Morning Everyone!
Sorry I have not posted on here in a few days. I really need to work harder and getting on here daily. I miss you guys but I am feeling really lazy lately and I'm sure that is the problem with why I don't post.
Ubee I'm glad to see that you are being honest with yourself with buying the cookies and pretzels for your daughter when they're really for you. I have been fighting myself not to buy the pepermint covered pretzels myself because they are so good so I feel you here. I've been really emotional the past couple of weeks and it definitely has slowed down my weight loss but I'm not letting it get me down. We can do this and I would be a complete idiot to go completely back to my old ways. I envy you because you post here so much and are so true to everyone. I'm pretty open with everyone here but sometimes have a hard time just pouring my heart out like a lot of you. Thank you for always looking out for me it means a lot.
Betsy As I told Ubee, it has been a rough couple of weeks. I think my hormones are out of wack because for once my body is natural ovulating and going through my cycle without the help of any medicines. I'm proud of that, because I want my body to be normal, but I don't think I'm used to it so I'm crying over everything and REALLY wanting to emotionally eat. I'm not really sure why we do this to ourselves, like you said, there has to be a different underlying cause other than we can't control ourselves. Hope you were able to get the pictures hung on your walls I'm sure your home is just lovely with all the Christmas decorations
Fi I had a little chuckle about seeing you tackle Oscar. I've been there done that...One time when my oldest cat was a baby she ran out on to the golf course that DH and I lived on at the time and he had to chase her down with a raw piece of chicken to lure her back in. He didn't feed her the chicken of course lol....I'm glad to hear about your time with Grace again. She seems to bring a real joy to your life and I'm glad you have those happy moments with her and pass your wisdom along to her. She's real lucky to have you in her life.
Donna Glad to see you posting again. I feel you pain with the emotional times. I've been a wreck for a couple weeks now, just trying to get back on track. Hope it all works out for you honey. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. (((Hugs)))
Shan Great job on the loss girly! Keep going you can do this!
Terra Sounds like you've been a busy little bee lately. I need your motivation to get my house cleaned before I go on my trip at Christmas...Slowly but surely I'll get it done!
TOgden Great job on making it to the 420s!! I know that feeling all too well and eventually you get addicted to the results so keep pushing girl! You can do it!
Friday night after I posted here became even worse....DH and I got into a huge fight over something stupid to do with my BIL...I ended up leaving the house at 11:30 and driving to the bank because he couldn't wait until morning to get the $20 I accidentally deposited into my bank. It caused DH to get really mad at me for not letting him handle everything. I ended up hitting an animal of some sort on my way back but luckily not damage to the car and the animal didn't die he just ran into the side of my door. DH and I fought on the phone on my way back because he misheard something I said and smashed his phone, got home and we fought some more and we both ended up crying and getting emotional. The fight was stupid and we both realized it..we both have just been emotional wrecks lately. Me because it's the holidays and I miss my dad and my friend and this is the time of celebrating and eating junk and I can't do it. I shouldn't do it. I won't do it. DH has been fighting a lot of surpressed memories about his sexual absue as a child and is wanting to confront the people in his family who completely ignored it and denyed it when they were supposed to be his support, his shield from the bad but they weren't. That's stressed me out because I'm not looking forward to doing this but I know it's what he needs to pick up the pieces and live a normal life for once, and I want to be there to support him any way I can. We have both vowed not to hide anything from eachother anymore, not that we ever really hid anything, but we want to be truthful about everything, especially him as he is in recovery from opiate addiction. My love for him has gotten stronger than I ever though possible this year because of the hard work he is putting into helping our relationship, and keeping me sane as well as working on himself. It's been hard but I know we'll both get through anything as long as we have eachother.
Since I've been emotional wreck I haven't followed 100% on plan. I'd say I'm about 90-95% on plan, which isn't bad considering. This weekend I ate ice cream from Baskin Robbins, had sushi, ate some candy, and last night ate some ande's mints. I've been craving sugar but starting today I am pushing those feelings aside and will find other ways of curbing my sugar cravings. I'm thinking about when I get paid maybe making some apple chips with cinnamon to satisfy the want for potato chips and having a sweet little snack. What do you guys think? I did manage to lose 1.8 lbs this week so that puts me at 249 according to my scale that still needs batteries but I'm going with it. I'll replace the batteries when I get paid just to make sure it is reading right.
I had a pretty good day yesterday...One of my very close friends bought a new car and came to visit me so we can put it on her insurance policy...She is a hair stylist and cuts my mom's and grandmother's hair. She told me that she was telling my mom how proud she was of me and how far I've come this year....She told me my mom said "but she took a year to lose it."...Are you kidding me?!?!?! I was beyond words when she told me that. She didn't tell me to make me upset which at the time, I wasn't upset...I just told her that it shows how childish and ignorant my mother is....but after I got home last night...and the words sat with me....the more I felt anger towards her. My mother and I have not had the best relationship. As a child all I wanted was her to be the mom that baked cookies, checked my homework, got me up in the morning for school, etc....The type of mom that acted like she truly loved her children. My mom has been through a lot of heartache and I get that, but she has been so self absorbed my whole life that I've felt that my brother and I have just stood in the way of her wanting to be a "party girl"...yes people, my mother just turned 51 years old and still wants to be the young, blonde, party goer. I guess it has a lot to do with the things she's dealt with...losing her husband at 27, etc...There is reason, but not an excuse. She'll never understand that either. She can't even comprehend that it takes time to lose almost 100 lbs and I'm proud that I have lost 91 lbs in almost 11 months. It's not bad, it's great!! I'm glad that I can see that instead of pushing myself farther into a depression, emotional state over it. It just makes me loathe her because she still isn't grown up and everything still has to be about her. I love her because she's my mom, but I don't respect her or like her as a person, if that makes sense. I probably wouldn't have much to do with her if my grandmother weren't alive. She's the piece of the puzzle that keeps me around because they live together and I don't want to shut my grandmother out of my life...She will be lucky to live another 10 years and my mom's plans are to move to Texas after she dies, which is ok with me.
Well
Ubee looks like I poured my heart out today lol...Wasn't really my intention, and sorry this post is so long...I just needed to vent and let you guys in on why I haven't been around as much as I have. I'm still trying, I'm still pushing and won't give up even if it takes me 5 years to lose all this weight. I'm going to do it, for me, no one else, and for the future of hoping to have a child. I don't care about anything else to an extent.
Today is a new day and I need to learn to roll with the punches, but until then, thanks everyone for dealing with my emotional state and for being here for me when I sometimes feel I can't talk to anyone about the things going on in my head.
I hope everyone enjoys their day...stays on plan...has someone tell you that they love you, and have a happy day. We ALL deserve that and only WE can make it happen...One day at a time, we'll be the person we all so desperately want to be. Love you all very much, thanks for everything! I will do my best to post on a daily basis again...just give me some time. (((HUGS)))