[free1]

CONGRATS....I think this is more of a statement on how we see and view weight. Everyone is striving for the 110s, 120s. However, we can look and be perfectly fit and healthy at higher weights that may not necessarily fall into the guidelines.

[k8yk]

I say "Yup, this is what 170 pounds looks like on a 5'8" woman. Isn't it FABULOUS!"
It's just a number.

[MariaMaria]

Originally Posted by free1

Everyone is striving for the 110s, 120s.

Nope.

[Kelli21]

Originally Posted by free1

Everyone is striving for the 110s, 120s.

Not really. I want to be 135. If I ever were to be in the 120s or below I'd be trying to gain weight.

[kait628]

Congrats on all of your hard work! I hate to be negative but I think some "friends" can feel threatened for whatever reason by another's weight loss and the "you weigh THAT much!" comments can be a passive-aggressive attempt to make themselves feel better It can be irritating but I just try to ignore it and focus on how good I feel.

[sontaikle]

Originally Posted by Kelli21

Not really. I want to be 135. If I ever were to be in the 120s or below I'd be trying to gain weight.

I thought that too. Then I found out my scale was weighing me in 10lbs heavier. So I was in the low 120s and didn't realize it! Whoops!

I actually like it here I'm glad my scale was messed up.

[EagleRiverDee]

135 is my goal, too. Anywhere 125-135 would be fine with me. Anything less and I think I'd look underweight.

[losermom]

My brother told me recently, and I feel it to be true, that the majority of people are so used to seeing others at an overweight/obese weight that seeing someone that is within a "normal" BMI is a shock to their eyes. Everyone thinks I weigh in the low 120s and are amazed to hear that it's closer to 135-140. That's the beauty of long-term, consistent weight training.

[MarishaMaromi]

I definitely think that was a compliment, even if it was bit odd. She was just saying you look great!

[eliza422]

I broke my rule (never say an actual number) last week with one of my best friends.

She was diagnosed with diabetes last year, and has done an awesome job adjusting...and she lost about 60 pounds pretty effortlessly.

We went out to dinner and she asked me about losing weight. She had made a general comment a while ago because my loss has become pretty noticeable...and she pressed me for a number.

I relented and told her that I'm down 75 pounds and that I still have a long way to go (I didn't say exactly how much) and she didn't believe me that I was "that big" before! I started my WL journey a little over 2 years ago at 304...I didn't tell here where I started.

It just goes to show that it's almost impossible to tell just by looking at how much someone weighs. Her perception was probably colored by a) looking at me through the eyes of love (which is very sweet) and b) I've been going so slowly that it would be really hard to remember exactly how I looked 2 years ago!

I do have a great picture that I have identified as my "official" before picture. Right when I started (I'm on the Jenny Craig program) I had to go to Egypt for 3 weeks for work and I have some pictures from when I was in Alexandria with my coworkers. It's a pretty horrifying picture and when I get to my goal I'm going to have a picture taken in the same pose.

I *may* show my friend the before picture just to prove that I did have "that much" to lose...

Sorry to ramble a bit! But I was rereading this thread and realized I had broken my own rule so I thought I would 'fess up!

[Nadya]

Just try to ignore comments like that and maybe consider taking a look at who you are spending your time around. Personally, I got rid of the one person who made a smartassed comment to me and have barely said a word to him since. I realized that he's an arrogant, rude person and I feel better off without him.

Before I decided I wanted to be fit and not just thin, I settled for walking rather than jogging or running. But one night, partway into my walk, I thought, "I'm sick of this...I want off the treadmill...when can I stop?" I had to pick a point that I could stop at - a time or a distance? I went for the mile and it took me over 16 minutes to finish it. I had already been walking for like 10 so that's not a surprise.

When my "friend" asked me how long it took, he said, "Ouch, I could have done it in 10 and I don't even run much". I called him on it, said to show me, and he came up with some excuse for why he wasn't able to. Bull! This guy is a total chub, he couldn't do it in 10 if he was being chased!

After that, as he sat eating his sub and greasy chips, he teased me for eating "rabbit food". This was after he was also kind of a jerk with the cashier when we checked out and every rude, arrogant, or mean comment he'd ever made came rushing back and I realized......

........I really hate this guy.

[Tripmama]

Igorance.