Short version- I have had many men in recent years here in KY (I have only lived here for 7 years) that are horridly blunt, express a little interest, jump into talking about sex. I am wondering if everywhere men look at over 50, need to lose some weight as old/fat therefore hard up? I started talking to a man on campus, another "older student". I wasn't interested, I talk to all kinds of people, but he was kind of weird, talking about religion and stuff, and don't ask me why, I gave him my number. (Again, I have given out my contact info to other students, it's nice to have someone to ask about this class or that instructor, etc.) Then, after, I realize he was kind of asking me out (it was a very tough week, my mind was elsewhere). He calls, I explain I am not interested, do the "it's me, not you, I just don't date" thing. He then starts talking about that being fine, friends with benefits, etc. I actually dropped my phone. I was worried about hurting his feelings, and he is talking like that!! I did tell him oh no, yuck, ba bye.
So, anyone, single or not, if you have information about men in other parts of the country acting this way, at this stage in life, please clue me in. This isn't the first time I have been spoken to like a piece of meat, and it didn't used to be that way, but I lived in other states. Is this just the way it is? Sorry for the long post.

I think men, women, kids, teens, and all other groups fall into all sorts of catagories as a whole. By that I mean there are nice men, rude men, nice women, rude women, etc. I really haven't noticed a stereotypical group in any catagory. Rudeness is certainly not restricted to the Age 50+ bunch!

Beyond that, though, I am sorry you had the experience you did with this particular cad. YAY for you, hanging up on him! Hopefully, the next man you meet, rather it's as a classmate or a helpmate, will be more gentlemanly. Don't let one bad apple spoil the entire bushel.

The reason I asked is it isn't the first time. I was trying really hard to not just adopt a bad attitude toward all the men in this area. Blunt does not describe it, but three times determines a pattern. Just thought there might be other women on here who have been similarly shocked by blunt expectations of .....

I don't think "fat" has anything to do with it - maybe it is about age - age and, as Jane pointed out, the individual (man) as opposed to men in general. BUT, having said that, I have to say, too, that after my divorce some 14 years ago - I was 50 then - I experienced my share of idiots who would take me to dinner and then expect to finish the evening in one of our beds. I just basically said "Uh-uh. Dinner wasn't that good, buddy." But in thinking about it, I'm not so sure that it's even an AGE thing, either. It seems to be more a societal thing, really. I think that maybe if we're over fifty (maybe even over 40) we're not in the current groove where sex has become more like a goodnight kiss than it ever was when we were younger. Certainly nowadays, even young teens (I'm thinking the Miley Cyrus group - that's who my 9-year-old granddaughter idolizes) seem to radiate sex. Men our age - especially single ones - are probably happy to jump on the bandwagon right along with the young people while we women would, for the most part, prefer an actual relationship prior to leaping into bed. Jane also noted that people aren't all the same, and that's true, too. My now-husband was respectful and considerate from the day we met, plus being lots of fun to be with and really interesting to talk to, so no, don't paint them all with the same brush, but at the same time, don't give them the opportunity to behave badly, either. Cut them off at the first sign of entitlement, and hold out for one of the good guys. They're a bit scarce, but they do exist. On the other hand, my attitude was always that after that horrid first marriage, I didn't care if I never had another man, so I think I may have been radiating "impossible to pin down" vibes. Seems that men like a challenge, eh? One suggestion - give out your email address, not your phone number. It's easier to delete an email if you don't like the content than it is to deal with a phone conversation. Getting an email from somebody also lets you determine how literate they are. That was always a big item for me.

Have a great weekend!

ellabella, thanks so much for your comments. I had been out of the dating scene for a long time, (single, just not wanting that complication while I still had kids at home), and then this kind of stuff, but the first few times I experienced it, it was in a different town, and everybody there was jumping on each other (well, not everybody, but it was pretty common, even for a percentage of married people). Glad to hear (and sorry too) that you have seen this behavior. Makes me feel better, and worse Guess I have finally lived long enough to be considered a prude. OK with me though. So glad you found a good one, I will too (positive thinking). What floors me is, well too much to go on about. Thanks again!