My husband is SOOOO supportive and im so blessed to have him by my side through my journey. He believed in me when I didnt believe in myself, or when i would over eat on my temptation and be so upset and cry and wanting to give up.. he would be so great with his words telling me its okay and its no big deal, when all I wanted to do is give up. Without him it would be tougher, but hes my cheerleader and inspiration b/c he looks amazing hahaha ;P

My husband has been great...in his way I'm doing Weight Watchers, so really, I can eat whatever I want...just in moderation. My first week I lost 3 pounds and was somewhat discouraged when I told him (as I was VERY excited about it) and the response I got was "I lose 3 pounds a day the way I eat and poop....but that's good for you". Errrr...I just have to remind myself that in HIS way he is being supportive. When we go out, he hides food from me...which I need so I don't take as being mean. Like when we went to Olive Garden....he saw me eyeing the breadsticks...but knew since I hadn't taken one yet that I knew I shouldn't have one....so he hide the basket behind the salad bowl and made faces while he ate it and told me "yuck...you wouldn't like them, they're nasty!" I know they aren't, but it makes me laugh and makes it easier to say no thanks. I took a bite out of his and was content. So after week 2 (this past monday's weigh in) I told him I lost another 1.2 pounds and he said that was good that he was proud of me. All though it all, he continues to let me know that he loves me no matter what....that's the biggest help....That he supports my weight loss, but if I don't get it off or don't do it as quickly as I would like, he still loves me just like I am.

This is a tough one, i find that i am the worst person to support.. i know this, because when i am on plan exercising and generally in great form, and i'm on the couch and lazy and i'm like do i want to go... look at BF pleadingly he'll go.. Go for it you'll feel great after... i go and when i come back full of energy i give him a hundred hugs and i am delighted...

Now enter my in hormonal/lazy / "i am NEVER goin to make it want to eat what i want mood" and i'm on couch saying i'm not budging,, BF will go go on for a swim, and i go off on one and say why are you pushing me to lose weight , am i not fine the way i am?? Aaaaaaaahhhhh i do realise it is my own guilt for being off track, and not a personal attack from my "normally amazing" BF..

i dunno if i'm off form i prefer if he just shuts up and i will get back on track myself, and when i'm on plan i'm fine to hear supportive comments..

its such a sensitive issue to me personally and depending on my mood i can take a comment as supportive or take it as an insult..

one day i will reach my goal... weightloss is a royal Pain in the As sssss

today i am having a lazy off day yuk

My sweet boyfriend is generally amazing with support. He knows I have Zumba Tuesday nights, so that's pretty much become non-negotiable - i'll be lazing around and he'll say "What time does Zumba start again? Can you bring home some bread on your way home?" and I just get up and go On the weekend he uses the same tactic "Are you headed to the gym this morning? Once you get back we can (insert fun activity here - go to the markets, visit friends, watch a movie)". It really motivates me, because it's as if it never crossed his mind that I WOULDN'T go.

He leaves my eating pretty well alone - he can eat a lot of food and still stay nice and slim, and he eats junk too! He hasn't complained about me healthy-ing up our dinners - and shows moderate interest when I'm blabbering on about calorie counts and what not.
Me: "Did you know that a whole one of our homemade pizza's has the same calories as THREE slices of Pizza Hut pizza?"
Him:"Oh really, well I guess we'll be making pizza at home more often, cos I luurrrrrve Pizza"
lol

I haven't told my hubby either lol and he is also on the smaller side of normal. i just figure in about 15 more pounds he'll notice, but i'm not going to bring it up lol.

I think he's probably noticed SOMETHING is up! 26 pounds is quite a lot; he probably just doesn't know how to bring it up without offending you! You should mention it to him and see what he says


In fact, without my prompting, my fiancee only brought up my weight for the first time yesterday. He simply said "Now that you're slimmer, it's less fun to poke you." He meant it in a joking manner of course, but it's quite true. When I was heavier he could poke me and I would be fine. Now if he pokes me he tends to hit something and cause pain. He sometimes forgets he can't quite poke me as hard as he used to

Ah man. My stupid guy has never had a weight problem in his life that wasn't fixed by "drinking slightly less on nights out with the lads."

As a result, he's sorta useless as a support system. He's of the, "If you're not happy, why not just do something about it?" variety. He means well, but he just doesnt get it. He's the guy who sees a 400 lb woman at an ice cream place and makes a snide remark to me about why she's doing that to herself, and then I get defensive on her behalf and we dont talk for ten minutes.

He's grown a lot in terms of understanding the need for empathy and diplomacy when it comes to my weight, but I don't ever think that someone who has NEVER had a weight issue can truly understand.

Thank your lucky stars for great support, ladies!

@MaryTylerMoore: After an argument with my man that resulted in a comment that was something along the lines of, "Well, what do you want, am I just supposed to pretend I don't notice you've gained weight?" that almost ended our relationship, my manz has now been banned from being involved in my weight loss efforts. He can suggest we go for joint runs, swims or bike rides, and I refuse to take it as insinuation of anything except for a desire to get out of the apartment... But he gets no comments about my choice of food, he can't say a word about my having second helpings, and lord save his normal-BMI *** if he says a WORD about me gaining.
The fact of the matter is, both of our guys are likely TRYING to be supportive. But they just dont understand the sensitive nature of the subject, and may not be able to ever be supportive in the right way. Sometimes, it may simply be better to seek your support here from the ladies who truly GET it... and leave your man out of the equation.

My boyfriend is overly supportive but not about weightloss. He's a big guy (former NCAA lineman...big) and he sees me and thinks I'm really small in comparison. Whenever I bring up the topic of weightloss, he's usually like "why?". He knows I'm making efforts to lose weight, yet he constantly is trying to push food on me. I haven't gained weight since dating him but sometimes it gets annoying because I feel like its only a matter of time. Grrr. Men.