on him.. in a normal workday he eats 2 bacon sandwiches for breakfast... takes 4 ham, lettuce, tomatoe, and cucumber sandwiches to work along with a 2 liter bottle of coke, 4 candy bars, a banana and eats every bit.. then for dinner he eats a huge plate of whatever we are having while i sit and stare at my desert plate half full lol... then when we took some pics of him to put on myspace he complained he looks too skinny.. (he is on the thin side)... but... he doesnt eat it in front of me, and he makes his own sandwiches for work cause if i make them i get hungry lol.. he does try to be supportive and help me out that way... i just dont get how he can eat so much and stay so thin,...
In some ways, it's nice that he can eat food that I can't. For example, I love parathas but they are way high in calories (I don't know for sure, but I estimate around 800 calories each) so I can only buy them for myself once in a great great while as a very very special treat. But I buy them for him every week and he always gives me a small bite. And there's no question of me going crazy and eating the whole thing because then I'd be eating his lunch, which would make him pretty PO'd (I'd be PO's if he ate my lunch). Same thing with the pastries I buy him from the farmer's market--I always get a little bite. So it gives me a chance to have a small taste of food that I otherwise wouldn't get to have at all.
So true. I had just one chili cheese fry today :-) OK, it wasn't *really* enough, but it was surprisingly close to enough.
lol Mine too, I have to sneak out and go to the grocery w/o him! he buys tons of junk and tells me that it's for 2 weeks of snacks... LIES!! It lasts him 2 nights maybe!
mine doesn't set foot in the grocery store -he's got no idea how much things cost... he thinks we should be able to live on $40 a week even though i go through the reciepts with him and show him- worst thing is that i work for whole foods, get a discount and i STILL have to go to the "real" grocery store to buy food for HIM because he just won't eat some of the substitutions. I buy him two weeks at a time and tell him every week the treats have to last but they NEVER do. it's monday, i REFUSE to shop until friday and he's already whining because he's gone through 4 bags of chips (at almost $3 a bag!!!) and a gallon of ice cream in the last week!
My partner is two inches taller than I am and weighs 20 pounds less. She can do well eating mostly vegetarian with lots of carbohydrate foods. If I eat that way I blow up like a balloon. So, we each prepare our own meals. Sometimes we decide to make a meal together, but day-to-day we go our separate ways with food.
I don't know how you women with spoiled-kid husbands manage to keep going! I guess you can figure out about how long a man would last who wanted me to go shopping 'cause he ran out of chips...
