i seriously don't think he did it to be mean, guys just aren't like girls so they don't know how to be tactful.

I don't think you shouldnt be his friend just because he was trying to be funny and if almost seemed like he was flirting with you.

Flirting?!?!?

Hello everyone, I am brand new to this site as of today!! Look forward to talking with all of you!

I agree with Taylor86 - get rid of them and keep them off. You shouldn't have negative people in your life, it makes it harder to stay on track to reach your goals!! As you move forward reaching your goals, you will want to probably add new friends that are supportive, understanding and have common interests. Often times people grow apart in friendships, and that's okay.

Ditch the dude!

:welcome3:, its hard to make friends anymore...i dont know where to look or start. lol

I agree! Ditch him. Going through a weight struggle is hard enough. You shouldn't have to worry about having to read between the lines with your friends, male or female. Surround yourself with love and support instead.

hey all. i'm new here - so i apologize if it seems that i'm just butting in without a hello! but um... my opinion?

MEN ARE SCARED OF YOUR SUCCESS.

Period.

With the exception of my gay friends - I have never received support from a male. If a man isn't giving you support (not even a 'way to go' or 'cool') he is most likely insecure.

Before you feel bad about yourself; always consider the source. Is the person who hurt your feelings happy with themselves? Do they love themselves? Prob not...

Truth is; you are intimidating. You represent progress. (and) let's face it: if/when you do actually get to where you want to be.. you just might start seeing people for who they are. you will be confident and leave a lot to aspire to. Someone who DOES love themselves will see that in you.. and *p0of* you will be snatched away :)

:welcome3: and ty sucha d0ll i never looked at it that way! :)

yw ;] and i just noticed you've lost 74lbs?! Girl - no wonder he's being an ***! lolz ;D

None of them notice it yet... Cuz they dont say anything. Lol

Well, maybe they aren't saying anything because they know you're sensitive about it? Like saying you look good now might be akward for them. I don't know exactly, guys are weird. That being said they noticed. Guys are dense, yes but not blind! 70 lbs is a lot of weight off of you.

Congrats on your success!

ty :)

Dude - no way they don't notice. Men and people in general are insecure. 74lbs is a 7 yr old child! I remember when my bff started her diet (i sat and watched like a dumba**) when she hit that 75lb mark... it was amazing. It doesn't matter if you are 400lbs or 200lbs... 74lbs is wonderful. You must of had to buy all new clothes!

Like I said before - don't let these guys get you down. In fact - don't let ANYONE get you down. Insecure people can't stand to see others succeed because it forces them to look at themselves when (let's face it) they might have looked to you before to make themselves feel better.

I keep replying in this thread because I see a lot of me in your postings. I'm telling you that YOU give ME inspiration. So the more that people don't 'notive' or pay attention - the more you need to use it as your fuel.

I love myself thru and thru. I know that I have a lot to work on, but I am a beautiful person. People like us don't get praise because people are so insecure - they are scared that they might say the right thing; and we'll some how miraculously get the point. But see, you already got the point. So eff those guys.

Each time I see a skinnier person give me a dirty look and grab her bf shoulder, I think 'thhhhaaats right'. haha It makes me want to try that much harder.

Once you hit your goal - you're gonna be rockin. You'll see :D

Awwwe ty so much sucha d0ll, that means alot...I wish i had gotten new clothes, but ive been this size before...And yes i am a pack rat, i still have my old clothes fr sz 32-18 so anything after 18 I gotta go shopping! :) I know I am a beautiful girl at any size...i just wish i had more confidence...hopefully this journey will help me and to fig out who i am. ty u and ty u guys again! :)

Maybe I am crazy here. But I think he is being supportive.

He told you that you were doing a great job. Which is a nice compliment, most of my guy friends would have just passed up a status update on that. And he put himself out there in asking you out to lunch. People who haven't had to lose weight wouldn't think that a lunch could derail someone. He just wants to celebrate with you.

You can tell he's flirting with you/teasing you as a friend because he mentions an "All you can eat bacon buffet". To my knowledge, those don't even exist. He's not mocking your weight loss, he's joking around by playing up the worst foods he knows.

I would urge you not to write him off. He seems like a good guy, who is interested in your success, even if his humor is different than yours.