Your advice please.............
Dh came home from work tonight and told me one of my friends had
passed away while in surgery, her heart stopped, she was only 45. (did not know she was having surgery)
She had health problems all her life from diabetes, undergoing a
kidney transplant and then lossing both her legs to circulation
problems. She never let people know if she was not feeling well,
always up and helping out when and where ever she could a wonderful
inspiration to us all!!!!!!!!!
Anyway I feel so bad because I have not seen here in about two years
but kept intouch through email, she raised Bostons and pugs and
wanted me to come see her new litters but I never made it there.
DH
was afraid I would bring one home and I do not go out much with the
fibro thing. Keep pretty much to myself, just easier that way. Well
I feel terrible that I never paid her a visit and the last email I
had from her was in April and she had fallen and hurt her hand and
told everyone she could not type anymore for awhile. I knew
something must be wrong the longer it went that I did not her form
her but I didn't bother to call, cause I felt stupid asking if she
was ok on the phone, but I did send her cards and email all the time,
just did not here back from her. I'm not much of a friend I guess..I
should have done something for her. I even told her once that since
I do not go out much or hear from anyone in town much someone could
die and I would have to read about it in the paper. (we both
laughed) I just wish I had taken the time and made the effort to
visit her in person.
So my question is what do we do for the surving family, husband and 2
grown children. Is there something we can get them to remember her
by or wait to see what the paper says for donnations. (she use to be
a member of the emergeny squad in town and I'm sure they will be
mentioned). I'm not sure I can bring myself to go to the visitation,
I have not been to any in a very long time, the crowds bother me so
terribly, and I'm afraid the family will think if I do make the
effort I should have done it before she passed away. I'm really
upset over all this. When our children we small we were best friends
and saw each other often. How could I let the Fibro take away my life (just can't deal with life anymore..that is why I keep to myself and garden)
(I'm sitting here sobbing now)................... Help me please and
keep the family in your prayers they have been through so much!