I was in the shower this morning and i was thinking about how determined i am to succeed this time around with my diet. So far i have lost 9 pounds in weight and 4 of those pounds came off this week. I was so happy but then i started to have this weird thought, it's like i had some kind of fear come over me. I shook it off though and tried to re-focus my thoughts to the fact that i'm feeling so determined to do it and happy i lost 4 pounds this week. I started to gain weight at the age of 5 and so i have never really known what it's like to be slim as an adult. I guess there is a part of me that fears the change. So my question is, does anyone else ever feel like this? Have you lost weight and experienced this whilst you were losing weight? Or like me are you at the start and have these fears?
YES, YES, YES, believe it or not I have. I lost weight one time and got at my lowest and when I did it made me feel scared and vulnerable. I don't know if its because I was hiding behind my weight or what? This time I do not feel that way, I cannot wait to be little again, I don't know what changed my perspective so I can't help you there but I had felt the same way.
I'm scared - absolutely. Will it stop me - NO. I've discovered this new person inside me and am excited to see what else I love to do. The only thing limiting me is ME.
This is a great thread - thank you for starting it.
Am I scared of change? YES!!! In fact that is something I'm currently exploring because I have a HUGE Fear of change! Not just with weight, but with other things in my life. I agree with Gggirls, the only thing holding me back, really, is ME!
Will I give up? NO!!! I DO tend to go through rough patches, but I will NEVER fully give up. I'm going to do this no matter how many times I regain or blah blah.
Is change scary?? YES, YES, YES but it's a good kind of scary. It's weird isn't it how each of us experiences this same fear, why are we afraid of something positive? something beautifully life-changing?
I think our fear stems from the ideal that somehow we aren't worth something better. Isn't that sad?
Am I afraid? Yes I am, but I agree with Carol's words of wisdom-my fear is not going to stop me.
Most fear is about the unknown. I have lost significant weight (100+) several times, so I know the end results....yet I was obese for a reason, it was my way of insulating myself from people and the fear of intimacy. There are lots of other fears, this time around it is more about how old and wrinkled I will end up as I lose my "plump" fill under my skin. I also fear that I will have sagging skin like never before.
Some fears are grounded, some are not. The best thing to do is face them, think through the process, explore the options. If all these fears of mine come true, at least I am prepared for them instead of the suddenly appearing and I don't know what to do about it.
The responses have actually suprised me, i really did just think that maybe it was me and my funny brain lol. I agree that even though i get the feeling that "It will not stop me". I'm so pleased i did start this thread now, i no longer feel alone and actually now i feel more able to move on from it. Thank you all!
I sometimes wonder if I do self-sabatoge myself in regards to weight because, well, maybe I am afraid that I won't attain the weight I want, or that my life won't be how I want it to be when I get to my goal weight.
Also, I have lived so much of my life as a fat woman, that, well, I am not sure if I can ever think of myself, as well, normal.
I am going to try and work on attaining my desired weight. I am trying to think and stay focused on the person that I want to be.
I feel the same way as you all do! I was thinking that maybe it had to do with the fact that I use eating as a comfort type of thing to get through the everyday troubles of life. When you start to take that away it does get scary because you do not have that comfort of knowing that food is there for you. Food should be there for nutrition not for harming yourself and gaining weight so you are unhealthy. So YES SCARY! I am trying to use other ways of getting through things besides FOOD once I get through that part I think it will be alot easier and alot less scary. So glad to know that others feel the same way!
I too am scared of what is going to happen when I get thin. I do know that If I don't get healthy then I am harming myself and it's okay to think of myself and to get healthy for me, like someone said the extra weight was/is armor for me and it's kind of scary to be loosing that. So no it wasn't just you we all have had it as well.
My fear is what my body will look like once the fat is gone... the smaller sizes tend to be more form fitting and fi I have a ton of loose skin, how horrible will clothes look on me? I am already not liking the wa my shrinking stomach looks... it looks way more dimpled then before I lost any weight (same with my legs).
My fear is what my body will look like once the fat is gone... the smaller sizes tend to be more form fitting and fi I have a ton of loose skin, how horrible will clothes look on me? I am already not liking the wa my shrinking stomach looks... it looks way more dimpled then before I lost any weight (same with my legs).
Even women who have always been slender make use of things like spanx.
I am terrified of change!!! But, I've been seeing a therapist for years and as soon as I finally made the decision to have weight loss surgery (my choice - I know it isn't right for everyone), we started meeting once a week. It was still another 5 months before I truly made up my mind to begin my life-changing journey.
Am I scared? YEA!! Do I now have many coping mechanisms to help me with that fear? YEA!!
Food is the one addiction we can't walk away from.
Are You Scared Of Change?
