Messed up my diet guys for like 3 or 4 days was really depressed and binge eating on a bunch of crappy food and I'm really pist off about it. I'm sure I gained back some weight but I haven't checked yet. I don't really want to know.
I've been not really eating the last 2 days now think I'm just going to start starving myself I'm sick of this, sick of being fat can't take it no more. Who isn't I guess, but still. Going to be 30 soon and I really need it off now. I did a 8 day water fast before, I want to start another one for however long it takes to lose all this weight. I'm sure I will lose my muscle I built but I don't even care I guess long as the fat comes off, I'll get it back later.
Probably going to take some vitamins while I do it. Has anyone here done water fasting before if so how long?
I know I'm going to hate my body anyways when I lose weight this all seems pretty pointless actually never going to be happy ever
I know that you are frustrated right now and upset, but I don't think you are going about this the best way. First, if you go into starvation mode, your bosy will keep all of the weight that you have ... and you may even gain.
Just remember how long it took to put the weight on - it usually takes a long time to take it off too. If you lose too much quickly and don't truly change your eating and lifestyle habits, you will gain the weight back - believe me, I speak from personal experience.
We all feel fat. We all feel disgusted with ourselves. That's why we find ourselves here. So you binged. So you had a bad day? So what? Get back on the wagon and keep on trying. Part of this process is to change your mindset and the way you look at food.
I know this is the absolute worst way to go about it. I have to do it though, the only way I will gain back is if I start to eat again. I know it took a long time to put on and you should take it off slow but there is a time limit in my case.
I know the right ways to lose weight I'm pretty much an expert on the subject like I know almost all fat people are, since that is what consumes most of our days and life. I can't do it the right way where I am I have tried and failed so many times, it is impossible here.
The problem for me mostly is not so much how I look at food but the people around me and the way I look at myself. I already know how I look at food, as a friend because I don't really have none and as something to stuff myself with when I'm depressed which is a lot obviously judging by my weight. So I'm going to just cut that option out all together.
Thanks for your help though I know this is very wrong. I don't suggest this for anyone else.
I feel your pain... This past weekend, binged on junk and even had chinse food..darn sodim craze..My weight was up, with drinking plenty water,,am safe on my weight..Good thing each day is a great start to stay focus on plan.
We are your friends also ~ this whole community is here to help you. I know that you might look as my profile and think I don't know what you are talking about but my mom falls in 300+ group and I helped her a lot in her journey of loosing weight.
Why are you thinking that you are going to look bad when you lose weight? You are beautiful now and you will be beautiful then. Beauty has nothing to do with weight so get that out of your mind. I used to say to my mom that you are beautiful to me no matter what weight you are but you are not healthy and thats the thing we have to work on.
Regarding your 8 day fasting thing~ I am from India and we have 8 days water only fasting for religious stuff and I have seen 4 year olds do it but the difference is how we have to eat after that fast. We have a set of things that we are allowed for next 8 days and then next 8 days you add more food and so on and so forth. Some people might think as religious stuff but I can see how scientifically it has been planned for your stomach to incorporate so if you are planning to really go through the fast, I can actually send you list of those things that you can eat. Though, I would never recommend anybody doing that long fasting for weight loss purposes.
Hoping that you feel better and hoping that we can really be your friends so that you don't have to rely on food for being your friend.
Hey, I'm hoping you're still open to other options. I absolutely get you with the whole "food as friend" thing. I think food should be your ally--you're in need of good, reliable friends, though, not more of the same with food that doesn't love you back.
You know, I'm on this board because other people "get" what I'm going through, as a 300+-pound woman. And I started out with the same sort of thinking that you're doing now--what's the fastest way to dump this weight? My husband has had weight loss surgery. He's dropped 65 pounds (!) in 3-1/2 months. Meanwhile, here I am, still slugging away (as I thought before my aha! moment) for measly losses.
Then I read some of the posts on here and it hit me. It's not just about weight loss. I mean, it is, but it's more about living a healthy life. Eating is part of a healthy life. We're going to be interacting with food from now until the end of our lives, and I decided to use the next 12 months as a kind of "re-acquaintance" with the GOOD food that my body was intended to thrive on. In the process, the weight will go.
You know a water fast isn't going to really help in the long run. I think that's why you're posting here. You know it's not healthy. You want to know that someone cares what you're doing, and we definitely do. Face it, you're going to eat eventually. A day of fasting is not a bad thing, I don't think, but several days are only going to put your body into starvation mode, do wacky things to your blood sugar, and in the end, your brain won't be in a different place at all--you'll still be romancing the food that doesn't love you back.
When you lose muscle through starvation, it also takes muscle tissue from your heart (!) and your colon (!), not just a bit of tissue from your arm or your leg or whatever. All muscle tissue suffers in a starvation diet. As well, your blood chemistry will be a mess. That affects the function of every organ in your body, brain, kidneys, liver, lungs, everything, so it's not a small or insignificant issue.
I'm here to listen and be a sounding board for you. I'm not judging you. I'm really, really hoping, because I care about you as a "sister of the 300's," that you will re-think the water fast idea and perhaps try another tack. I guarantee you can lose weight eating real food, and eating really delicious food. I'm doing it, and so are hundreds of your fellow travelers on this website.
{HUGS} to you. Please update and let us know how you're doing.
As you can see, lots of people care about you and are concerned about you. We've all been where you are -- your feelings rang very true to me.
But you seem to be wallowing in self-pity, and fast or no fast, nothing's going to help if you keep feeling sorry for yourself.
Fasts are often used for spiritual purposes, but I really don't think there's any evidence they are effective weight loss tools. So, if you really want to get the weight off, why don't you tell us why you feel the need to lose it so fast, and let us help you come up with a sustainable way for you to lose the weight and KEEP it off?!
And if you are suffering from depression, perhaps a visit to a doctor is in order.
I know you guys you're right, it's not really me that is wanting to do it that way. Someone in my life is pressuring me to lose it fast or they are going to leave and it's the only friend I really have. It's really tearing me up, I have been trying really hard for a long time now to lose the weight fast and it's never good enough until it's all gone. And still if I'm not perfect after, which I already know I will never be still they will leave. So I don't know why I'm really trying. I want to lose it for myself too and I'm going to, just pressured into losing it fast like now and it's too hard. My living situation is really bad also I can't even talk about it, it's just very hard.
I won't do the water fast anymore or at least I'll do shorter ones. I wish there was more nice people like you guys in the world. Sorry I was really sad when I wrote that I'm feeling better now after reading all your nice replies thanks so much.
Tiredalways I would like that list still if you will send it I might still do some short fasts.
Lilik thanks you scared me out of the long fast I'm sorry you guys.
Thanks Lillian and Heather too you are all really nice.
I'm glad you wrote back... sounds like you're going through a rough patch that's about more than your weight. Feeling alone in the world is never a good thing.
I'm glad to hear you're not going to continue the fast, but that doesn't mean you can't lose weight! What kind of plan are you thinking of? Or doing already? Looks like you've lost weight already -- congrats!!
Finally, I get the sense that you have some of what we call all-or-nothing issues. They are very common, and noted by feelings of needing to be perfect. They can be very destructive for weight loss!
Listen, that "all or nothing" thing has been standing in my way FOREVER! I was either being PERFECT or I threw in the towel and said the heck with it. 3 or 4 days of binging does NOT ruin a weight loss plan. There's only so much you can gain in that amount of time. What ruins your plan is that thinking "Well, I already messed up, what's the use?" I have had 3-4 day binges turn into a couple-year binge -- and THAT is why I am still fat. The biggest goal I have in this journey right now is NOT giving up, no matter how badly I mess up. I have found that it's much easier to STAY on plan than to get BACK on plan, and I know if I have a big binge it's going to be HARD to get back to my plan, so I have learned to keep those binges to a minimum. Just through trial and error, and forcing myself to keep my eyes on the prize.
Seeing your avatar, you have already lost an incredible amount of weight, so YES, you do know how to do it. I'm sure you feel a lot better at 325 than you did at 380. Every little bit helps. That's another thing I keep myself conscious of this time. I may have a heck of a lot to lose, and it's overwhelming, really. But if I lose 10 pounds, I will feel a little bit better. I can do 10 pounds.
I don't know what is going on with that relationship you're talking about, but I'm sure you don't need us to tell you that anyone who tells you they will leave if you don't lose 150 lbs immediately is really better off gone!!! I really can't imagine wanting someone who is THAT destructive to my self-worth to be in my life. I would have to tell that person that either you like me for me and are willing to go the distance with me, or you don't. Pressure like that is not going to help you stay motivated, I guarantee it.
Finally, this is no endorsement, because it is not for me. But there are a few girls at work who have had amazing results with a doctor-supervised liquid diet. If you insist on doing something drastic, you need to work closely with a doctor and do some hard work understanding your relationship with food. Otherwise you will blink your eyes and be almost 40 like me and fatter than ever.
I can't stand to see someone so young and with the best years of her life ahead of her feeling the way you do. Please make some changes in your frame of mind and your relationships so that you can enjoy life! We only get one!
You should break your fast with warm water with lemon and bit of honey. your stomach hurts if you start eating regular food right away. You should eat a bit of protein [considering we don't eat meat- its usually beans with a bit of salt and paparika and lemon] you can have baked seasoned tofu as your protein too. You shouldn't be eating dairy for atleast a day after you break a fast nor do you eat any fermented food [that means no bread] you should eat a bit of fiber with bit of fast [cheese with salad and veggies]
make sure you don't start eating any grain for 3 days if possible and when you start - try whole grain pita / whole grain wrap.
As I have stated before, I have done spiritual fasts in the past and these are things recommended to ease back into your routine ~ which doesn't mean I am an expert on any of these things. Though, some of it might be common sense as some body else have mentioned , you can always try to follow doctor monitored liquid diet stuff.
Hope this helps and we are hoping that you feel better. Remember, you are beautiful and you don't need anybody to validate that feeling.
Thanks everybody, I'm not doing the fast but I'm not eating that much and I still lost more weight. I do have the all or nothing issues very badly you are right Heather trying to break those. I'm glad now I didn't do anything dumb because I still lost weight, if I would of done the fast I probably would of broke it and gained twice as much after.
The relationship I was talking about is done now so, just trying not to care about it. Glad I am still losing weight and can maybe relax now and do it at the pace I need to. Very happy and thankful to have all of you guys here you are all so nice!
oh yeah and lost 6 pounds!! Oh yay I get a signature now too!!
Last edited by going2bskinny; 08-16-2010 at 12:37 PM.
Hey going: I'm so glad that things seem to be looking up a bit more for you. I'm sorry I scared you with my previous post, but I am really glad you seem to be doing something that's a little healthier than the water-only long-term fast. I agree with posters above--we only get this one body and this one life. And from what you said about that "friend," honey, that was no friend. There isn't a true friend in the world who would tell you to do something unhealthy or they would leave the friendship.
You keep doing what's best for you. I'm glad to see you checking in here and will look for you as we go. Pretty soon, I bet you'll be posting your mini-goals and goals!!
Unending fast log..
I really can't imagine wanting someone who is THAT destructive to my self-worth to be in my life. I would have to tell that person that either you like me for me and are willing to go the distance with me, or you don't. Pressure like that is not going to help you stay motivated, I guarantee it. 
Oh yay I get a signature now too!!
