I'll start by saying I come from a long line of obese family members. I'm type 2 diabetic and asthmatic so working out and losing weight has been extremely difficult.
I've recently lost 35 pounds since December. I was at my heaviest four months ago 360, today I weigh in at 323.8 pounds. Until today, I thought that was a big accomplishment, but I was mistaken. Because of the cruility of others, all I see now is 323 pounds of fat staring at me in the mirror.
I was at a grocery store, picking out some milk and sugar free jello when a woman about the age of 24 or 25 came running across the isle saying "there! see!" and from behind her, her childish boy-friend about the same age bounded by her side saying "omg, you're right" and preceded to moo. Yes, moo at me like a cow. I was humiliated. My husband hadn't heard thank goodness, but all the way home he could tell I was upset about something. It took all my strength not to cry, but inside I was bawling.
Why are people so mean? Why do they have to be cruel and hurt people they've never met? It's always the skinny, young mean, jerk people that have never had a struggle in their life that put people down. I felt like I was back in high school again and completely ashamed of myself. I'm so self conscience of my looks and hide each chance I get; I don't know how to pick up my self esteme off the ground now, it just hurt so much to actually be moo-ed at. I can take the looks and the whispers, but to hear something like that. It killed me. I'm still a person and I have feelings, just hurt feelings now.
Sorry for the long post, pity party over now. Thanks for listening.
I hate that. There is a long thread in the 100+ club forum from a few months back titled "The meanest thing ever said to you" or something to that effect. It was many pages long. We have all heard it. I have been moo'd and oinked at out car windows. I have had terrible things said about me in stage whispers in grocery stores. It sucks and I don't know why people do that. I think they must be really ugly inside to feel the need to comment on people's looks.
The best revenge you can have on them is to stay on plan, stay strong and move forward with healthy eating habits. 'Cos you know what? Eff them
I don't have any words of wisdom but wanted to say that I'm really sorry this happened to you. People who are mean like that - who pick themselves up by putting others down - certainly wrestle with their own demons based in insecurity.
Congratulations on your loss to date!
Thanks, I'm definitely going to stay on track. It's dishearting and depressing to hear crap like that, but at the same time, it fuels my fire to keep going. I just can't believe people are that cruel.
My dad used to say to people "I may be fat, but I can lose weight, you're always going to be a "jerk.""
It really helps being here with people who understand.
Im so sorry that they did that to you. Thats not fair. But mean people are mean period. Even to the skinny people. Not that that helps any but thought id just point that out. You are a wonderful person based on who you are inside not how you look outside and the people in your life that love and support you know that. stay strong!
Aww sweetie, I've been there too. I swear people like that were raised by wolves because they really don't seem to have any common sense whatsoever. I've had people yell at me out of cars, throw things at me, since the jenny craig jingle at me. It's like I'm a big moving target made especially as an outlet for their aggression. You know what though, I just give it back as good as I get. Two wrongs don't make a right, but maybe if they knew how it felt to be mocked they'd give it a rest! In this case, I would have said to the girl "just wait until he knocks you up and then moos at you because you haven't lost the baby weight yet and see if it's funny then." Or of course the ever popular "I can diet but you'll always be an ignorant jerk." Honestly, people like that aren't even worth the bandwidth this post will take! You are awesome! You have lost almost 40 pounds!!! It's hard work even losing 1 pound and keeping it off and what you have accomplished is incredible. Don't let them taint that victory that you carved out for yourself! What have they done that's so great that allows them to sit in judgment over anyone else? No one can make you feel inferior unless you let them, so please don't let them.
Thanks, I really appreciate the kind words everyone. And cakegirl, you're right, they can only make me feel inferior if I let em. 40 pounds is a lot and it is something to be proud of! It's like I took off 4 bags of potatoes and it feels good!
Princess, I am so happy you came here for support. Everyone here is just awesome! You don't have to apologize for coming here to vent and get some support. You did the right thing!
I always have the unrealistic expectation that I'll come back with some smart-a$$ quip to put people like that in their place. But then I run the risk of them being too stupid to get it! And as Craig Ferguson says, "If you have to explain the joke, it's not really a joke, it's just a sentence."
For me, a realistic expectaion is that with time, fewer and fewer of these idiots affect me. That means I'm getting stronger and much more self-assured...progress! As for the ones that do hurt me, I can find support to help me get through it. And eventually, the support and love feels so much stronger than the pain in that moment.
You're right! You have accomplished something of which you can be very proud! You worked hard to lose the 40 lbs, you were smart and found support, and you're not letting any idiots take your victory from you!
Eff them!!! And they will always be idiots, and what goes around comes around, and Karma is a b&&&ch!!! As far as a pat on the back- Lady I give you a standing ovation!!!!!! For your weight loss, your dignity and for not punching her in the face with your 35 pound smaller self!!!!
You are doing great, I am blessed that something like that hasn't happened in a long while. You did better than I would have, and you are amazing for having lost 40lbs! That's crazy good!
I can't say that I have not been there but if you give them the satisfaction that they hurt you they will continue to do. So chuck it up as they are stupid but you are magnificant because you are losing the weight. 40 lbs is a great weight loss just wait to have more gone. Smile!!!
ya know what gets me is how people as soon as they see you start talking about losing weight or how they are fat and need to go on a diet. But they didn't start the conversation till you are within earshot.
I hate that too, like seeing someone with a weight problem triggers their memory like "oh yeah, I remember now, I don't want to look like her." I swear I've become the poster child for "how not to look." Ticks me off to no end. News flash, I was a tiny skinny child, this only happened when my hormones went crazy my junior year in high school. I wish all those skinny b***ches out there would realize that, they're not immune.
Also, when we do take control of our weight, people look down on us. They stare when we try to work out at the gym or start walking/running outside or we're getting groceries in the produce section. People don't know what it's like to try and exercise with that much weight on the body frame, causes a whole new set of problems in that alone.
Needed a pat on the back.
