Glad to have you here!
I agree with Lauren, dump the guy. If he doesn't care, then he doesnt care and he isnt the one for you. Believe me, it's like night and day when you find the one who DOES care. My husband is the best and treats me great. I am 100 pounds overweight myself and was not much smaller than I am now when we starting talking to each other (before dating).
Anyway, I have always done the best with calorie counting. I can eat 2000 a day and still lose. Right now I have been floundering but really do want to start losing again. I feel so much better about myself when I am in control of my eating.
good luck and hang in there!
Laura