[Violin Jenn]

Hi Ladies!
I'm in the same boat! Single, no kids and thiry-five. Recent events in my life have caused my friends to show their true colors, most have severed our friendships all together simply because I had to work late or study on occassion. But it's all for the better since I'm glad I know whose truelly been a friend. As soon as I take my final exam on Monday, I'm going to take the advice of all you smart ladies and check out Meetup.com.

[mightyme]

Hi all... it's funny, I'm also extroverted so to speak, but it doesn't generally turn into a true friendship. When my husband and I had our first dd I was only 19 and lost all of my old friends because we grew up fast- I don't regret it at all- but it was hard to adjust to. Now in my 30's with 2dd's, I work from home and go to university- it's not any easier!
I did make one amazing friend though- and she is the hermit of all hermits, but we just clicked. I think it's part just bumping into the right person. If you never get outside your house, you never have a chance to "bump!"
Working from home has def. been isolating, and I often want to change that, but it's really good for the dd's to have me so accessible. I think in your 30's you're often pulled so many ways that friendships fall by the wayside. I think it picks up again once we're more settled.

[nonabee]

In my opinion, it's hard to make friends when you don't know who you can trust given the world we live in. It's even harder to keep the friends you have once uncommon interests, babies, marriage, career goals, etc. push you apart.

[kaebea]

going along the lines of what devsmama said, all friendships are for a reason.
someone once told me that friendships have a life and when the life of the friendship runs it's course, it's just time to let it go and move on. it's not bad, it just is the way some freindships are.

[Devsmama]

Part of what some you ladies are saying is true, in your 30s we're busy with other things that take priority. But I think the mistake that most women make is this: we put everything into our children and husbands/boyfriends/significant others whatever, that we LET our friendships go. And when the husbands/boyfriends/significant others whatever leave and the kids grow up, we feel lonely, sad, and depressed. We have to have a life outside of our families. I think that's what kept my parents together for over 30 years (until my mom died) she had her own life and so did my dad and so did us kids. She loved us all, she worked full time, and she was there for all of us, but her time, was her time. So when we were old enough to leave, she didn't feel that empty nest syndrome, she went on with her life, travelled more, did a lot of different things. That's what I do now, my son is 14, I'm single, he has friends that he wants to spend time with and so do I. On the weekends he goes to his dad's house, I go do whatever I want, without worrying, with my friends.