I guess I kind of paid attention to screen names before, but not really? I had another screen name on here it was a positive one, before I realized my posts were being read by family.... this is my personal spot, where I don't want things thrown back at me, or things, I just feel belong to me...
My sister is 120 pounds, not overweight and never has been. Her and my dad are both fat phobic, I posted about him over the summer, that was a great supportive thread for me. LOL, but any way, she tries to be sympathetic to me, but comes off horrible.
She will say she is fat, and when I say to her, are you kidding, she tells me I don't get it, like the aczyn said in her post, she was like, I can't stand this extra five pounds on me. She is 6 years older than me and she always had a 'concern' about my weight. She really takes after our dad.
So, since I've been on here this morning, she has called me to continue a talk we had the other night!! she said, you know when you came home for a visit in November, you didn't eat much at all, WE all noticed that and wonder why you are still so heavy..
OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!! I asked, kind of laughing, knowing I was going to nail her in a minute... who is this WE?????? She said, well, dad, joyce (stepmom) Tom, her boyfriend, her son Chris and my neice.
I said, really, so I was being watched for what I was eating?
I had cooked for these people by the way, I made them cakes, which I didn't eat , I made them french stuffed toast, which I ate half of what they did.. but I was being watched. Now, I am totally, wondering how I am going to be about this, this is new...
So, she once again tells me, like the other night, Nutri system will work for me because the super heavy girl at work, she just loves, used it and is losing weight, and I need to look into it. I said, well, DSister, I have my own WW thing going and I have a nutritionist based plan behind that from my oncologist, so I am pretty well set, but thanks for the concern.... and sister, *we really do call each other sister by the way LOL* I said, i am so concerned about your liver...
I didn't want to mention it to you, because really your health is YOUR business, but you drank every single night I was there and kind of heavy, and I am worried about your liver count, you know dad was an alcoholic, maybe he can take you to AA with him before your liver is damaged, you know that's what killed Grandpa...
She wasn't really defensive, she said, yeah, I know. I then proceeded to tell her, her demons might be in a different form, liquor and cigarettes, but mine is food and they are all the same. I can't hide what my demons do to me physically, the fat butt and all, but I can't believe they were all watching what I ate, so they could then tell me what I needed to change.
Well, since I wasn't shoveling in food, I was there 15 days, and I actually lost weight, they couldn't say anything, they are perplexed.. I tried to tell her for the 100th time about my PCOS and how that affects your metabolism, she then tells me she looked it up and it just says 'causes weight gain' but nothing about not being able to lose it.
I proceed to tell her I have a doctor who specializes in it and he told me how it really makes it tougher, but not impossible to lose weight. She THEN asks me, this morning, why they can't give me something to cure that and why they can't help me and am I going to be fat forever????
I asked, calmly, because now I am pretty pissed off, would you not love me anymore if I stayed fat or what? She is my only sister, and when she was little she was about 8-10 years old, she told our grandmother, who I LOVED to death, that she was too fat to go to her school play and it would embarrass her and to stay home.. Can you believe that??
That was my mom's mom, my mom was thin, never an ounce overweight, but she was NOT fat phobic like that at all. My sister drinks and then says whatever she wants. We were at Hooters, I had NEVER been there, she tells me I have to eat the fried pickles they are great. We get them, I eat them, yeah they are great,
but then while I am eating this fried pickle, by the way I rarely eat anything fried, she knows this too...
She brings up then, why are you fat and what are you doing about it. When I give an answer it is NEVER NEVER NEVER good enough, so I just immediately bring up what bugs her, her smoking, it killed our mom, and she is a chain smoker. Her boyfriend made her stop, so she was sneaking when I was home for the visit.
She still doesn't get it but seemed like she was starting too, until this call a few minutes ago. Why must thinner people assume you have no clue? I could be a freakin' nutritionist, I am not kidding, I see people doing wrong things to lose, like eating only ramen noodles twice a day, yeah, I know this person and she complains she isn't losing and I say, you need more balance and your body will respond, she looked at me and said, like you'd know....well, whatever...
But now I am so not impressed, I was not only being watched, but two months later, they were discussing my eating habits... she also mentioned our fat aunt, that is my mom's sister, she said, yeah, Aunt Norma used to eat like a bird too, but she was always so fat.
My sister, barely eats, I mean barely, she eats like a bite of sandwich or when we went to hooters, two wings, two pickles and she was like, I am stuffed, but she drinks sooooo much it keeps her weight regular. Her son told me she worries him not eating, But she never was a big eater.
I don't know, I just had to share that, because I am now the PERPLEXED one. LOL who do these people think they are? Why is my weight anymore worse than any of their habits. I don't drink, I used to, years ago but geeeezzz mind your own freakin' business.
Please, I don't want a post saying, they care... I got a lot of private mail actually, last summer about my dad being fat phobic, I got a lot of 'they love you and are concerned' mail... I know all this, but that does not give any one the right to continuously bring this matter up to me. I don't call any of them and bring up any health issues with them.. They are all adults and I figure they know what they are doing to themselves. I am aware, I don't need anybody at act like I am brain dead.
sorry that go so long, but I am so PERPLEXED LOL
I just needed to vent with the 3fchickies here because I know you guys understand.