in weight loss support but I also wanted to post it here because I hope this might help anyone who is morbidly obese...like me.
Read this if you turn to food for comfort
My sister is dying.......
.......from her food addictions. She weighs over 600 pounds and has been in the hospital for the last 6 months because she was no longer able to care for herself. She is 63. 14 years older then me and was a second mom to me.
Sadly we had not talked since 2002 after our own mother's funeral. She had a way of pulling guilt trips on me (like our mother did to us) and I wanted no part of it anymore so I quit speaking to her for a while. Years went by. Last summer, before she went into the hospital I wanted to send my sister an old photograph of her and I that I found. She was 16 in the photo and I was 2 and we were sitting side by side on the couch. She was so thin and beautiful then. Unfortunately as she got older she put on weight (as all of us here has) due to carb addictions. I never did mail that picture. I will be getting it copied to give to her girls....my nieces.
Yesterday the doctors removed my sister's breathing tube. Her kidneys have shut down and her body is shutting down. I am so sad because my mobility is so bad from my morbid obesity that I cannot even get to Toronto to see her...to say goodbye before she is gone.....to hold her hand...kiss her cheek and stroke her hair. To whisper in her ear that I love her and I am sorry for not talking to her sooner and to tell her that her death will not be in vain. To tell her she is loved.
If I can say one thing to everyone here.....please please do not cheat on your woe. It is 100% not worth it. I did and regained my weight and am headed down the same path as my older sister. I swear I will never cheat again because from this day on, I will think of Leeana.
I love you big sister and will miss you. I hope my post helps anyone who eats for comfort. After my sister passes, I will never do that again. Eating a large bag of chips (or whatever food you turn to) is no comfort when people are dying from obesity related causes that are so preventable.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing with us...the situation really rings true for me and so many others who have/had turned to food for comfort.
Jaime , thanks for sharing such a personal , intimate story with us. You can change your life , you don't have to follow in your sisters footsteps. I am sorry that you are experiencing such heartbreak and pray that you will find the strength to overcome this.
I posted this.......
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for your story. It rings too true
