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Why cant guy friends be supportive? Or did I just pick the wrongs ones! I posted on my fb that i lost 22lbs in one month and he told me great job, u wanna go out to lunch??? then we continued to chat on sms. Attachment 34397

I think he's just trying to be funny. It's not that he isn't supportive, just has a "different" sense of humor. I don't think he meant it at all.

Guy friends just don't have tact I think. My guy friends will just say, "Wow, you look really tired today!" Which everyone knows means you look like crap. But they mean to sound concerned. I also have a guy friend who has told me I'm ugly-and didn't understand why I was so mad at him because he was just joking and "I couldn't handle it." Yeah...hilarious there buddy...

First of all, 22 lbs in one month!!!!! That's amazing!!!:) Some people just aren't sensitive when it comes to weight. I had a sister tell me to get over my fat self once. The only thing you can do is to distance yourself from these types of people or to really explain to them what this journey means to you. You need to surround yourself with supportive people. Keep up the good work!!!! You're doing great.:hug:

to me thats not funny tho... u know? lol

i try to distance myself but somehow they weasel back in! lol

He's just being a silly boy. I'm sure he thinks he's being hilarious.

He probably does think it's funny and has no idea how hurtful he's actually being. If you talk to him about it ask him how he would feel if you joked around about his biggest insecurity. Everyone has one.

Couldn't have put it better myself.

My weight is my biggest insecurity, they all no that. They think its funny.

Ok, then they are just being jerks.
If you can't avoid them then try to find a way to blow it off evreytime they say something. For instance think of when you lose the weight that they will be eating their words. Then come right to this website so you can get the support you deserve.

Since he's a male I can tell you that in his own idiotic way he is trying to say he's proud of you for NOT wanting to eat the foods that he mentioned. That's what my BF used to do and I would get so upset. Then one of our friends wives told me that he was talking about me to them one day and saying how proud of me he was for sticking to it and not giving up...I was SHOCKED because I didn't think he thought that way because of all of his jokes and stuff.

It's either that or he's just a butt head. ;)

If you feel insecure about your weight I guess I question why you would post something about it on Facebook for everyone to see. (I don't know about you but I have a lot of facebook "friends" who are people I haven't talked to in several years and used to go to school with me.) For that reason alone, I get posting your success here on 3FC where you talk to people going through the same thing, but I guess I don't have the guts to throw that up on my Facebook for all to see and comment on.

Just the same, he's a guy... That just sounds like he's trying to be funny. I work with a couple dozen youngs guys and they say some seriously dumb things just because they think it's funny. Try not to be offended by it... or maybe stick with posting about your losses on 3FC.

Just a thought....

i don't mind posting it on fb, because i'm glad at what i have accomplished so far...my whole thing is if u have nothing nice to say don't say it at all. but if u have too don't make it so i can hear or see it. the ppl that i do have on fb are ppl i've talked to on here and ppl that I am still friends with. i would just like my guy friends to be supportive and understand what i am going thru. that's all. :)

I have heard of more horrible things he tells you on facebook.

He is not your friend. Get rid of him.

oh ya i did take them all off for about 5 months and they wanted back on i told them they have one shot, if they screw it up im done. they actually have been pretty decent better than they were be4. lol