2009 was probably the worst year of my life. Without going into detail, I had been here before, and it did help me lose a bunch of weight (support and all). Then 2009, everything fell apart and I gained it all back and then some. Surprisingly, that wasn't the worst thing that happened this year. So at least I have that, and I know I can do this.

After a long, hard look at my life, I'm realizing that my self image is holding me back. Not that I can't do things, but I choose not to because of how I feel about myself. I used to always think that things would just work themselves out (I'd lose weight, be happy, fall in love), but these things didn't just happen for me. Time doesn't heal all wounds and it doesn't solve all my problems.

So... here I am. Again. And this time, failure is NOT an option. It isn't that I'm going to "try" or "do my best". I WILL do it. I WILL get up to exercise. I WILL eat vegetables and beans and fruits. I WILL cut way back on pasta and snacks. I WILL closely monitor portions. It's a simple formula that works. Eat less/exercise more. And it has to be eating the right things.

I'm putting this out into the universe. I will hold myself accountable. If I am feeling down or doubting myself, I will come here for support. So, it begins...

My fridge is now filled with leafy greens, fruits and frozen veggies and fruits. Taking out the unhealthy food is an important step. If it isn't there, I can't eat it (easily).

That's wonderful, Bella!

You can do this. Baby steps...

I just turned 30 too. For the past four years, I've been carrying around about thirty pounds too many. I still looked okay, so I told myself I didn't need to address my weight problem. But I felt terrible. And my confidence was shot through, which made me grumpy and nasty when I didn't really have a reason to act in such a way. I was stressed out and living in a city I just didn't like. So I decided this would be the year I'm changing my life -- I'm on my way to dropping the extra weight and I've made plans to move back to a state I love (AZ!). I still become glum and discouraged sometimes, but I then remember how much better I feel just from making those resolutions...now I just need to follow through!

I am going to be turning 30 next month and I completely understand not being happy with your life. I have made some bad decisions and am really trying to correct them now. I have already made some positive changes this year so I am going to keep doing so even though I am struggling right now that is the only way things are going to get where I want them to be.

I am new on here also so hi to everyone.

I guess if we're going to struggle anyways, might as well get better, right? I used to think I couldn't change, it would be too hard. But it was hard anyways. So now I look at it, if I'm going to struggle, I might as well get something good out of it.

We can't change the past, it's done. But we can do our best to make sure that this time next year, we've kept these promises to ourselves to make positive change.

And welcome!

Fox98 and welcome back Bella.

I've been "trying" to lose the weight for years, since I was in 4th grade. I never really had the inclination to watch portions or what I was eating, as long as it was less than I had been eating. I tried WW when I was a kid; never worked because I was growing and needed to eat! I tried portion control but lost interest because "it was too hard". Fat-free snacks were the end of me- as long as they were fat-free, they were also "calorie-free" (turns out, they're not! )

Now that I'm 30, I realise that I NEED to lose the weight. I've managed (through sheer dumb luck over 3 years) to lose 20kg and now I need to lose the last 20 and I'm going to do that this year. I want a baby or two, I want to feel sexy for DH and I want to be more confident in myself.

I've been hungry and just let myself feel hungry, to know that I'm not going to die because my stomach rumbled. The other day, I let it rumble for a half-hour because I took control of my body, not letting my body take control of me. Funny, it actually felt good to do that. I was a little outside my comfort zone, but I did it. I'm starting to enjoy being out of my comfort zone; life is infinitely more interesting!

That said; I know this year will be the year for me to finish this fight. It's been raging for 30 years and now it's time to kick some butt.

We're all here for each other.

Welcome ladies!

Baby steps and keep getting back up. My dad always told me that you only fail when you quit trying and the only reason you can't do something is that you don't want to bad enough. It sounds like you both have the drive and determination to see this through.

We'll all keep getting back up together until we all see the finish line!

It's about little goals, not the big picture, right now. This week, today, the next 5 minutes. I can do this. I have to.

And I think, we all can.

Yes, you are right. You can do this. We can do this. Welcome to the 3FC. The support you need is HERE. The answers you need are here too. It is simple but not easy and a struggle for any one of us here. Decide your method and then set your environment for success.

Welcome. I look forward to reading about your journey.