[passionflower8]

hi, i'm trying to get back on WW. I lost about 50 pounds when I was 10-13 but still was 15 pounds over goal, but i maintained. then when i was 14 i went crazy to lose those last few pounds, not to the point of anorexia or bulimia but i got soo frustrated with the slow weight loss and got crazy counting points ALL the time and never giving myself a break. Once I used water instead of milk in cereal to save points, and sometimes I would only use 15 points per day when i was allowed like 24.
so I'm really afraid to go back to that. I was wearing a one piece bathing suit with my boyfriend the other day at his karate studio and he told me to put clothes on over it and later said that I really didn't look good in the bathing suit. He said he loved me (and we've been together 16 mos) and he would like it if i lost a little weight and he said he wanted us to be able to talk freely about my weight instead of avoiding it all the time. of course i started to get defensive and eventually to cry but i knew he was right and he didn't say it in a coercive or angry way he was just being honest with me. of course i thought at first, what a jerk and was really mad at him, and it still hurts when i think about what he said, but know i've gotten the kick in the *** I need to get back on track. when i told him that he said it wasn't meant to be a kick in the ***, but now all i need to do is think back to that and about my wonderful boyfriend not liking my body and that's enough for me. i 'm about 15-20 lbs to lose now but i know the last few are ****. it was always relatively easy for me to maintain my weight until the stresses of high school but it's always been hard losing weight for me.
and also, i have to try very hard just to maintain being only 15 pds overweight. my whole family is morbidly obese and there's always great food.
I'm so tired of diet food and what really caused me to gain weight was a trip to bahamas where i ate regular food for the first time in years and it tastes sooo good!
anyway, i really like going on internet messeage boards for poetry and debate so i thought this might be the best way for me to get the support i need.
i don't want to start ww mtgs because i'll be away for most of the summer so it would be a waste to join now.
anyway nice to meet you all.
i was also thinking a good thing for me to do would be posting what i eat online because even if no one reads it i'll have something to account to besides my journal and lazy me may not feel like writing but typing might work.

[Glassy]

Well congrats on the initial weight loss! Be proud of how far you have come, and of the fact that you are willing to go the rest of the way. If your boyfriend if concerned about your weight, ask him to help you. No popcorn on dates, go bike riding instead. Can be Very romantic. The men in our lives are important to us, and If your guy is truely trying to be supportive, thats great. and remember, there is lots of support on this board!

[FaeReverie]

Welcome! I'm Fae, and it's nice to meet you .

I can understand what you mean with your boyfriend... mine is a stick, and although he doesn't say anything about my weight to me (I was even bigger than I am now when we started dating.. like 240 lbs when I was 16), but its embarassing to do some things (like jump) with him around because of what it looks like!

This is a great place to come for help, as long as you come and post/read... don't do what I did and be like "Oh, I dont need to go there anymore).. I got myself down to 185, and now I'm right back where I started.. right here, where I know I get tons of motivation!

[Pilatesgrl]

Hi! Welcome! Why don't you tell us a little more about yourself...age, weight, how much you want to lose...
Remember you should try to think about losing weight is for yourself (even I think of who I want to impress with my new body etc) Try not to let anything else said by other people get you down...which is the hardest thing to do!
You can get the figure you want if you work hard enough! (as I'm telling myself that as well...)
Good luck with your boyfriend...just becareful if comments like the one he made about you putting more clothes on continues, because that wouldn't be caring and respectful. Everyone makes mistakes and says things they regret later...but it were a habit that would be very wrong of him.
Just come to us for support! We'll help you out the best you can...Goodluck and it'll be great to hear of your success!!!!!

[Daisy Boo]

come and join us in the chat and feel free to vent about what ever you want. the ladies on here are a great sounding board and i honestly can tell them things i would tell people in my life.

a good program to use is fitday for monitoring your food. otherwise feel free to start a thread here and use it for accountability. i have actually been thinking about doing it for a while now.

[denice81]

welcome passionflower! everyone here is great, stick around, they're all wonderful at keeping the motivation up!

[Stephanie Osborne]

hi passionflower, welcome to the board. I couldn't handle it if someone gave me a "kick in the butt..." I think weight is such a personal thing, unless someone asks DONT TELL rofl.