So, last night was our Halloween party. I got smashed, which isn't anything unusual. (Although it took so much less to get to that point! I'm becoming a lightweight!) I passed out on my friend's couch and woke up at some point when everyone who was staying over was jockeying for sleeping places. I pretended to still be asleep through all this.
Boy#1: "You can sleep on the couch with Heather."
Boy#2: "Nah, I'd rather sleep on the floor. Where'd all the skinny girls go?"
Now, neither of these boys are friends of mine; they're the high school friends of a friend, and I've had problems with them before. They're dumb and misogynistic and I usually let 90% of what they say go in one ear and out the other. I know they're asshats and douchebags, but that comment really, really got to me.
I also woke up with a penis sharpied on my face. Sigh.
I guess being I'm 29 I just can't imagine waking up with a penis shape on my face in sharpie!
These "boys" have A LOT of growing up to do! Do NOT let their ignorant comments hurt you! Most guys are NOT like this. Trust! They are the types that will need to make a LOT of money to get a "trophy" wife unless they grow up, and those trophy wives? They leave once the money is gone...no real love there.
Besides, you wouldn't have wanted them sleeping on the couch with you anyway.
Ugh...what jerks! That would have bugged me too! I haven't had anyone say anything within hearing distance of me recently. But when I was younger it happened a couple of times from random strangers. It always hurst no matter who it's coming from. Hugs .
It takes every ounce of my strength NOT to freak out on guys like this. It especially happens when drinking, yes, these tools look at women as objects and have no respect for anyone. Don't let it get to you, I know it's hard, but you're better than that
I would have kept my eyes closed and replied, "and what makes you think I'd want a pathetic d*&k on the couch with me?....by all means you both can share it" Some guys are seriously pathetic.
I had something like this happen to me once, (I wasn't drunk, but the "boys" were). Actually, they were adults, probably late 20s, and I'm 18. I was outside of a club and they walked by and one of them said "Hi" and when I turned to look at him he laughed and said "You don't have a chance" and literally ran off. Yeah, it bugged me for a while, but whatever. I don't even know him, so I won't let it affect me. And I figure, if I'm that insecure that I have low enough self-esteem for something like that to get to me, then I need to change myself, LOVE myself to the point where comments like that will just slide off, because I will know, feel, and BE beautiful. And once I believe it, what other people say won't matter one bit.
I would have kept my eyes closed and replied, "and what makes you think I'd want a pathetic d*&k on the couch with me?....by all means you both can share it" Some guys are seriously pathetic.
I really like this response. Totally something I would say (and will, if I'm ever in the same situation).
fatmac - Sorry to hear that happen to you. Boys suck.
It makes me so sad that so many guys think being mean to overweight chicks is funny. I hope they all marry thin women with Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders bodies who promptly put on 100 pounds after marriage.
I remember when I first left for college something like this happened. I was around my highest weight. Probably about 215. Anywho, my suitemates and I went to pregame and then out to the club with this fraternity. We were dancing and one of the brothers, who was this unattractive 5'6'' Indian guy who no one really liked, came up to me and was like "everyone here is so concerned with size..." at this point I had been dancing alone. He then says, " I mean you're like twice my weight but I don't care. I'm drunk and you look good right now so I'm going to dance all up on you." I remember it resonated with me. He probably didn't mean it as an insult but really? How generous of you. Blah!
I've been in the same boat. I am not a confrontational person, so I don't say anything and it usually does stick with me. I also dislike the "are you pregnant?" comments.
I had the are you pregnant question once. And I had lost 30 lbs and was just starting to feel better about myself. People are jerks, and sometimes we even ourselves say stupid stuff.
Things drunk boys say /RANT
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