I joined this site a few years ago, I was posting in the 40's area. But I fell off the wagon and got run over by it.
I'm a stress eater. And the past December my life went into over drive stress. My beloved husband of 22 years suddenly died, heart attack!! He had high blood pressure and a weak heart but we thought that every thing was okay, he was seeing the doctor and watching what he ate. The grief is still very raw and I know that trying to "diet" is not good and adds stress. But I have 4 kids, youngest is almost 11 and the oldest is 21, that need me and I feel I am eating myself into an early grave. So I have to start somewhere. I get plenty of exercise, hubby was the only driver, so I have to walk everywhere. I walk with my daughter to school, 30minutes there and back. Also all shopping I have to walk to the store and back. But eating is out of control, I just eat for the sake of eating, most of the time I'm not hungry. So that is where I need support.
I look forward to making friends here.
It just popped into my head that when you are up to it, you might want to learn to drive. I always find the fact that I can drive comforting. I have never, ever done this, but when life seems out of control, I think to myself that I could always just drive away from everything.
I have a friend who had a driving phobia. Over time she worked on it with a therapist and ultimately took up driving again. Her life was much easier when she could drive.
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Jackie - I am so sorry to hear that your husband passed away. My father passed away when my mother was in her 40's and had 3 dependent children and it was very difficult. She also gained a lot of weight, probably from stress eating, too. It's good that you do a lot of walking. Good for your health, but it would help if you learned to drive. I learned with a driving school. It costs, but you learn fast with them, and it doesn't put any stress on a family member trying to teach you.
This is a good place to come. You will get a lot of information and support. I would say get involved with something to take your mind off food, but a single mother with young children doesn't lack something to do. LOL If there is a grief support facility in your area, maybe you could get some help there. Ask at your local church or ask your doctor.
I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you have come back and are working towards taking care of yourself. Being stronger and feeling better physically will help you get through this.
Thank you for the greetings.
I would love to learn to drive but I live in Japan and my Japanese still isn't good enough!!! So first I have to learn Japanese then learn how to drive. But I'm enjoying my walks, on the way to school I get chance to talk to my daughter and on the way time it's a chance to think things out!
Now I have to figure out how to stop eating at night!!!!
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to you Jackie. And thoughts and prayers ~ so sorry for your loss. This is a good supportive place ~ wonderful people. Glad you have joined us.
