300+ Weekly Thread #1237
 

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Hi everyone...well I have some pretty rotten stuff going on; my oldest son was given 4 weeks by us to leave our home, he got somewhere to live & was moving out...Sunday he was collecting some of his stuff. I asked when he was going to pay me money he owed ($400 approx=£200) he got nasty so hubby came down & told him to get out now...after some shouting Philip head-butted him & we had to have him arrested. I honestly don't know how we got through the day...police took statements...hubby was stunned and shocked...neither of us could face food til 6pm & then we had a Chinese.....looks like that + the booze I had to help me sleep won't help my weight-loss. Luckily my boys were watching tv & didn't really see much.
Sorry for the moan, I feel pretty numb and scared in case he comes back & goes crazy coz I called the police on him.
Annie GREAT to hear from you, I hope you can get the help to get healthy again. Be easy on yourself it all must be such a shock after all the surgery, weight -loss & exercising you did. Have you thought about a visit to your family or even a couple of days away from home, the change might do you good if you're well enough. xxxxxxx
Kayley, SO glad we only have Christmas to worry about!! Where did you get the recipes from?xxxxx
Cyn, how are you now, is your 'tummy' any better?xxxxxx
GG GREAT to 'see' you again.xxxxx
Well gotta take one son to school, youngest is ill with bad throat & horrible 'barking' cough, hubby is watching him as he's not at work til later. Luckily he only got a nose bleed & not a broken nose or black eyes or he'd have had to have time off work.
xxxxxsharon

Good Morning ladies...just finished doing my circuit training workout and i always feel soo good after i do it and now im getting ready to do some laundry.

You guys are probably gonna think that i am really weird but i was just looking at my ankles and they look reallly skinny like i have never seen my ankles this skinny ever..that is awesome :)

Im really trying hard this week cause i really would like to lose 3-4 lbs so i can be well on my weigh to being 50 lbs down by the 18th of december..that is my next goal.

voodoo1-I am soo sorry to hear about what happened with your one son and having to call the police on him that has got to be a horrible feeling..try to keep your chin up things will get better soon :)

well, off to do laundry talk to you ladies soon
Heather

Sharon ~ What a horrible situation! So sorry you went through that. It sounds like your son might be dealing with some serious issues, other than getting a place to live. :( Hopefully he sees the light.

Heather ~ Woohoo for skinny ankles! :D

Well, I had my FINAL weigh-in today for my Better Weigh challenge at the Y. I lost another 4 lb this past week... here are my 8 week totals!

Weight lost - 36 lb.
Inches lost:
Bust - 4
Waist - 6
Hips - 6
Thighs - 1 each
Biceps - 1.5 each

I am SO happy and SO proud of myself! I can really do this... and I AM doing this... Just because my challenge is over doesn't mean I am. I'm hoping to be down another 15-20lb by Christmas. Nice mini-goal, I think. :) The awards banquet is Wednesday night and my partner and I will find out our overall placing. SO anxious!!!

Well, I started my Internship today. I am utterly exhausted. I did sooo much walking. Add that to my hour long walk during a court recess, plus the TaeBo I did at 5am, and it was a very active day! Heh. And I get to do it all again tomorrow. The keeping busy really helped curb my snacking. I brought sugar free gum with me to tide over cravings, since I can't eat in the court room. lol. Maybe that'll all pay off on Saturday for my weigh in. ;)


Sharon - I'm so sorry that your son is still giving you all this trouble. I hope tha he will STAY away, so you can recover from that spectacle, and just move on. *hugs*

I got the recipes off Sparkpeople.com; after I've made them if they're awesome, I'll post them on the recipe thread. :)

Andrea - That's just awesome, congrats!!!

Sharon -- :hug: Sounds like a tough situation with your son!!! And here's another one :hug: I hope you can all move past it.

Sharon: my tummy comes and goes. Seems to be getting better. Sorry about what happened with your son. I really hope someday he can grow up. I have an aunt in jail..she has spent 20 years in and out of prison/jail. Some never learn

kayley: Internships are rough. My friend is a nurse and she also worked full time and is a mom of 2 girls.Give yourself alot of extra down time when you can.

hb: Skinny ankles are great!!! WTG!!!

Hippie: You are doing it!!! We are proud of you too!

As for me: I got 3 Valentine day cards done yesterday. I have never made one in my life! They actually look great! I know our heros will love them and whomever they send them too. Hubby and i are going to make get a way plans for the first part of Dec. Will only be an over nighter but we really need time alone. :) My son has an interview friday at Toys R us. Crossing fingers he will get it!

Sometimes I get mad at life. Doesn't it know that losing weight is hard enough without throwing a bunch of crap at all of us making it harder? Health issues and family issues put things like losing weight on the back burner. I think we all need a group hug right about now.

As for me, I had a long talk with my spiritual director last night, and instead of focusing on what is going wrong with my diet, we talked about when it was going right. The two times I did really well, was right after my angina attack, and right after my son went into the Navy. The first one was in response to a health scare, but those only last as long as you are truly in fear for your life. The second time was realizing that I had half my life left, but couldn't live the way I was.

Now, I am pretty much doing everything with my life that I wanted to, and my weight isn't holding me back. That's the problem. Except for flying in a plane, which I don't like to do even when skinny, I'm now doing all the stuff that I promised myself I would do "as soon as I lost weight." Telling myself that I want to lose weight to live longer, is just too remote, and not a good motivator.

So what to do? I remember when I was working at a mental health clinic talking to new AA members who had trouble with the "higher power" stuff. They were told to just go through the motions at first if they didn't feel it, until they did. So that's where I am at. I don't feel that motivation that I did when I was doing well, so until I do again, if I ever do, I am going to go through the motions that I took when I was losing weight well.

I began today to weigh and measure everything I eat, and write everything down that goes into my mouth. As a further check and balance, I am going to commit to posting my daily calorie count here every evening. Today I had 1616 calories with 34.2 grams of fat. I'm happy with the choices I made although I had a hot apple cider at the coffee shop while I was writing this afternoon. I enjoyed it, but that 170 calories might have gone to something else. I didn't get any real exercise, today, but have my water class on Wednesday, and a walking date at the big mall on Friday.

Day 1. Day 2's are always harder on me. I will have to really watch myself out tomorrow.

i havnt posted in quite a while..been taking care of my mother for the last few months, pc hard drive blew, etc... mom passed away fri the 13th at 8 22 am at home in her own bed with me holding her hand.. it was the most beautiful, sad, heartwrenching moment of my life and i will carry those memories with me forever. now all of a sudden after 6 months i have a lot of time on my hands( have to find a job now with a quickness), so hopefully i will be on here posting more often as well as getting back on plan. not sure if anyone remembers me as i didnt get to post for long before mom was so ill... but i look forward to getting to know you all... :hug:

My new goal while doing my Internship is to get up and exercise BEFORE going. It can be hard to get the motivation at 5am, but I did it yesterday, and felt great. I don't think it'll happen this morning, as my lower back is killing me so much, it hurts to walk. I think it was from sitting in court all day yesterday in those chairs. Not the best on the back. I was hoping a hot soak & some good rest would help, but it doesn't seem to have. So I'm going to maybe do some Yoga before I head out, but if not, I'll do it afterwards, and hopefully this pain will be gone by tomorrow.

Catherine - Good luck today. :)

Twilightwing - *hugs* I'm so sorry to hear about your mother's passing, but I'm glad that you were there with her in the end. I held my grandmother's hand up until the very end as well, and while incredibly heart wrenching, as you said, it helped me just knowing I was there for her. Good luck with the job hunt.

Catherine -- I see a lot of myself in your post. I was also motivated by health scares to lose weight, and was absolutely living the life I wanted to. So when stresses came around, it was easy to overeat and stop caring about doing everything I needed to. Thirty pounds came back, and while I want the weight gone, I also just don't have the same kind of motivation.

Like you, I've realized that I can do it without motivation. I frame it as commitment, and as long as I stay committed, I can do okay. But goodness, if I lose that again...

Group :hug: for all.

Good morning ladies...the countdown begins...9 days until thanksgiving! I absolutely love the holidays and i have been busy getting the house ready to decorate the day after thanksgiving...i cant wait! Did a 5 mile walk today and feel great and doing some laundry and looking for work.

twilightwing...im soo sorry to hear about your mothers passing but like kayleystar said at least you got to be there in her last moments and just know that she is in heaven now looking down on you. good luck with the job hunt i have been looking for work too and its been a year and a half its not easy right now but im hoping something will break soon.

Kayley...sorry to hear that your back hurts i hope it feels better soon..could you possibly bring a chair cushion to sit on..maybe that would help i dont know but i hope it feels better soon!

Well, ladies time to go hang up some laundry i will check in later
Heather

Just popping in to see how things are here.

Sharon, I am so sorry to hear about the situation with your son. Hoping things are *done* and you can move forward without this added stress in your life. :hug:

Catherine, I totally can relate to your post. Last November I was having scarey chest pains and that was the motivation to "do something" about my weight before it did "something" to me. I no longer look for motivation to keep me going, but I have committed to recording my daily meals and snacks as well as my exercise. In the end it keeps me on track. I wish you well....

Heather, I was just looking at my feet and ankles last night and can't believe I can see bones and veins in them! I was used to these puffy feet and ankles!

Hello Everyone,

I know many of you have been following my 'story' throughout the year, so I thought I would post an update.

My beloved brother, Daryl, passed away on Monday at 5pm. Since his diagnosis of leukemia in April he has fought SO much, and we didn't see anything different with this latest hospital stay with an infection of some kind. But his body just seemed to have had enough. The leukemia had become extremely aggressive and he couldn't fight anything off. Neil and I chatted with him on Sunday - not long conversations, as he was really tired, but he has been like that many times before - and I went to work Monday morning planning to visit again Tuesday afternoon. Neil came to school to pick me up because my sister had called and said that Daryl was going downhill rapidly. HOW COULD THAT HAPPEN? So, we spent the day with him and his wife and kids, as other family members arrived. We had decided to spend the night at a hotel nearby, in case we were called during the night. We had driven home to collect some things and got the phone call just as we were nearing home. I feel SO bad that we weren't there at the time, but the important thing was that he had his wife and boys (19 and 22) by his side. I still can't believe it all and I have had that feeling that you hear about where you are sure that you will wake up and find that it has all been a dream, but I know that isn't going to happen. I just can't stop crying. He was such an incredibly beautiful person and his family were as close as you can imagine a family to be. It breaks my heart to think of their lives without him, just as it breaks my heart as I miss him SO much. We spent a great deal of time with them over the past seven months and got to know them as friends as well as family. I just keep thinking that "it isn't FAIR!", because many people get leukemia and don't have a suitable match for a donor, and Daryl had ME, a 'complete' match. So many people had told me that I would save his life with the donation of bone marrow stem cells, and now I don't have the chance to do that. It truly just isn't fair. I think the huge turning point was when he got swine flu and legionnaires disease while he was in hospital during one visit and that ended up with him in the coma for 10 days. His body just couldn't recover from that.

Anyway, that is all probably just too much info for everyone, but I know that many of you have been asking after him and praying for us all and I wanted you to know that he is at peace now. I am sure he is with Dad and his father-in-law, who he loved very much and they are all watching over us. His funeral is on Monday in our home town, and I have a certificate to be off work until next Wednesday. I am trying to keep busy, as I simply can't cope with time to think. I am sure the pain will ease at some stage, and the memories will be a positive thing, but at the moment the memories just make the pain worse as I think of the incredible person he was.

Thank you all for caring,

Zelma

Zelma - :hug: words never really enough...:hug:

Zelma - thank you for taking time to share with us. We love you and we're here.

Another long day at my Internship. We usually get an hour at noon, while court is in recess, and I use that time to walk, after I finish my lunch quickly. My back is still really killing me. Hopefully, it'll stop soon. Heh. Didn't get in my Yoga today, but got that walk in. :) Hoping my back isn't too bad so I can do Tae Bo or another workout at 5am tomorrow.

I haven't been this physically exhausted in a long time. I'm going to finish watching The Biggest Loser, and call it an early night.


Heather - Thanks...the back is still giving me problems. In the courtroom, I'm actually in one of the jury seats, which is pretty comfy, but I'm sitting in a way to take notes on procedure, etc., and it's straining it. :(

Torister - Good to 'see' you! :)

Zelma - I am so sorry to hear about your brother. *hugs* We're all here for you.

Twilight: I am sorry to hear about your mom passing..HUGS

Zelma: I am very sorry to hear about your brother. We are here for you.

As for me: Watching biggest looser in a few..and going to bed early

Zelma-I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do, but I know there isn't, so I'll have a mass said for him to make myself feel like I have done something.

Seems so unimportant now, but I had 1630 calories today, and 52.3 grams of fat. I had more empty calories than I'd like, but spent a large amount of time in a coffee shop writing today. Tomorrow is the pool, so I'm going to get my stuff together and go to bed early.

Good evening ladies...

Zelma..im sorry to hear about your brother passing here is a hug from me to you...:hug:

Well, watched biggest loser tonight and i dont know what it is but i always feel reinspired after every episode and i am really excited to see that not only will it be on tuesday but there is also a special on on weds about past contestants and how they are doing and this will be a great inspiration for me to keep in check for thanksgiving which I already plan to anyway plus i will be doing my 1 hr 20 min circuit training that day to have the extra calories to maybe have a small piece of pumpkin pie though my stepdad makes his with splenda so im really getting excited about thanksgiving coming up and then decorating for xmas on the next day after..yippee!

talk to you ladies soon!
Heather

Zelma -- :hug: So sorry to hear about your brother! My deepest condolences. Thank you for letting us know. You are like family here... :hug:

Twilight - Hugs to you on your Mom passing.

Zelma - Hugs to you on the loss of your bro.

Both of you have lost a major influence in your lives. As always in these times, no words are adequate, but I hope that you can feel the caring from our little forum.

Special gentle hugs,
Ratkity

Zelma...I am so very sorry to hear of your brother's passing. I lost my sister last month to cervical cancer and there is such a void. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

Morning! Hope everyone is having a great positive day!

Zelma & Twilight - Sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your family.

So yesterday I was doing an art project with my son who's 1, he was finger panting and I figured this would be a great opportunity to make my weight loss goal chart, i broke it up in 20 lb loss sections000000, well the first one is 16lbs 0because it just made it easier for me to count after that. 8 sections in all. Everytime I loose 20 lbs I will color in that section (ethan might help mommy) Its on my bedroom wall so i have to stare at it everytime i get up. I think it will be a positive reminder what im trying to acheive and what i have done so far.

Day 3 and I'm still okay. We went shopping today to fill the pantry and fridge with good stuff. I actually felt hungry, and reached for an apple. 1644 calories and 23.2 grams of fat. Felt much better about the fat content today. Accountability is very important for me.

Tried to post this earlier, but the internets wasn't having it...

Zelma *HUGS* thinking of you.

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I'm still a bit quiet ladies...coming out of my depression I think though. I'm up a few pounds, maybe like 3...

Hiya ladies,

Sorry for being so quiet, but like lots of other people am having a hard time at the moment. I started a new nursing job a month ago, and all the newness and anxiety triggered some real problems for me with anxiety/depression really flooring me. I am starting to come out of it a little, but boy it was bad :(

Anyway, first off Zelma so sorry to hear about your brother passing.....he gave it such a valiant fight. Much love to you and your family.

Twilight & Torister - sending you love and support on your losses, life can be very tough at times.xx

Catherine- am proud of you for moving on with your food/weight plan, it won't be long before u are off down the scale again :)

Annie -cannot imagine what you are going thro right now, but send u my love and compassion and also HOPE that things get better x

Jaqui - sorry u have been fighting depression too, it really really SUCKS. Hugs xx

Heather - u are doing really well, Go u!!

Kayleystar - My gosh u sound seriously busy, and are doing so well with your weight loss. Well done u must be feeling better for those 50 off :) Make sure u balance yr life as u have so much on right now xxx

Sharon - So sorry u are having a hard time with yr son, he is putting u thro so much it seems very unfair. Don't let him derail yr eating plan too much, focus on taking care of YOU thro all this.

Hippie Mama - well done on yr progress, u are doing great and hope u win the competition :) Good for you!!

Well, the good news for me is that even with the depression I have lost a little weight again, however GP has started me on some meds which have helped with the anxiety but are making me both lethargic and very hungry, which as u can imagine means I am going to have to really focus on my food and watch what I eat, for example I ate a large breakfast after exercising an hour ago and I already feel 'hungry', its not real hunger but I could fall for it easily enough, so actually I am being more careful than ever as the one thing guaranteed to make me feel worse is gaining weight.

I hope to be feeling stronger soon. Am exercising a lot to fight the mood stuff, just did aquafit for the first time and loved it def going to do that again!

Over and Out
EM xx

Voodoo- So sorry that you had to go through that with your son.
Hbieber- Skinny ankles are great!
Hippie- WAY TO GO
Kayley- Good job
AZ- Keeps fingers crossed as well that your son gets the job
Twilight- So sorry for your loss
Zed- Hugs you am sorry for your loss as well.
emilymay- Good job on the job
Heather11 welcome
Annie- I am so happy to see you I pray for you everyday.

As for me I am hanging in there, my scale broke due to water accident so it is not working now. I will have to buy a new one today. I have just been lurking coming out of depression. Take care all and keep up the good work.

Zelma- I am so sorry for your loss.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
twilight and torister- I am sorry for your loss and I know it hard. I will keep you both in my prayers.
I am doing good and trying to do ww points. It seems to be helping me stay focused better than counting calories alone.
I cant believe the holidays are coming so fast!

Howdy yall...

Just passing through. My bowels "seem" to be getting a little better. I really hope that I am getting better. I am glad tomorrow is Friday. Work is just busy busy and sometimes just sucks lol.

HUGS to those that need them!

Day 4, and I feel a bit like I'm trying to come off heroin or something. I have the shakes, I'm nervous and very cranky. I wanted to have chocolate so bad, but I didn't. I remember telling a friend who had problems with alcohol that they would never have to deal with a hangover again if they never took another drink. Guess I'm getting my payback. I had 1617 calories and 30 grams of fat. Right where I need to be. I have to go to a birthday party tomorrow, so I have to be real careful. It's at a Vietnamese restaurant, and I'm going to look over their menu tonight so that I don't have any surprises, and we are going to walk at West Edmonton Mall tomorrow for several hours before the party to bank some calories before hand in case I give in and have some cake. The party is for a friend of mine who is a model, so I'm hoping she won't be having a cake.

Hi everyone!

Sorry I haven't been around in awhile. I have been lurking! I haven't weighed in almost 3 weeks and I am certain I have surpassed my goal by now. I have been having trouble eating ENOUGH, which is odd, because the change of meds completely abolished my appetite. I will go weigh one day soon :) I am beginning to get frustrated that I have lost 20 lbs and there is no difference in anything. Close don't seem to be looser and I don't LOOK any thinner. I keep telling myself 20 more lbs and people will notice...

I have a job interview tomorrow to manage a fast food restaurant. I am just going to do it for awhile and go part-time for school while I pay off some of my debt and accrue some savings. My mom told me they will laugh at me because I am so fat and old enough to be the ther employees' moms (I am 27)
:hug:

Catherine - I think day 4 is always my "hump day". Headache is the worst then for me. Stay strong - you know the course. Keep us posted.

Wow...I know she is your mom, but thats not very nice. Don't take that to heart. Do what you need to do and ignore the negativity...it will only bring you down. Good luck on the job interview....FWIW, I got my current job when I was at my highest weight and wearing a size 30/32 dress! You go for it! :hug:

good morning ladies..did my circuit training workout today and feeling great. Dont know how the weigh-in is going to go tomorrow because i think im going to be getting my visitor next week (TOM) and the reason i think that is because about a week before i get my TOM i get a few pimples on my face and some other signs (TMI) and as of this morning i was only down .8 so i think i might be retaining water or it could be chinese food that i ate yesterday when my husband and i went out to lunch but i had a vegetable stirfry with shrimp and crab and some sauteed mushrooms but i have heard that chinese food has alot of salt in it so we will have to wait and see what tomorrow's weigh in brings!

BUT...i am noticing differences in my body other than weigh loss...last week i tried on my size 28 jeans and i couldnt get them buttoned..close but no cigar..well i decided to try them on today a week later and i got them buttoned! they are a little snug but im wearing them today for a couple of hours hoping that i can maybe stretch them out a little so i can wear them thanksgiving day but i am soo excited to be wearing them today because i havent been able to wear them in at least 2 years and 2 years ago i didnt wear them very long before i started gaining weigh again so i am very happy to be sitting here wearing a size 28 and even though the scale isnt moving much this week i must be losing inches! yippee!

Sorry this was soo long im just really excited
well, i will check in later
Heather

So I told my husband last night about my project of goal setting and coloring in the squares of every 20lbs lost and he was very supportive of me he also said that if I wanted to I could take pictures of each and put it in that square pretty much visualizing myself and all that I have gone through. I thought it was a great idea. I am glad he is being supportive of me :) He really makes me feel like I can do this.

Hey everyone,

I finally did my weigh-in today and I was really disappointed with my loss. I only lost 4 lbs in the past 3 weeks. I am at 249 now... but I was really hoping that I had surpassed my mini-goal.

The interview went really well, but something isn't matching up with the pay. They are now offering less than originally -- they orignally said $32K/yr and now he is saying $11/hr, but those do not add up to the same thing.

tattoo: great idea about your goal setting!

Pink: that is not right..unless your gonna work more then 40 hours a week

As for me: I just found out that my cousin was having "issues: and she now has to have her gallbladder out. Boy ..those gallbladders sure dont last long lol.

Hubby bought his ticket to visit his sister right before christmas in Alabama. She is in Afghanistan and gets to come home for 3 weeks. He is sooo excited!

This weekend I am going to relax and craft. ;)