Hello, I am so angry that ive just gained back 70 pounds i had taken a year to lose. im so angry i hurt my leg and i know the doctor is gonna say take the weight off. Why did i let myself get this way again and again?? I was here for a short time before for my daughters sake but this time its for my sake. i will be in a wheel chair soon with all the health issues and now the knees are giving out at 62 years old. I went back and read some past post and that alone has encouraged me to at least try.
First off im from Montana, married forty years to same guy, and kids are all grown up and now i have 1 granddaughter. Im thinking on lap band surgery but really dont want to go that way, not after seeing what my daughter went through. Seems so simple just to stop eating but ive tried every diet since i was 14 years old. i just think this is a neat group here by reading the post and looks like lots of caring support can be found amongst the friendly smiles.... maybe i can help also.... Carvinmom
Hello and I think the big thing when it comes to dieting, sticking to it and maintaining any loss you have is that you have to do it for yourself. You mentioned that last time you lost that fabulous 70 lbs you did it for your daughter. NOW you are doing it for yourself and I bet this time around you will lose the weight and keep it off. All my adult life I have dieted, losing and gaining the same 20 - 30 lbs, and each time although I knew I was looking a bit better I was always dieting for the wrong reasons. Last year I realised just like you have, that if I didn't do something about my weight I would end up in a wheel chair, bed bound, or worse still dead! That really scared me and since that scare I have been back on my diet, or lifestyle change, and am nearing 100 lbs lost which I have NO intention of ever gaining back.
You have definitely come to the right place for all the friendship and support you will ever need as you go through the ups and downs of losing the weight and keeping it off. Don't be angry anymore about gaining back what you had lost. This time around you won't gain it back. I also don't think you need to go down the lap band route, you know you can lose so much without one, you just need to get started again which is why you are here You can do it
Firstly, we understand. I doubt there's anyone here who just decided to lose the weight one day and never had a backslide, who never lost some weight and then regained it. Often we regain more than we lost, so you're already ahead of the game by stopping now, before you gain the rest back! You have a head start, as of TODAY. I know you can use that to your advantage in getting started back down the scale.
Secondly, I know it wasn't easy the first time you lost that 70 pounds, but YOU DID IT! and I know you can do it again. You must have enjoyed that success, so I hope that you can grab on to that healthier memory of yourself and keep reight on workin' to get it back.
Third - Oooo, boy! did you come to the right place. I love it here, and I know this site and these ladies have a lot to do with my success, whether I'm actively losing, or maintaining. ( I won't say "JUST maintaining" because we both know that holding steady is a feat all it's own.) You'll have your own favorite places on the site, your own favorite threads, and you'll find you don't always have time to keep up, but please hang in there. Please remember we're here when you need us, and coming and typing is WAY lower calorie than letting the fridge demon suck you in. We do our best to help keep eachother on track.
I don't know if it will help you or not, because people are different and I know there are folks here who are the exact opposite of myself. I discovered that have a carb addiction problem, especially breads and ANYthing with white sugar in it. It's horrible weaning myself off them (I aDORE breads and sweets) but I found that if I can just do it for 10 or 14 days, that I start eating like a lean person - I don't even miss them anymore. On the other hand, I have no problem dealing with fatty foods like some other people do. I can 'just say no' or replace them easily with other foods. Perhaps you have a specific trigger food, or food group, that gets you in to trouble. Just a thought anyway. Journalling is a pain in the fanny, but it's very effective for everyone that I know of. ...In fact a good friend was just reminding me that I need to get back to it, just last night.
Lastly, I LOVE MONTANA! What an amazing state! I've never gotten too far from the interstates, so I'm sure I've missed the best parts. I was up in Great Falls once and got caught in -20 degree weather, but coming back south the temps gained about 35 degrees just between Helena and Butte. You sure know how to do winter out there!
Welcome back to 3FC, and I wish you all the success in the world!
Last edited by NoLifeWithoutHorses; 01-26-2007 at 05:14 PM.
oh . thank you! thank you! Ammi and Valerie for the pep talk and the nice welcome. im some what housebound at times with Polymyalgia, form of arthritis and i been struggling with my getting back on track.. what i have found right now my farmer husband seems to think hes retired in the winter and loves to eat everything all the time.. while im trying to diet!! So i decided to join a group and im glad i picked this one!! I have put a calander on the frig , one that erases after each week, so i can plan my meals ahead . And put water down i drink during the day.. plus meds!!
I remember i did better when i planned and wrote it down.... it takes work to eat right!! Dont it!!....
I thought id look into some recipe groups... my biggest trouble is gluten and sugar or anything white!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! really.
So id like to start with a healthy breakfast and six small meals a day.. hows that sound........ what are some tips you and others have found useful..
I can relate to being angry at gaining weight you worked so hard to lose. I have been there and done that with a vengeance. Just keep trying. The only way to fail is to give up. As people will tell you here, I never either endorse or slam different diet choices. I believe any diet can work if you stick to it, but try to think healthy eating first. In your case, I'm going to stick both feet in about one issue - the surgery thing. I realize that lap band is not the same type of surgery as a full gastric bypass, I do want you to know in case no one else will tell you, your doctor included, that they have found the 2% mortality rate with the big surgery doubles for people over the age of 60. They are finding in the study of people on Medicare who had the surgery done a mortality rate of 4.8 percent in the 30 days following the surgery. The study was printed up last fall the Journal of the American Medical Association, and practically ignored. That's a higher rate of mortality than for heart bypass. The only reason I heard about it is that my older brother is an internist who specializes in diabetes. I want you and all the other chickies around here for a long time to continue to kick me in the butt.
Don't feel bad I have been there and done that also.
I weighed 332lbs and within one year of dieting and exercising I was down to 155lbs. I looked fantastic. But I couldn't keep it off. I am back where I started. Talk about a disappointment. It took me 11 years but I have managed to be back above 300.
I do want to say that this web site is great! I love reading all the posts. It has really helped to motivate me back into yet another weight loss program. This time, I need to deal with the reasons I overeat.
Lost but desperate to try again
I think the big thing when it comes to dieting, sticking to it and maintaining any loss you have is that you have to do it for yourself. You mentioned that last time you lost that fabulous 70 lbs you did it for your daughter. NOW you are doing it for yourself and I bet this time around you will lose the weight and keep it off. All my adult life I have dieted, losing and gaining the same 20 - 30 lbs, and each time although I knew I was looking a bit better I was always dieting for the wrong reasons. Last year I realised just like you have, that if I didn't do something about my weight I would end up in a wheel chair, bed bound, or worse still dead! That really scared me and since that scare I have been back on my diet, or lifestyle change, and am nearing 100 lbs lost which I have NO intention of ever gaining back. 
You can do it 
