300+ And Ready To Try Again #1114
 

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Good morning, everyone.

Well here it is Monday again. How did my five days off go so fast? Not only that but I need to work overtime this week so am up at 4:00 AM yeeks. But I'd rather work it in the mornings than afternoon so will start at 6, which is the earliest I am allowed.

Glad to see so many good reports here! Great job everyone!

I worked at the festival again almost all day yesterday. In the afternoon I worked with a couple of other people pulling around one of the big "water wagons" with a huge cooler full of ice and water giving it away to people. That is such a hit on a hot day!

Catherine this time I did tell my friends at first that I got my finger injury in a bar fight. And told them that I was told in my forum that I should say that. One lady said to tell you that that is okay as they are very forgiving. We did get a nice picture when we "borrowed" the huge street sign for a few minutes that had arrows and said "official beer and wine garden" - and stuck it in front of our church booth with the arrows pointing to us, put a couple guys in front of it and took pictures. Ahhh got to have some fun along with all the work.

Oops time to get ready for work. Have a great week, everyone.

Sue

G'morning all!

Geesh Mistisue, my 5 days went fast too! Of course, my back is feeling better now that my little vacation is over.. doh. I did ride into work on the bike. I was just telling my sister that I need to find a mindless bicycle route to get into a riding routine. Sounds like you had a great time doing the festival again! Yay!

I'm drinking my water.. have 20oz in so far. I always shoot for at least 60. I'm one of those people that get immediately dizzy when slightly dehydrated, but it's an effort to get consistent fluids inside of me.

TOM is here (not sure if you use that acronym.. Aunt Flow for others). A switch flipped and I decided not to bounce up and down on DDR for a couple of days. I'll still do treadmill later on today.

Hugs and OP vibes to all you wonderful ladies!!!!

Luv,
Ratkity

Litchick - Hope you have a fantastic first day at work!

Xena - a huge congrats on your acceptance to the MBA program! I'm waiting for just such a letter from the undergrad program I applied to so I can totally relate. Hope you can really relax now and enjoy the weeks between now and when you actually have to do the work!

Brenda - Way to go on reaching -125. You ARE going to lose 200, aren't you? :)

Sue - hope you got the A/C thing worked out. It is one of my major pet peeves in life when people leave other people hanging and out in the cold like that. It's really crappy when you know or ought to know that your actions will potentially leave someone else feeling lousy and you do it anyway. Very bad karma for Mr. Craigslist.

Nancy - Glad to hear you enjoyed the BBQ. I can totally relate to resenting those kinds of calories when we're on a roll, but I actually think it's really great that you indulged in the ribs and the Mike's. The host got to feel great about you enjoying his specialty and you were able to relax and have a couple of drinks with friends. Food is about that kind of stuff too, and naturally thin people do it everyday. Way to go on copying some skinny chick! :)

I spent some more time at the Y yesterday, and for the first time combined my fledging workout with a swim afterward. The pool felt really great. I also bought myself a really neat present for 20 bucks a month...I upgraded my Y membership to the 'Enhanced' version, which gives me access to an adult only changeroom with goodies.

I can now hot tub and/or steam room after my exercise, and there is a relaxing lounge/reading area as well. Things like shampoo, conditioner, body wash, shaving stuff, body lotion, deodorant, hair spray, gel and girl products are provided. There are even curling irons and an ironing board. Oh, and a towel service as well! I love the idea of just being able to show up with minimal baggage, and then pamper myself a little afterward. It changes the whole experience a little in a really nice way. My son calls this new changeroom 'the club' and pretends to resent that he has to make do with free bodywash and the sauna at the pool level.

I have to carry my membership card around now in the building because I have to swipe it to get in the new changeroom. I bought a lanyard at Value Village and attached my card to that so I can wear it around my neck. I looked at it several times last night, and realized that it symbolized a lot for me. Just a couple of weeks ago I was poised to let my Y membership go for the summer because we just used the pool and we live in a city that literally has over 300 lakes within it's boundaries. Now I have taken steps that confirm that I can belong to something completely and am capable and deserving of participating fully.

Annie-I hope you are taking lots of pictures. That is something I really regret not doing.

Sue-No one said that Christians couldn’t have naughty senses of humor.

Ratkity-I’m glad your back is feeling better. There is nothing worse than back pain, and that’s coming from someone who has had angina, a torn knee ACL, and gall stones.

Meta-Man do you ever have a cool Y.

I just about walked my little (well, littler than they used to be) legs off. I try to walk to the point where my feet are just getting tender, not to the point of pain, and that seems to work okay. As soon as I rest them, the pain subsides, and I’m good to go again tomorrow. Still OP. I allowed myself a few more calories yesterday because I just felt like my body needed it. That’s a change.

Evening everyone! I hope this is the beginning of a good OP for you all. I didn't get any walking (strictly exercise walking that is...still got about 8000-9000 steps in each day) last week.

I do feel MUCH better than last week which I am REALLY thankful for. I hate when I feel BLECH! Its so hard to get up and get motivated.

The heat and humidity gets to me, so I am doing DDR for exercise. Man, you can work up a sweat doing that! Whew! I do it in training mode and am still on the first level, but its addictive and I do get a good amount of time in motion and that can't be bad for ya! I did lose 3 lbs this week. I did stray a bit from plan on Saturday and ate some things that would not be good for me if I ate them everyday, but since I can't remember the last time I ate a hot dog or a soft pretzel...its all good. I was right back OP on Sunday. In the past, it could be weeks or more before I could get back OP..if ever. It is a bit empowering!

Oh well...thats it from here for today. I will check back in tommorrow. :hug:

Metachick -- That's how I felt when we joined our new gym last year - I couldn't believe *I* belonged to a fancy pants gym with hot tubs and saunas, and a spa... but I do! And I use a lot of it! (Not as much as I'd like... but every week I'm there). ENJOY the new you!!!! :D

Hi Ladies,
Well, I fell off of the wagon again but hiked my bootie back up there and am totally OP today. It's been really hard with my son and dil living with us again but I came to the conclusion yesterday, that I am the one that has to do this for me.
Just getting back to OP puts me in a positive mood and a "can do" kind of mind frame.
Hope all is well with everyone and hope to get back on here later for personels.
O, I did gain 1lb this week but hopefully will have a good weight loss next week.
Debbie

This is vent. Sorry it is negative.



Hi everyone. Not sure how I am feeling tonight. A bit down and a bit ashamed of myself, I think. Several months ago, the 25 year old son of a very good friend of mine (I'll call her Y and him K), and a good friend of mine in his own right, let me know he was getting married in Boston this October and that I was going to be invited. Now he, his sister, and his mother and step father all live away from me and haven't seen me since gaining weight. My immediate thought was "Oh my God, I can't be seen like this." No worries, though, I had plenty of time to get some weight off. Well, here it is, a mere 3 months away and I really haven't lost much since then. I am still MUCH heavier than when they saw me last. And to be honest I have started to think, "Well, I will just not go to the wedding. It will be busy at work or I will be busy with school and I just won't have time to go." The real reason I didn't want to go is that I am fat and ashamed of how I look.

Well, today I got an email from K asking me how certain I was that I was going to be able to come because he and his partner had something they wanted to ask me if I was coming. So I told him I was going to try my best to come (feeling guilty knowing that I was already plotting excuses NOT to come). He responded again telling me that in the Jewish wedding there is a document that is signed (can't remember the Hebrew name of it) that he and his partner will sign and that they choose 2 witnesses to sign as well. He said he and his partner would be "honored if you would participate in our ceremony this way because you have been my family's best friend throughout the years and we have gone through so much together." He told me it was going to be wonderful to get to see me again after so long. (It's probably been 4 years...didn't see him much while he was away for college).

I was so completely touched by him not only asking me to play a part their ceremony but also by what he said about what I meant to his family. Well, I was moved to tears to be quite honest. And that is when I felt ashamed. I am ashamed that I was trying to think of excuses not to go at the same time K was getting ready to ask me to be a part of the most important day of his life, not just by being there, but by participating in the ceremony. I am ashamed of how I look. And I am ashamed of the fact that even though he said all these kind things to me and asked me to be a part that deep inside I am still saying "No!!!!!!!! I can't let you all see me like this."

I told him I would be honored to participate and I will force myself to go now no matter what. I just wish I could do it with the joy that I should have at such a happy occasion, not only his marriage, but of getting together with old friends that I have avoided for so long. Friends that I love dearly. Friends that went through hard times with me and I with them. But I do not feel like I can be joyful. I am too consumed with guilt and shame over my physical appearance. Will they even want me in their wedding when they see me? Will their be photographs of the ceremony? I will ruin their wedding pictures.

Being this weight robs me of so much. Or rather, I let it rob me. I hide away, missing opportunities, or not enjoying them as much as I should because of my weight. It makes me so sad.

I have to confess I got a bit lonely over my long holiday weekend and I overeat for 2 days because of it. Later I realized there was no real reason for me to have felt lonely over the long weekend. I had been invited to Y's house in Houston to spend the weekend relaxing, catching up, and hanging out by the pool together. She is a stay at home mom with a younger son now and I know she would have enjoyed my company. But I declined the invitation. Not because I had other plans, but because of my weight. I did not want to be seen. And then I had the nerve to feel sorry for myself being lonely over the weekend.

When will enough be enough?

Wow I haven't had a chance to post in forever! So many crazy things have been going on I am not sure where to even start. The last few months have just seemed to have bad news back to back.:( Trying to just move forward if I can. I am not sure if some of you remember but my mom did come for a visit mid June. I was really nervous because she is really rude about my weight at times. But this time she was really really great! That was huge relief to say the least...especially since so many things have been going wrong lately.

I will admit I have not been doing that great with working out or watching what I eat. I am emotionally attached to food. It's so easy to grab the chips and drown out the stress. So the last few days I have been trying to get a grip. I have yet to get a new scale. I will get one in the next few weeks when we can afford one. I wanted to get one that at least goes to 400. I am pretty sure I haven't regained weight because some of my clothes are still pretty loose.

Enough about me...

Welcome to all the new people! Great to see so many new people around here. :)

And congrats to all of the losers! You all have been going wonderful. Brenda and Annie just to name a few you girls have been doing great with the losses! :bravo:

XENA I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now.:hug: I know exactly how you feel about the weight keeping us from enjoying things. I have been doing that for years and years now. I am dealing with that myself especially lately. I just wanted to say hang in there hun. :hug:

Xena,

Please keep in mind that your friends love you, not the number on the scale. Yes, they may be surprised, but they obviously care deeply for you and that feeling isn't going to change with a weight gain.

I understand this fear all too well. I go through it every year before I drive home, disappointed that I am still overweight. I've lived in my current state for 5 years now and I seclude myself from others to the point where I've not really made any friends to hang with. This fear, this seclusion, and the associated "fat anxiety" is so unhealthy. I'm lonely because I don't know anyone, yet I hide and don't make friends, thus continuing this silly cycle.

Don't do what I am doing...please go to the wedding. Try your best to lose a few pounds before you go, if that will make you feel a little more self-assured, but remember your self-worth is not the number on the scale. These are your friends and they love and respect you. We need to feel the same for ourselves, as others feel for us.

Oh, Xena, I'm so sorry, and I do know how you feel of course.

If you've been a family friend for years, your value comes from your friendship. Not the size of any part of your body.

Please, please know that your weight is not a moral issue. You're not a bad person because you're large. None of us are. And plenty of skinny people aren't good friends who get invited to be witnesses at weddings.

Hugs!

Peggy-we got up to 57 degrees here today and it rained so I guess that means the humidity was up. So sweating was not my problem, shivering was. One of the 7 habits of successful maintainers is to not deny yourself. I sometimes forget that because I also have a hard time hopping back on the horse, but when I can have something, and then get right back OP is heady. Congratulations.

Ammi-damn hormones can give us fits. There’s nothing wrong with taking time off to enjoy the summer while you can.

Debbie-Whenever my husband says he is afraid that he has sabotaged me since we got married, I have to be very firm with him that only I can really sabotage myself. I always tell him that losing weight is a solitary and selfish thing that I have to do for myself, by myself, because if I’m trying to do it for any other reason, I will fail. That mind frame of “can do” is so crucial to success.

Xena-I have missed so many things in my life just because I felt like I was too fat to look good in my clothes, or that I simply didn’t have anything nice I could wear. I was a no show at Christmas concerts, turned down being maid of honor at my best friends wedding, and avoided going to my Grandmother’s funeral among so many others. What I have found works is to be honest. Send an email to this young man and tell him you feel bad that you were actually thinking of skipping his wedding because of embarrassment at how you look. Tell him how large you are, or better yet send him a current picture. That way you don’t have to see that “shocked” look on people’s face, perceived or real, and you can pass those first few awkward moments with your pride intact. You will find out two things – he loves you no matter what you look like, and still wants you to be part of his special day, and secondly that you won’t be the only one there who has gained weight. The things I have missed in my life, because of my weight, or put off until I was skinny enough, also make me sad, but have taught me to grab every moment of the life I have left. It’s time for all of us to take a chance and reach for the brass ring.

Mechell-We missed you. I remember reading once that one of the biggest hurdles that people who have wls face is that they no longer have an emotional outlet. They physically can’t overeat. We still can, and occasionally I think we almost need to, just like sometimes we just need to blow off steam. The trick is to not fall into a hole where that is all we do. I did that for a very long time.

Xena -- :hug: and :hug: again. Oh honey, I think we have ALL been there, wanting to hide away from the world. I know I have.

You know what I've learned? Your weight is never a barrier to love. Yes, you can use it as a shield, you can try, but the people who love you are going to love you no matter what your weight.

I'm not trying to minimize how you feel, because I SOOOO get it. But think about the people you love. Does their weight change the feeling you have for them deep down? I bet its the same for them. At least, if they're worth anything! :D

I'm so proud of you for coming here and telling us! That's so hard to do. :hug:

I have my own confession to make -- I had my own little binge tonight. Really kind of lost control. Luckily, the food in the house isn't too bad for me, but still, my tummy hurts!

I don't know if it's because hubby went out of town today and I'm reacting to that, or if I was bored, or because TOM is coming.

BUT, I DO know that one night of overeating (heck, it was more like a couple of hours) is NOT going to make me gain it all back. AS LONG AS I CAN CONTAIN IT. And I plan to tomorrow. I may have to not be in the house in the evening or something to accomplish that... we'll see.

Yet another reminder that this is a lifelong battle. Losing weight doesn't make the demons go away like *poof*

Sue: Cute, cute avatar photo.

Ratkitten: Great job on exercising.

Meta: I loved how the Y membership makes you feel. Hugs.

Catherine: You are doing so well. I'm so happy for you that you are hanging in there.

Peggy: Wow. You will be able to go into competition for DDR soon!

Ammi: I bet you have less time because you are so much more active now. Hugs to you sweetie.

Debbie54: Good job doing the cardio.Sorry you are stressing with family there. You can do it. I am proud of you.

Xena: Oh hun. Your friends love you for your heart not your body! Try to put yourself in their place. Would you feel all those things if your friend had been the one to gain all the weight? What if she has? You still love her no matter what. Huge hugs.

Michelle: So glad your mom's visit was good. I really missed you being around. How is your DH and Kitties doing? I hope things get better really soon.

Well, I had another weigh in tonight and I am down another 11 pounds! I am so thrilled. I am 5 pounds away from my second mini goal and I got permission to call for a surgical consultation tomorrow! I hope they get me an appointment soon. I am very excited. Hope you are all doing well and big hugs to you all.
Blessings,
Annie

Heather: Hugs to you too! I hope you are not too lonely while your DH is away.

Okay: I just ate food instead of sticking to my program. I was hungry and it wasn't bad what I ate but I'm supposed to not have any food until I think a couple more weeks. My niece made tofu/veggie enchilladas and I ate one. They were very good but now my tummy is HURTING big time. lol. I guess I learned not to do that. Well, hopefully I learned. I think I was celebrating. Very unnecessary thing for me to do. Just wanted to keep accountable. I am not feeling bad about it though. Just wanted you guys to know I ate food instead of drinking my meal. I will work it off tomorrow on the bike or in the pool though. Hugs all.
blessings,
Annie

I am up late here. DH is off on business trip for a week and for some reason insomnia is hitting me! :dizzy:

CATHERINE~I know what you mean about falling into the hole. Its like once you binge it just seems to go on forever. I really wish I could form a habit of walking the stress away instead of attacking the bag of chips!:lol:

WYLLENN~So true about the lifelong battle! Hope you feel better!

ANNIE~Thanks hun. DH and cats are fine. Just all of the outside stresses are getting us! I haven't even checked my e-mail in ages but I wanted to tell you mom and I went to the Wolf people place! Thanks so much for suggesting! Got some cute pics of the wolf pups! Precious! It was so cool because they had Alaska timber wolves there and they explained they live in the Arctic. Very cool! And look at you! Almost 100 pounds lost! You are doing AWESOME! Congrats on another 11 pounds!:congrat::cheer2: I hope you can get your appointment soon!

NANCY~I also meant to say in my last post I am so happy you are in your new apartment! Last time I was here you were having such a tough time finding one!

OK well I am off to get some sleep. I hope you all have a good day tomorrow!:hug:

Xena, I agree with what Catherine said about emailing a picture & explaining how you feel BUT you do have three months to lose some weight. Have you thought of some kind of liquid thing like Lisa & Annie? You could easily lose 30+lbs in that time AND give your long-term weightloss a good boost. I found that once you stop your capability for eating larger amounts IS GONE, which is another plus. Either way you ought to go, too many of us put off stuff
'COZ OF MY WEIGHT' GOOD LUCKxxxxxxxx
Ammi, I wondered where you were!!lol I too was pretty naughty over the week-end, oh well back to 'normal'. I'll try & catch you later today on MSN.xxxxx
I've been really tired since coming off the liquid diet & with all the TOM problems I could just sleep most of the time, but I've been forcing myself to do some gardening. I might not feel like exercising, but mowing, lopping trees & dragging the branches away HAS to b e done & surely beats 40 mins of aerobics!!! Especially as I spent about 4 HOURS doing this, over two days!
Annie, LOOK HOW FAR YOU'VE COME!!!! A few months ago you were in despair at losing ANYTHING, now you are the QUEEN of liquids diets!!! I'm so happy for you.
Catherine, we had a BBQ on Sunday, I've never heard of tofu dogs, I will look out for them. I always make shish kebabs with lean steak, chicken, peppers, mushrooms & baby tomatoes, I marinate them in dry sherry, olive oil, Tabasco, black peppercorns and garlic, quite low fat AND really healthy, I also serve tons of salad, shame we followed it with icecream!!!lol (though I didn't have any)xxxxxx
I have to go & get a blood test as my dr thinks all the joint pain I've been getting is caused be ANAEMIA!!!! I've never heard such a crock! My mum has osteo-arthritis, I just hope it's a passing thing as my mum is in such pain & I don't want to be suffereing like that!
xxxxxsharon

Good morning everyone! Yeeks here I am up at 4 AM again to get ready for an early work day. Oh well the overtime $$$ are nice but I sure don't like doing the time! :)


Ratkitty you are doing so well with your water and bike riding. Keep up the good work! :yay:

Metachick, sounds as if you have a wonderful workout facility at your Y! Nice that you are feeling a bit spoiled along with the hard work!

Catherine, as for our photo with the sign we do try to have a good time. But we didn't consider it "naughty" :devil: I know there are churches which teach that all alcohol is bad but we don't believe that way and consider it okay in moderation. :) I'm sure our fun picture won't make the church website or anything though. :lol: And glad your little legs are getting littler. :)

Peggy, I sure know what you mean about the heat. It is supposed to be in the 90s here today, yech! I didn't do any exercise at all yesterday; just too hot. Hopefully I will be able to get my air con installed soon and can do some indoor stuff at home.

Ammi, good to see you posting; thanks for checking in with us!

Debbie, glad you hiked your butt back up onto this wagon! :rofl: A little slip up is no big deal, as long as you don't let it last and are back OP!!

Xena... :hug: :hug: :hug: I am sorry you are feeling so low. I sure do understand, and I know others here do as well. But as others have pointed out, remember your friends love YOU and obviously you are very special to these people!

Michelle, I am glad the visit with your mom went well. That must have been an encouragement. Sorry other things are not going so well. Hope you will be able to really get OP soon! We miss seeing you around more.

Jen, I was doing the same thing as you for a long time, just pretty much going to work and my church outreach involvement but not getting out much otherwise and not even going to church social activities or anything else much. Not just because of how I looked but because it was so HARD being so heavy and exhausted. I still have a lot of weight to lose obviously but have lost quite a bit and also gotten so much stronger and more energetic and find myself wanting to get out and about more!

Vortex, good point about a lot of skinny people not being so special to people and it is what we are on the INSIDE which makes us lovable or not.

Heather, you are right in that a couple of hours of overeating is not going to really be a setback... ha remember when we used to do that kind of thing for a couple of DAYS or longer. :) I even had a Coke yesterday at work, which I hardly ever do but it was such a loooooong hard day that I just went right in there and bought one. Guess what... I didn't really enjoy it though and it did not taste nearly as good as I remembered them being. :)

Annie, thanks for the compliments on my new avatar. :lol: it was taken during our water wagon runs at the festival and I was HOT and also had a greasy sheen of suncreen on my face but oh well. :) Maybe I can pretend it is a "natural glow." :lol: That is super that you are down 11 pounds! Way to go!

Sharon, hope your blood test comes out okay and they can identify your problem. Wow, your shish kebabs sound wonderful and healthful! YUM

I could not believe it yesterday as I was a tenth of a pound away from finally losing one but didn't quite make it! :) It sure is slow going but I do think all the exercise is part of the cause. But I was the same weight again last night and this morning so hopefully some of it is about to fall off soon. Get off me stupid stuff! :) I am trying not to focus so much on it (although I do keep an Excel database with chart) and just stay OP!

Well, guess I had best stop putzing around on the Internet and get ready for work! Hope everyone has a great day, and hang in there and stay OP. Oh and I posted a photo from this weekend on the picture page. :)

Misti, looked at your pic, the red top is lovely but it's looking RATHER BIG ON YOU!!! I think you could get away with at least TWO sizes SMALLER, even with your umm boobs being so big, hope this doesn;'t sound to personal, hope you know what I mean. I would love to see more pics of the event, it sounds really fun. xxxxx
xxxsharon

:rofl: Sharon I am cracking up because when I tried on the shirt I asked someone if it was too small... :rofl: She said "too SMALL? NO!" And actually I might have gotten it a bit smaller except they did not have any. Also they ALWAYS make the smaller sizes several inches SHORTER and nothing is ever long enough for me anyway. Besides I think it will shrink when it is washed... they always do even though the stores swear they won't. :) And yep it is that big also because it has to fit over the boobs without being tight as I will NOT wear stuff tight there. :)

I will post some more pictures later on... off to work for now! :) Thanks for asking.

Good Morning Ladies!!:coffee:


Meta: Wow, what a great gym! :D Just the pampering alone would make me want to keep on going!!


Peggy: :yay: for -3!! My kids laugh at me when I do DDR...it's quite confusing. I love to watch them do it...especially at an arcade...it looks so cool when they do it together.


Ammi: :wave: Hi! I am glad you are just busy and haven't forgotten us!


Debbie: I know what you mean...it really is all up to you! Sometimes it's so hard to make the right choices when not everyone is in the same "boat" as you.:hug:


Xena: Oh sweetie...:hug:...I can SOOOOOOO totally relate!! But as the other ladies said...you are loved for just being "you" and not the size you are. Please don't let the weight stop you from living your life. Just think of all that you have acheived with your schooling...I can add, subtract, multipy and divide, but forget about anything involving X and Y!!! And you made it through the spa vacation (that you were so worried about) with some beautiful pictures~yes, the ones with you in them!! Hold you head up high and go be the witness for your friend's wedding. He holds you in high enough reguard to have the honor of your signiture on his wedding certificate...do the same to honor him. :hug:


Michelle: I am glad the visit with your mom went well! I just survived one with my parents too!:lol:


Heather: Here is a :hug: so you don't miss your hubby too much.


Annie: You are amazing, girl!!!! I wish I had the stamina and willpower you do!!!!!! 1 tofu/veggie enchalada is not bad...if you would have said a chimichanga or fried ice cream, I would have understood!!;) I hope your tummy feels better.


Sharon: Those shish kababs sound good. :T I am putting the ingredients on my shopping list.


Sue: I am part of the "Big Boob Club" myself :o...and am always consious of the length of my shirts because I hate when my belly is hanging out of the bottom. I usually get my shirts from Romans or Lane Bryant catalog because it lists the length.


My sunburn is finally turning tan, and it should be about 98 degrees today, so I am going to be in the pool working off the Papa Johns pizza binge from last night. I wish I could figure out why when I am doing so well, I can be so easily led astray. Especially when it comes to :jeno:.
Sammi starts dance camp today, so I will actually be alone for a blissful 3 hours today.:cloud9: Even though Doug is sleeping in our room (he works nights), it's just me and the kitties and dog. I have to hit the Stupidmarket...which I hate...but I do need to feed the family. :hun:
A Domestic Goddess' work never ends!!


Have a Great OP Day!:cheer2:

just wanted to say to everyone.. i am still lurking. trying hard to get rid of a few pounds i gained back and staying away from here cuz i felt like a fraud! i will post more in a few days! congratulations to everyone who has lost and hugs to those of us struggling.. .hi Ammie and Annie!

Hello all!

Xena: I *so* understand where you are at... everyone has said it so much better than I ever could. Love knows no size... it's way greater than that! I had the same mentality when I weighed 350 for ten long years. I didn't want to see old friends. I kept thinking my weight was going to fall off and then I'd go see them. A whole decade passed!!!! What was I thinking???? Today, I am doing better making contacts with old friends and not being ashamed of my size (but the old tapes are still there). *hugs* to you!!

Wyllenn: The attitude to NOT say "oh to heck with it all" and go on a several week or year long binge is what I am striving for!!! It's ok to be human and react to things. Then, it's time to regroup! I love that you know it's time get back OP.

Meta: I'm jealous of your Y!!! My house spa consists of 2 golden retrievers that like to like my feet after I work out.. it tickles! eep! hehe.

Peggy: I'm trying to do the silly song SkyHigh on DDR (DDR Universe). It's kicking my rear!! and so much fun to sweat to.. Keep up the good work!

Annie: WTG on 11 lbs gone!!!!! You go girl! *snoopy dance* Don't wait until you are too hungry to eat. Things have a tendency to come back up as fast or faster than they go down when ya do that.

MistiSue: ewww 4am? Yucko. I love your avatar.. you have such a beaaaautiful smile!

MamaB: Remember da sunscreen, you domestic goddess you!!! I hate the stupidmarket too. Bleh.

*waves to Mechell, voodoosharon, Jen, Michelle and Debbie.. omgosh I hope I didn't forget anyone...* ~~~~~~

Hugs and OP vibes to all the peeps,
Ratkity

Morning Ladies.

Michelle: I'm so glad that you got to go to wolf people. It is a great place. It amazed me how those little grey critters will turn white! So happy that your visit with your mom was a good one. Hugs. Now, we need to "meet up" for a real hug and chat.

Sharon: Hope your joint pain is something lacking in your diet and not arthritus or anything else like it. Hugs.

Misti: I love photos and will go take a gander at the one you posted. Hugs and have a great day today.

Donna: I hear ya on that domestic goddess stuff never ending. lol. It will be hot here today too so hopefully I will have time to go and "Foat" in our tiny pool and maybe do some flutter kicks or something like it.

Patti: You are not a fraud! I want you to come back missy! You need to be here especially when you are feeling so low. Hugs hun.

Ratkitten: Yep, you are right about not eating when you are too hungry. That enchillada stayed with me allllll niiiiiight LOOOONg! lol.

Well, off to start my day. Just trying to be patient until 9 a.m. when I can call the surgeion's secretary! Hope everyone has a wonderful op day full of great movement.
Blessings,
Annie

Heather-You are so right that losing the weight doesn’t get rid of the demons. We have to take those things with us for the rest of our lives. The Center for Human Nutrition’s research does show that after you have kept it off for 3 years that it gets easier. I sure hope so. I know that I haven’t really been above this weight for three years, and when I regain, I now seem to plateau the other direction here. So maybe I’ll never go back up to 600 now. That’s a little help I guess.

Annie-You say 11 more pounds like it is so ordinary now. You are doing great. I’d like to know who you have to bribe to lose that much. That celebrating with food thing is the biggest hurdle that I have faced. It is harder than learning to exercise or bingeing.

Mechell-Have you ever seen one of those kid sized punching dumbies? Try one of those for stress relief. I’ve been know to even tape things over the face like an add for oreos.

Sharon-Try a health food store. They carry tofu dogs, and veggie dogs that are also soy based. The shish kebabs sound good too. As long as you have a plan, that’s the key. You could be anemic. When I’m on a diet, I add B12 to my supplements because I eat such a small amount of red meat. It can cause joint pain, and sores in your mouth like you’ve burned it with hot soup.

Sue-When you are in a muscle building phase, you won’t lose much weight, but will lose some inches. The best part is that when you body feels like it has built enough muscle for its present efforts, then it starts burning fat big time. My mom is big on top like you are, and she used to joke that she wished they made stretchers for tops like they do for shoes. I told her just stick a couple of volleyballs inside it while it is still wet, and that would work. For some reason she was not amused.

Donna-Everytime that I think I am on top of stuff, that’s when it blind sides me. Papa John’s get at you subconsciously through commercials. When I’m having a hard time, I either don’t watch TV, or I just turn off the commercials. This is hard enough.

Toofat-You’re not a fraud. I learned the hard way that staying away while not OP just makes the binge last longer.

I’m taking my first midterm in 14 years today. Wish me luck.

thansk for all the mind words. yes i do need to face the music!luckily i have that eating demon in control now and staying OP today and getting in some good housekeeping too.

Oh, please don't stay away when struggling. I think that's when this place helps the most!!!

Ratkitten -- I have come too far to let some 100's of calories get me down. It's when the binge keeps going and the weight starts creeping up... that's the problem! One night, not ideal, but I can handle it.

So, I am sitting at my desk with my carrot and cucumber sticks to stave off hunger. I will take a walk to and from lunch. And then this evening (my dangerous time) I will exercise. And then, if I eat a few extra calories this evening, I will have less time to do it and will have burned some extra. :D

Take THAT, binge! :rollpin:

Deb– You reminded me of a great quote the other day, and here is one for you:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

I think you will regret much more not going than any possible outcomes of going. However I have been there too. I avoided seeing my best friend from high school for years because I didn’t want her to see me at my highest weight. I totally regret that now. Since we weren’t in touch I wasn’t invited to her wedding and I didn’t even know she had kids until recently. Luckily we reconnected and I am so thrilled, but I wish I had never let us drift apart. Also, just think that when you do lose the weight that then they can ooh and ahh over how far you have come.


I am just popping in very briefly during my lunch break. I am in meetings all week (ugh!) and there is a ton of food in the office. I have promised myself a copy of the game Jade Empire (for PC) if I can get through without eating anything off plan. I think I can make it. Luckily I bought the snacks and I got some grapes and freeze dried fruit, which should keep me away from the oreos and chocolate.

Ooooo, your Mark Twain quote reminded me of another:

"A ship in port is safe, but that's not what ships are built for."
-Grace Hopper


Luv,
RK

wyllenn i love your attitude. and it does remind me i am not the only one struggling!its a daily battle for everyone!

It certainly is! For some reason, it helps me to know. I guess because I see that you can struggle AND succeed!! :D

Nancy -- You don't want those nasty oreos and chocolate. I took a look and they are all moldy. You don't want that!!! :D :D

Debbie-Yeah, that makes sense. I was on my diet for about a year before my roommate at the time decided to start doing it with me. I didn’t nag or even suggest it. I made two dinner portions. If she ate it fine, if she didn’t, I’d eat it for lunch the next day. She was overweight, and was so close to having to go on insulin that she was starting to have kidney function trouble. Eventually just watching me made her want to try it. She lost 100 pounds, and has kept it off for 3 years now, and is no longer anywhere near being diabetic.

Nancy-If I worked where there was chocolate and Oreos, I’d be done for.

Sigh...I was having such a good week and then today...sugar/fat binge. Why? Because I didn't have groceries in the house and stopped at a home-cooked take-out food place. Dang..dang..dang. I'm sure I had over 3000 calories in nastiness. (and even worse, I felt like crud afterwards and took a 2 hour sugar rush "nap")

So, toofatforyou, I completely understand.

And ratkitten, love the Hopper quote. In fact, I think I'm going to write it on my refrigerator.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words and encouragement. I know all of you are right. I know I will go to the wedding. I just need to psyche myself up for it. And I need to make the best effort I can between now and then to lose some weight. Because I can honestly say that so far, I have NOT been making my BEST effort.

Annie - :congrat: on another 10 pounds down.

Ammi - Nice to see you posting again. :)

Nancy - Thanks for the Mark Twain quote. I know those words are true. The other day I was chatting with a couple of friends and someone asked the question what is everyone's biggest regret. I was not able to think of ANYTHING in my life I wish I had not done but I could think of PLENTY of opportunities missed that I would love to do over.

OK, let me tell you all how big of a nerd I am. A few months ago I pre-ordered the newest Harry Potter book from Amazon and yesterday got an email from them guaranteeing the book would be delivered to my house on the day of it's release - 7/21. If something happens it's not delivered by 7PM that day they will refund the price of the book. I am so excited to know I will get it that day that I am already planning to spend all day Sat. and Sun. immersed in HP. :o In fact, I am trying to reread all the previous books to refresh my memory of all the goingson. Well, obviously I can't read 6 books between now and then so I will skim.

That's all. Thanks again for being so kind.