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good morning HAPPY 4THOF JULY
all i am real feeling this working thing LOL it has been a long time sence i have worked during the day i normaly go in the morning , come home , go in the afternoon come home and then i am done i work a total of 4 hours a day this camp thing i am putting in 6 to 8 hours straight not that i am complaining about the hours i have better time then the rest of the drivers (they hate me ) Not really but they say they do . the other drivers are getting late nights ---my ww friend has had 4 nights last week that she did not get home until 1 am and was out at 6 am the next day i told her that i would not do that i just dont do late nights .
The other thing is that i am missing my weight watchers group I am still going to my daughters with her and i am going to be weighting in at that meeting but it is not the same i really miss my Tuesday morning meeting and the people that go to it
I can't stand it, this heat is so oppressive. Last night I even woke up struggling to breathe, there just didn't seem to be any air in the room despite all the windows in the house being open including mine. I slept a lot this morning to catch up with last night's lost sleep, but it's still horribly hot. We haven't had it like this since I moved here and that's 19 years ago!! Even just walking around the house makes me feel exhausted because of the heat. BUT I am still going to set up my fan downstairs and try to exercise a little later
Nancy - I was about to say that it's perfectly ok to get into a book and not want to put it down until it's finished. I do that sometimes too. But then I read that you read for so long that you end up starving and eat all the wrong stuff and too much of it. So I am sorry but I have to agree with you, you have to cut down on your reading time, OR, have a load of low fat snacks handy for those times when you are caught up in your book!! No starving then, and no feeling the urge to binge
Kirsikka - sorry that you didn't get that nurse training job, is it something you could try for again at a later date? As for the job in the shop, I am sure you will do brilliantly at it. Half the time we worry so much about not being able to do something that we end up believing it. Just try to think positively and if nothing else works think of having that pay cheque at the end of the week
Have a wonderful time when you meet up with your friend, I have never eaten Japanese food, but it does sound cool that that is what you and your friend will be eating when you go for a meal.
Crock - I have every faith in you that you are going to stay strong. Did you intend to eat the SB way for the rest of your life, or do like Kayley and stick with it until you have lost the weight and then just maintain by counting calories? If it's the latter, well think of this rough patch as a time to practise living life off SB and either maintaining or losing the weight anyway. Ok so you hit a bump with those hot dogs, but it could have been so much worse, I know you won't see a gain at next WI. You can do it
Patti - I definitely understand that you couldn't exercise without your AC. I ony have my fan, but there is no way, especially these last few days that I could exercise without it blowing on me. I get hot enough on a normal day when I work out, but in this heat, I think I would end up passing out. It's just ridiculously hot Now that your AC is fixed I hope you get back on that treadmill today
I loved your small posts where you said hello to everybody, like when you said "oh and hello dogpaland ms. crockett andvilandra and valerie" Did you ever watch a TV show when you were a kid called Romper Room? I used to watch it in Australia and at the end of the show the lady looks through her magic mirror (straight into the camera) and asks her magic mirror to let her see all her 'friends' watching today. Then she goes on to say, ooh I can see Peter, and Mary, and David, and Ron, and Marian etc etc, and ends off with, and I can see YOU TOO. I was glad she said that because she NEVER said my name Anyway the way you said hi to everybody reminded me of that
Mel - you ramble on as much as you want, I love to read your posts, they are always so chatty. You didn't say what was spurting all that blood. Was it the tube, the bag, or your arm That's cool that you can give blood every 2 months. Here it's every 6 months, and now they won't even let me give mine because I had Ulcerative Colitis I was on the bone marrow register too, but not any more, it sucks. You wanna help people and then you aren't allowed. I understand why I can't but it still sucks
How much weight have you lost since the last time your family saw you? I am sure that they are going to notice the change in you and with all the compliments flying around you are going to be on a natural high for days
That's great that you put on a party for you staff, do you do all the organising yourself? I am hard pushed to put on a mini party for my kids on their birthdays lol, but to do one for 50, I could never do it. I am impressed
Glad the sunburn is feeling much better and that you cleverly stayed out of the sun and got some jobs done aroud the house instead of going back into the sun
Silentarctic - hello and I spotted you over on the TwoTown thread, and hoped you would post over here. Don't worry how sporadically you post, the point is that you know you can come here to vent, or to let us know how much weight you have lost We'll be here to offer hugs and cheers and to support you along your journey back to TwoTown, and then Onederland
Rkrs - I feel very sad for that patient that you saw, the 400 lb man who was dying. It's awful that he ended up like that, but I believe you were meant to see him. It gave you that kick you needed to realise that you needed to lose the weight to get yourself as healthy as possible. You have made an excellent start on your wight loss journey, you should be so proud of yourself. I am glad you found this group. I know it has made all the difference to me having everybody here to cheer on my weight loss, and to be here for when I will see a gain. I know they will urge me on so that I don't lose sight of my goal
Melissa - I know overtime sucks when it comes to being away from home, but like you said, your BF's wages are certainly going to be healthy. At least he is young and can cope with the work, time to get a nest egg made and then when he reaches the ripe old age of 30 he can say, nope, no more excessive overtime thank you
Sorry it's too hot for you to exercise, do you normally have hot days like that? We don't which is why I am just not handling them well!
By the way, as far as I know anybody can start a new thread, I did it and just carried on doing it when the need arises. Feel free to start a new one yourself when you see it's needed
Valerie - I type relatively fast, and yet by the time I finish a catch up post like this I find just like you, that everybody has left the building Do you click on preview post before you post it? I find if I do that and scroll down I get to see the last post and if it's a STOP posting post I know to copy and paste my mega writing effort and put it onto the next thread Or I see about 10 other people have written and I have to ammend my post to answer them too. All good fun though, I wouldn't have it any other way, I love this forum and all the wonderful people in it. I wonder if typing burns of calories Maybe that is why I have done so well on this particular diet, I spend so much time typing here
So happy to hear that you had such a great day, from working out, to paying your bills on time, brilliant
Annie -
Heather - I missed that post I think about how it's easier to count the posts if the thread changes at 30. I have broadband, but I still only have 15 posts per page come up, I find it easier to answer them 15 at a time when I am playing catch up, it's not so overwhelming
I would be happy either way with a huge long thread, or smaller ones, I still look at them 15 posts at a time
As for what you said about getting into Onderland not Wonderland, I know what you mean, but like you said, it will show just how far you have come with your diet, and also brings you that bit closer to your ultimate goal I get thrilled when I see my scales (dial ones) not go to the last number on them anymore, so I can just imagine how I feel when that needle is half way back around the dial towards the start
Claire - thanks for your input on the number of threads, much appreciated.
Glad you had a good day where the water drinking is concerned. I can't stand water, not the bottled stuff, not the stuff from the tap, not the stuff that I filter myself. I will drink it plain if I have no other option, but tend to put sugar free cordial (squash) in it instead. I drink about 8 pints a day sometimes, and just could not hack it if it was plain water. So good on you for actually having a day where you were enjoying drinking it
As for weighing, as most people will know I HATE to weigh, and wish I never had to do it. I used to weigh monthly but that came up to bite me on the butt when I had no loss one month and a gain the nex!. Perhaps if I had been weighing weekly I would have realised there was a problem. So I now weigh weekly. A lot of women here weigh daily, and more than once daily too. I couldn't hack that, but it suits them, and it may suit you. I guess all I can say is that if you want to weigh daily then be prepared for seeing silly fluid fluctuations. You might be down 1 lb one day, and up 1 lb tomorrow. If that won't get you down, then go for it. But like I said, weekly is my choice!
That little voice that you hear now and then is I guess something that is trying to get to your willpower. You have seen the Tom and Jerry cartoons haven't you where Tom has a devil on one shoulder telling him to eat the mouse, and an angel on the other one saying not to. Well your nasty voice is just that little devil trying to be rotten to you. They say good wins out over evil every time, so just give your little angel a bit of a push when it comes to fighting that devil! Remind yourself that you CAN do this, you can lose the weight, and remind yourself of all the benefits that will come from doing it. Kick that devil to the curb
Sassy - glad that you got your car fixed, a spark plug was the root of the problem, glad it was something simple!
I know some people might slate me for saying this, because I guess one treat can lead to 10. But I do like to think that if along our diet journey we feel the need to give in and have a sandwich and fries, or something else like that, we shouldn't feel guilty about it. It's the guilt that gets us to give up altogether. So you had the fries, ok, done, dusted and hopefully enjoyed. Now be a diet angel again and look forward to your WI and seeing a loss
Sharon - I am glad the colposcopy went ok and that you didn't need a biopsy taken. I hope when you have the results back you will get the all clear, that willl be one less worry for you.
You said that you fell asleep afterwards while looking after the boys, if you ask me that's a mix of having the procedure and depression. Glad you have got those meds, now let's just hope they start kicking in.
We have all done what you did on the weekend, not seen a loss and binged because of it. No it isn't going to help, but at the time it feels brilliant because it's like sticking two fingers up at the scales. You figure if you work hard at losing and then don't, why bother, and you enjoy eating like you did previously. Let's face it, many a diet fails because that happens. BUT you aren't letting that happen. You had your binge, you aren't happy about it, and you are back on track. At least you are still trying, you aren't giving in, and you should be proud of yourself for that You WILL get to goal Sharon, it's just tough for you lately because you have so much going on in your life that it makes it difficult to focus solely on your diet and exercise!
Mary - Sorry that you are missing your usual WW meeting, will you be able to get back to it, or keep on going to your daughter's group? It's nice that you two can go together though, so that's one good thing Good luck with your next WI
Kayley - hope you are having a good day. Did you know you numbered this thread 848
Ok I have finally caught up, so now it's time to go work out before lunch. So take care all,
LOL good thing I don't work today as I started a crock pot full of stuff too late so had to keep getting up in the night to babysit it and then started reading a novel so here it is at not 5 AM and I've been up for hours. Our library is not open today, which is why I made sure to go yesterday but I checked out about 10 books LOL. We have a neat system where I can go online and place a hold on any books in the entire system and request to pick them up at my branch so that makes a lot of stuff available! I hadn't been to the library in ages until last week... usually get stuff at yard sales and eBay... but am on a big money saving "kick" so reacquainted myself with it!!
Nancy I sure know what you mean about becoming overly involved in reading. I am the world's worst!! What are you reading?
Ammi, as to why I think the Omron HJ-112 is such a special pedometer... well let's just say it is the first one I bought that works, and I love the way it registers my steps. And I can just put it in my pocket, although that is one disadvantage... if I don't HAVE a pocket the clasp onto my waistband is too big and uncomfortable.
But first I bought one at Best Buy which was broken when I took it out of the package; back into the store for another one which lasted one day before it stopped working. So went to REI and bought a Sportsline which worked for a week or two before it stopped working... had THREE of them (and note these are $30 pedometers) none of which worked and eventually REI would not replace it and said they stopped carrying that brand because they had so many returns. THEN I bought an Oregon Scientific which worked for about a week; returned it and the replacement had a funny rattle and went out after less than 24 hours. Then I gave up and ordered the Omron from Amazon... had heard a lot of people here at 3FC recommend it. So far it has worked just great!
Hope everybody has a nice day!
Oh as for the threads... ya as much as all these multiple threads drive me up a wall I can live with it, especially if the longer ones make it difficult for some people to download. I am spoiled since I have a really fast connection now.
Ammi good morning.. lol yes i remeber romper room ! and i did sound that way didnt i? yes i am getting right on my treadmill soon as i get off here. i just have to have my ac because my windows are all painted shut and i cant open them so it was stifling hot in here. anyways no excuse now i will do my treadmill!
Hi Ladies - NOT a happy camper here. The scale was MEAN to me. After seeing a seemingly good mid-way point weigh-in on Saturday I was.....peeved.....to see only -1 on the scale this morning!! But I was perfectly OP all week....I've been perfectly OP for 7 weeks now! Well, I am NOT taking the -1....I am re-weighing in "normal" hours, lol. (I drank alot of water before bed, and slept only 4 hours, and its only 530am...so I think I'm gonna weigh around my usual time.) Maybe my body is holding on to some of that water still....hmmm....I don't wanna make excuses, but in my cals in vs cals out, there is NO problems....*sigh* I thought after -0.5 last week I'd have some nice solid loss...but, no.....this is really bringing me down now....these small losses are hard to bounce back from...I just wish my dedication and hard work would show up!!
I need to get a few more hours of sleep and then weigh when I'm suppossed to....and if it's still -1 I'm sorry to say I will probably be back here whining...fair warning! *sigh*
Must be a scale compsiracy going on... lets Write a letter to the government and tell them to take the chips out..LOL
Ammi~~ Hey , Friend, thanks for the e-card, Yep I am on the Maintenance plan, with the SB technically there are two Phases then the third phase in Maintenance, that is What I will be doing for a bit..I am fine to stay the same weight for a bit, Heck, 80 lbs ,, even if that is all I lose in a year, that is fine with me.. I will be just fine, ((as long as my scales dont join in on the conspiracy)) Take Care..
Misti - ooooh a pedometer that works when you just put it in your pocket, that sounds good. Does it make a noise as you walk? My two do, and I always feel self concious that somebody will wonder what the rattle is. Mine have to clip onto my waist band, but as my trousers are high waisted the pedometer doesn't sit in the right place to work properly, so I have to put it inside my trousers onto my underwear. It would be so great if I didn't have to do that, nor have the obvious rattle!
WOW you are/were up late with your cooking and your reading. I used to love really late nights but now that I get up early with the kids on school days at least, really late nights are out the window. I tend to try to go to sleep at midnight the latest.
Patti - so glad that you used to watch Romper Room. Now you will understand more what I was on about
Aaaaaagh painted shut windows, they are a nightmare, I had them on my old house and although our summers never used to get that hot, I hated not being able to open the windows. I never had AC either, but I am glad you do. No wonder you were going nuts when the thing stopped working!
Melissa - try not to worry too much about having less of a loss than you wanted to see. You have been doing everything right, so there is no way that the good results won't catch up soon. Scales are a fickle thing, why don't you measure yourself and see how many inches you have lost, that's far more reliable then scales!! Keep your chin up because if you keep on dieting and exercising the scales WILL show a good loss
Crock - you are 100% right, even if you only maintain for a while, even for the rest of the year, 80 lbs lost is fantastic. BUT of course we want to see the scales drop some more, so let's hope you still manage a loss although on the maintenance side of SB. I bet you will lose more weight his year, after all we are only in July
Ammi and my husband was saying i could just stay in the bedroom and i said how was supposed to walk on my treadmill with it being in the living room and no room for it in the bedroom . so i won that battle and the prize was a new ac!
Ammi... ummmm... no... my pedometer doesn't make noise. That would not work for me since I keep it on all the time even at work and church. Mine has a separate case that you can put it in if you attach it to your waistband and I suppose as long as you just walked (or were standing up) it would stay but the case is too big IMO and hurts when I wear it or falls off when I have to stand and sit a lot. It does have a separate "clip" on a string that clips to your pocket so it does not drop on the ground, etc., which I really like too.
Ya I am paying for my late nighter tee hee... but I do that a LOT even when I am working. Night owl here for sure.
Patti - sometimes men just do not see the obvious If your bedroom is anything like mine the only place to put an exercise machine is ON the bed So glad that you pointed out to your hubby that there is NO room in the bedroom and that you got new AC pretty darn fast
Misti - ok, so I must have really cheap ones then because they both rattle, one is a WW Bonus Buddy one and the other just a sporty one. I think I shall have to look on Amazon UK and see if they have the one you mentioned. Mind you, not sure if I like the sound of the bulky casing because although I will wear it for mainly straight out walking at the Mumbles, we do sit down and stand up quite a few times along the way. Will definitely have to look into it as I don't have ANY trousers with pockets
Hope you won't be feeling too exhausted as the day progresses, maybe tonight you will have to have an early night
Ammi... reference the pedometers... I think if you order the Omron one there is a link somewhere here on 3FC that if you order through that, they get some type of cut.
I am okay at work since my work pants have pockets... but when I want to wear others I don't care for the pedometer on my waist because it is so bulky. Still it is FAR better than the others I had.
from Wyllen
`There are a lot of success stories here, people who are Big Losers (including but not limited to Zelma, Julee, Kayley, Crock, and our missing Catherine), but for people struggling I just want to say this: There is no difference between me and you. I have found a groove (and hope I never lose it). But before that, I was the very fat woman who had no will power, who couldn't stick to a "diet". Eventually, I was the woman who knew she would be fat forever.
I don't know exactly what happened to change that, but I believe I can do this now (not so sure I can keep it off forever, but I'm willing to try). And I just have to say this: If I can do this, you can do this. I know I heard people say that before, and I never believed them. And I know it sounds stupid and trite but it is completely true.
` AMEN SISTER! YOU ARE PREACHEN TO THE CHOIR NOW.. YOU DONT KNOW HOW BAD I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT!
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silentarctic - I notice you are the same height as me (5'11"). And we started out at about the same weight. Are you my long-lost twin? Just wanted to say hi and wish you luck on your journey. Look forward to hearing more from you.
rkrs - to you too! My mom is a nurse so I have a special place in my heart for you angels of mercy. I feel sad for that 400 pound man but I am glad that at least he helped you to turn a corner in your life. And by the looks of your ticker, you have been doing extremely well since then. Good for you!!!
Heather - When you go and say stuff like this, it's no wonder you are my mentor! This was great and thanks for saying it.
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There are a lot of success stories here, people who are Big Losers (including but not limited to Zelma, Julee, Kayley, Crock, and our missing Catherine), but for people struggling I just want to say this: There is no difference between me and you. I have found a groove (and hope I never lose it). But before that, I was the very fat woman who had no will power, who couldn't stick to a "diet". Eventually, I was the woman who knew she would be fat forever.
I don't know exactly what happened to change that, but I believe I can do this now (not so sure I can keep it off forever, but I'm willing to try). And I just have to say this: If I can do this, you can do this. I know I heard people say that before, and I never believed them. And I know it sounds stupid and trite but it is completely true.
Claire - congratulations on only eating 2 pieces of the Dove chocolate. That is where I want to be. I know that I can't give up chocolate all together because it truly is a pleasure for me, I just want to learn to eat it in moderation like a normal person! I have had periods of time where I was able to do so but what tended to happen in the past was I would get stressed out or my feelings hurt over something or feel lonely and I would eat every last piece of candy or sweets I could get my hands on. Iknow (for me) the solution isn't banning the sweets altogether because all that does is make me want them more, it is learning to cope with emotional situations without food. Anyway, I do understand what a victory it is for you to have eating the chocolate in moderation. Way to go! As for weighing yourself, I would not recommend weighing more often than once a week. There can be too many daily water fluctuations, etc. and you could end up driving yourself batty (been there, done that). Once a week should be sufficient to see progress and to keep tabs on yourself. That's just my $0.02 worth.
Sassy - I wonder why so many of us are feeling lonely? Does the weight isolate us or were we already someone isolated and turned to food for comfort? Interesting question to ponder.
Sharon - Oh please don't call yourself stupid. We all must really start treating ourselves as we would treat others. I know I am guilty of talking to myself horribly like that too (just the other day I outloud called myself a "fatass"....it's a terrible way to treat yourself.) Just think, if I came out here and said I had eaten a bunch of extra food out of frustration at the scales would you tell me I am stupid? No, you would be kind and supportive. Do that for yourself too, sweetie. You are definitely NOT stupid. We all learned our eating habits over many many years. It will take time to conquer some of them and we are bound to slip along the way. At least you realized WHY you ate food that wasn't OP and that is a step in the right direction. So, no more beating yourself up, OK? That slip is over and done and cannot be changed. All you can do is go forward now. Take good care of yourself, my dear.
Ammi - Bless your heart suffering through that heat. I know how miserable it makes you feel. Hopefully you will get a break in the hot weather soon.
Melissa - I know you are disappointed at a lower than expected loss. A one pound loss is good though. Any loss is good. You are still moving in the right direction so try not to let this get you down.
300+ And Ready To Try Again...#948
Now that your AC is fixed I hope you get back on that treadmill today 
Anyway the way you said hi to everybody reminded me of that 
I was on the bone marrow register too, but not any more, it sucks. You wanna help people and then you aren't allowed. I understand why I can't but it still sucks 
I spotted you over on the TwoTown thread, and hoped you would post over here. Don't worry how sporadically you post, the point is that you know you can come here to vent, or to let us know how much weight you have lost 
I notice you are the same height as me (5'11"). And we started out at about the same weight. Are you my long-lost twin? 