thanks guys for your input and encouragment
Annie just cause your 50 does that mean you have to leave us?
PP - sorry to hear you fell, ouch!
guac- yeah I so get the not wanting to binge cause how you will feel after and that has helped in the past.
Nemom - hubby was getting SSD - disability when i married him they cut him off in Jan 08 and we have been appealing ever since, we just had a hearing before a judge in April and got the results a month ago and they denied him. We had a laywer and everything. The lawyer put in an appeal on the desicion and we wont know anything for a minimum of 18 months. I have to give him credit he has tried many jobs and only lasted a day or two.
I am feeling emotianally better today finally.
On the one side hubby smokes but I binge overeat how are they different really, I quite smoking 15 years ago and know how hard it can be. He has overcome drinking and he really is a great guy relationship wise, it is just the smoking that is difficult.
We are looking into buying a duplex with my daughter and her family, this would be affordable for both of us and there are a lot of new ones that are really nice and we would not have to pay condo fees. She lives a 5 min walk away right now so i guess it would be no different.