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  • I joined this site a few years ago, I was posting in the 40's area. But I fell off the wagon and got run over by it.
    I'm a stress eater. And the past December my life went into over drive stress. My beloved husband of 22 years suddenly died, heart attack!! He had high blood pressure and a weak heart but we thought that every thing was okay, he was seeing the doctor and watching what he ate. The grief is still very raw and I know that trying to "diet" is not good and adds stress. But I have 4 kids, youngest is almost 11 and the oldest is 21, that need me and I feel I am eating myself into an early grave. So I have to start somewhere. I get plenty of exercise, hubby was the only driver, so I have to walk everywhere. I walk with my daughter to school, 30minutes there and back. Also all shopping I have to walk to the store and back. But eating is out of control, I just eat for the sake of eating, most of the time I'm not hungry. So that is where I need support.
    I look forward to making friends here.
  • to you Jackie. And thoughts and prayers ~ so sorry for your loss. This is a good supportive place ~ wonderful people. Glad you have joined us.
  • So sorry about your husband. Glad you have joined us here.
  • I'm sorry for your loss Jackie. The members here are great, so you've come to an excellent place for support and to meet friends.

    Take care,

    Rob
  • Jackie, I am so sorry for your loss.

    It just popped into my head that when you are up to it, you might want to learn to drive. I always find the fact that I can drive comforting. I have never, ever done this, but when life seems out of control, I think to myself that I could always just drive away from everything.

    I have a friend who had a driving phobia. Over time she worked on it with a therapist and ultimately took up driving again. Her life was much easier when she could drive.
  • Jackie - I am so sorry to hear that your husband passed away. My father passed away when my mother was in her 40's and had 3 dependent children and it was very difficult. She also gained a lot of weight, probably from stress eating, too. It's good that you do a lot of walking. Good for your health, but it would help if you learned to drive. I learned with a driving school. It costs, but you learn fast with them, and it doesn't put any stress on a family member trying to teach you.

    This is a good place to come. You will get a lot of information and support. I would say get involved with something to take your mind off food, but a single mother with young children doesn't lack something to do. LOL If there is a grief support facility in your area, maybe you could get some help there. Ask at your local church or ask your doctor.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you have come back and are working towards taking care of yourself. Being stronger and feeling better physically will help you get through this.
  • Thank you for the greetings.
    I would love to learn to drive but I live in Japan and my Japanese still isn't good enough!!! So first I have to learn Japanese then learn how to drive. But I'm enjoying my walks, on the way to school I get chance to talk to my daughter and on the way time it's a chance to think things out!
    Now I have to figure out how to stop eating at night!!!!