[BekiCT]

I was trying to think of a witty/less needy title for this thread but I couldn't. Long and short of the matter is that I need help.

Story so far... I was doing well, not losing masses amount of weight but eating well and exercising 2/3 times a week. I felt good and confident. I go visit my partner (ld relationship) and have an amazing week. I allowed myself a week of relaxing. I chilled out yet still ate relatively healthily. I come back and go straight back to work, resolving to go back to the gym the second night back.

Week and a half later....I've not been back to the gym, I'm eating terribly and I feel unbelievably guilty. Every night I resolve that tomorrow I will get back on to it, every morning it fails to materialise. I say I'll go to the gym, I don't. I say I'll eat healthily, I can't help sneaking in a bag of crisps (or two), some chocolate, a muffin or all of the above. I am feeling low for many reasons, but the weight issue has become a main factor.

I need help/encouragement/a kick up the backside to get my arse back on track.

[Porthardygurl]

well..1) we arent all perfect, your human and depriving yourself of a treat once in a while will cause you to fail without doubt..so have a treat..choose healthier treats over high fat high sugar treats..try some sugar free jello or pudding or some sugar free chocolate or some fruit sauce with whip..whatever your fancy..

2)Try adding in 1 back at a time..for instance..if your off your diet..then try going back to eating healthy first before adding back exercise..so that your not trying to get back into everything all at once.

[MiZTaCCen]

Instead of saying you'll start again tomorrow start right now, sure you may have already ruined most of the day but as of this second you can change that.

when I first started this journey I allowed myself once a week to indulge so every week I went to star bucks and pizza nova and enjoyed it. I did work out video's I wasn't working out at the gym and I slowly began dropping weight.

Go to the gym right after work, that way you don't have an excuse you're already out just bring your workout clothing with you to work and make it a habit to head straight there. Eventually you'll mind will forget to go home at the same time (Mine did once when I was on my way home it was my rest day and I found myself getting half way to the gym. there was no point in going back now)

Remind yourself why you are doing this. Make SMALL goals and REWARDS for yourself.

Good Luck!

[singforthedayx]

Been there, done that - so listen to me well. Never ever feel guilty. Okay, you got off track - in the grand scheme of things, it's not that big of a deal. I'll tell you right now, you will always have days, even weeks like that - where you eat what you shouldn't, or don't exercise as much as you should. But it's not going to make or break you either way. You just need to pick yourself up and dust yourself off. It's never too late.

So, you need to stop feeling guilty. Guilty feelings just make you feel more discouraged. What you DO need to do is start working on eliminating tomorrow from your vocabulary. You may have had a bad breakfast, and followed it with an equally bad lunch... but that doesn't mean you can't make yourself a good dinner. And that doesn't mean you can't pop in a workout DVD or head over to the gym this evening. The more time you waste saying "tomorrow" and feeling guilty, the more opportunities you are going to waste.

It's hard, I understand. I've had several weight loss cycles where I've lost weight, and 3 months later had a bad week and gave up... gained it all back and had to start over again. This weight loss thing, it's as much a mental game as it is a physical one. I've been at this for about 9 months now. I still have bad days and weeks.... I still feel guilty sometimes... I imagine I always will, even at goal. And I'm sure you will too. But it's just like riding a horse. You fall off, you just gotta pick yourself up and get back on.

You can do it. Believe me, I've been in that place where I've felt totally hopeless before - if I can get past it, so can you. Send me a PM if you need a cheerleader or want to chat. I have faith in you!

[BekiCT]

Thank you all so much. It is so greatly appreciated. I'd been avoiding this site as I felt a bit embarassed but you've helped me so much.

Thank you, singforthedayx (can I call you Liz?), I just might take you up on that offer if you don't mind. Your progress is very inspiring.

In the past, I'd lost weight, then events knocked me off kilter and I didn't recognise until I'd put back on most of the weight lost. I guess I just started to worry that I was heading that way again. It's 00:11 here now, so I am gonna go to bed and when I wake up later TODAY (not tomorrow) I will start afresh. Baby steps, if needs be.

[MadameZombie]

Tomorrow is a dangerous word in my book. It sort of implies that you have written off the day and that is where weight loss usually fails because tomorrow is always going to be tomorrow if it doesn't start becoming "NO... NOW."

Like Sing said, yeah... You mess up. Maybe you had a bad breakfast and lunch but progress is about deciding that you get back on the horse as soon as you can and have a healthy dinner... go to bed on time... having a healthy breakfast... getting rid of the potato chips. Losing weight isn't an all or nothing thing, it's going to be a process of choices that mostly have to be for the betterment of your health. The one thing that motivates me is this: You do not have to tell you body HOW to lose weight. You don't have to tell your cells how to use energy, you don't even have to think about your body using energy stores for exercise, you just have to do it. Be consistent with your plan and you WILL see results.