[Newmala]

Well I logged in for the first time in almost a year today. A lot sure has changed.

Anywho, I'm currently going through a divorce and this has seemed to to do WONDERS for my weight loss. I am at the weight I was at this time last year but I also gained 15lbs and now have lost it, so I guess i'm right back where I started.

My husband was the type who could eat 10,000 calories a day and never gain a pound. He would eat full meals before we went out to dinner, and then eat again. He was tall, skinny and muscular and the same size as he was when he was 17. Me on the other hand gains weight very easily. I seemed to put on a lot of weight during the time I was with him, then lose, then gain and then lose. Being married to a skinny person makes it easy to get off track

But now, I have a lot of free time on my hand and I only grocery shop by myself. I've learned that eating 1,200 -1,500 calories a day REALLY DOES RESULT IN WEIGHT LOSS. Whereas before I would starve myself, see quick results and then fail again. The weight is not coming off as fast, but I know it will be worth it.

I feel better, and have energy and seem to be on the right road. However, somedays I just can't even get out of bed because I'm depressed about the divorce (doesnt help that he left me for a skinnier girl than me, who by the way has the same name as me, lovely). Also suffered a miscarriage in April at 3 months. All sorts of good stuff going on emotionally

Anyone else been on the divorce train and had the same problems?? What did you do to power through it??

[bargoo]

You will get through it, there is no magic answer. Take it one day at a time.
It will get better. I have been there and it really does get better. Do the best you can each day and don't worry about the next day until it gets here.

[124chicksinger]

I am in my 2nd marriage, with a 23 y.o. daughter, and together now for 25 years. However, I do know what its like to go through a divorce. Oh, even tho it was long ago.

What you have to ask yourself is "would I be happy with him" and then you have your answer, and maybe it gets easier to move on without him.

You've stated there was a lot going on. A lot of it was bad. Would you want that back in your life? I doubt it. You deserve so much better.

I was still in love with my ex when we broke up--he was having an affair with an older, married, ugly and fat if I say so myself, co-worker. It was hard to get over, but I had to ask myself that question. Could I take him back into my life and pick up where we went off? No. Was is a good marriage? No. Did he treat me like I was special to him? No. Did he deserve me anymore? NO. We had a lot of troubles. He had become a coke addict. It changed him. I was a little afraid of him. Then he started going out and coming home very late. Then, the cheating. My answer was....no....I wouldn't be happy with him. There was no turning back when I realized that. And I got over him.

I met my current husband who treated me like gold--and still does--and although we have had our trials, there has never been any cheating or drugs. He would rather cut off his tongue than to call me a dirty name. Those would have been real deal breakers for me. Of course, I cannot compare the two--they are as different as night and day. And thank God!

You will find someone else to love, who'll love you back. Whatever went wrong in your marriage...it will make you a stronger person who will know what she can and cannot tolerate, and that you deserve to be treated with a mutual respect.

I wish you love and peace and strength.

Donna

[free1]

You'll get through this...brighter days are ahead. Praying for you and cheering you on to goal!