So I ended up going out last night. I didn't get totally trashed, but I definitely had a lot to drink and was feeling crappy this morning. But that's not even why I'm mad at myself (I hardly ever drink or go out, so I've already forgiven myself for the drinking). I went out w/ a guy my boyfriend works with (he is gay, so the b/f doesn't have a problem with it, LOL).

So we went to a gay bar (is that a politically correct term to use? I don't even know). I love the place, it's lots of fun and I like that I pretty much don't have to worry about any guys hitting on me. I can just have fun and do whatever. We were dancing and talking about random who-knows-what nonsense. The guy I went there with was really great, kinda being protective and making sure he knew where I was, got me into a cab at the end of the night, called to make sure I got in my apartment building ok, etc.

After all this rambling, my point is that even though we all had a good time I feel like I probably made a fool of myself, which I hate. I guess this is what happens when someone has a lot to drink. Everyone had a good time but I can remember at least a couple of stupid things that I wish I hadn't done/said and I'm embarrassed to face this guy again. I guess my only hope is that he was too drunk to remember, LOL. And my boyfriend would never judge me (I've done stupid drunk things in front of him before and he loves me anyway, haha). But I still hope that his friend doesn't tell stories from the night out.

OH, and the one thing I forgot to mention is that my boyfriend met up with us after he got out of work, but he didn't feel like staying so he left and I told him I wanted to stay because I was having fun. I think his feelings might have been hurt. So I'm feeling guilty over that today but like I said, I NEVER go out dancing and I really wanted to enjoy the night.

Anyway, sorry for the long rant. I guess I just needed to vent. And maybe hope that someone else can relate so I don't feel like a loser!!

It doesn't sound like you got too sloppy. Really forgive yourself. Most ppl who hang out in bars/clubs are drunk and silly...why should you be any different? It is a lot worse to have been the sober one not having any fun. And your boy friend will get over it. Gay bars are really not the place for straight men, I wouldn't imagine him enjoying himself there. I'm sure whatever you did is totally OK!

My first party in college (so I was just barely 18), I drank waaaay too much, puked and then spent the rest of the night hugging a fire hydrant, begging my best friend not to let me die. We have all done stupid, stupid stupid things drunk. Believe be, that is one of my tamer drunken stories

I'm sure your friend has seen people do worse; honestly, you may have said a few stupid things, but you didn't seem that bad at all! No drunken tears, trying to hit on random men or dancing on table-tops. Those are the things to be embarrassed about! I'm sure he doesn't think less of you.

I know I should just forgive myself. I don't know why I'm making such a big deal over it. I guess it's just knowing that I have to face this guy again and that he sees my boyfriend at work all the time. I am someone who is always in control so letting go and being silly is just something I'm not used to. But if someone is going to judge me for having fun, I guess that's their problem, not mine.

Thanks for the support ladies! I love having a group I can go to for advice and support when I'm feeling down. You guys never disappoint!

Hi, I know I don't know you guys as I usually hang out over in the SBD forum, but can I jump in?

I think that guilty feeling partially just comes with the hangover. I notice when I drink too much (which is more often than I'd like to admit!) I always feel really embarrassed the next day, even if I did NOTHING embarrassing. If your friend thought you were acting like an idiot he probably wouldn't have been as sweet to you all night as he was. Just get through today and I bet you'll feel way better about the situation tomorrow... and if not, just call or text your friend and apologize for how you acted. I'd be willing to bet he'll tell you you were fine and have nothing to apologize for! Feel better girl!

The night before my birthday (earlier this week) I got totally plastered after drinking more than I ever have...I ended up spilling cranberry juice and vodka on one of our guy friends carpets..I later joked about it on facebook with him but I felt bad about it...
We do stupid things when were drunk. Funny thing is he wasnt even mad about that..he was mad that I refused to let my bff sit next to him..haha
Guys dont over analyze things like we women folk do :-p