My husband and I went to dinner with friends the other night and we hadn't seen them since I lost all of my weight. The last time I saw them I was so embarrassed as I have known them for so long and really had let myself go over the last couple of years.
To be honest, if I hadn't lost this weight in the past 8 months I probably would have found a reason to decline the invite. I get awful anxiety worrying about where we are seated (such as a booth), making a fattening choice off the menu, declining dessert even though my appearance always suggested the answer would be an automatic yes. You get the picture.
So after getting compliments from my friends that I looked really good (no specific reference to weight but they already knew I was sensitive about it in the past), I was quite happy and felt really confident in myself that night (regardless of them, I mean I loved my outfit and my hair cooperated, etc.).
Then it happens...my girlfriend goes into this big song and dance about her unhealthy eating, how she eats so bad because of her work schedule, doesn't make the right choices, goes out too much, etc. etc.!!! I had noticed she gained a couple of pounds but who am I to ever ever judge anyone?! I would never say anything esp. knowing how easy it is to gain weight and then so hard to try to get it off, plus trying to make the right choices can be so hard. And, I still have so much left to lose.
I just felt so accomplished for once (or maybe accomplished isn't the right word)...but I never had anyone justify their weight to me as I was always the biggest one around lately. I didn't say too much, more nodding than anything. I didn't know what to say without sounding preachy things like "My nutritionist says...." or "My doctor told me....". I just let her get the feelings off her chest and then...wait for it...she placed an order for nachos for the table. I didn't eat ONE, no way no how. They looked good, my size 16 jeans looked better (to me!).