Are you still friends with anyone from high school? It amazes me that I still try overly hard with people who were my friends in highschool when I don't think I really care anymore. They were fair-weather friends then and now. I was in one girls wedding and some things didn't go accordingly (I had to drive 6 hours to get there) and now we never talk. I'm in 1 facebook pic from the wedding (group shot, although the dresses were really ugly...) where others were in a lot. Including a shot of her "best friend". So why wasn't her "best friend" inthe wedding party? If I get a response at all it's 2 words. So why do I feel compelled to continue to get my feelings hurt by people like this? They've turned into people I'd never want to associate with now so why does it bug me?
I am only 21, so I haven't been out of high school that long.
I am close with two people from high-school, and speak regularly to an additional two. I might randomly speak to a handful of other people, mainly on Facebook.
Part of me feels like you never leave High School. You experienced the most awkward years of life with these people, there is all this social pressure of showing-up people from high school, etc. It still bugs me when people from high school are seemingly doing better than I am, despite how happy I am with my life. its a tough equation. I think you just have to move past it as best you can
I know what you mean about never leaving high school. I never really fit in with anyone actually. Most of my class were heavy partiers, something I've never been interested in. I'm wonderfully happy with my life-I have a fantastic husband, on the verge of opening my own business, etc-and when I look at them I think wow, you act the same as in high school, still only really care about partying. I'm at the point where I just don't care about having them in my life but still feel snubbed or get hurt when I try to take an interest in their lives and get ignored or 2 word answers.
ugh I'm the same exact way! I try to get them to come visit and do fun stuff, and I text them, and I get one word responses two hours later...I dunno why I try so hard, guess I just don't like feeling left out or something.sad.
I have one friend from highschool I still hang out with.. but we have been friends since we were little. We were actually bed babies in the church nursery together.
Other than that its just a few hellos here and there. SO many people friend requested me on FB from high school and I wasn't friends with them then, so why would I want to be friends now?
I was in the band and had my friends there.. I was a nerd! Oh wait.. I still am!
Kinda.. I'm not friends with any of the "good" friends I had in high school but I've really become friends with other people I went to school with but never really like or cared about being friends with. It's funny how things change..
Um, I'm still friends with a few girls from way back then.... But I was friends with then from middle and elementary school. I have been reconnecting with people on facebook but that isn't really "friends" now is it? Even though we went through a period where we didn't really talk more than a few times a year right after high school we talk all the time now. I have a feeling I might have retained more friends after HS if I hadn't left the way I did. I went to 3 months of my Senior year and then I lost my living situation so I had to go crash with my girlfriend in another town. I DID graduate, just from the alternative school. But at the time I had so much crap going on personally that it honestly didn't occur to me to call anyone and let them know I was moving/leaving school. Looking back I'm sure it must have seemed weird. Here one day, gone the next. And I was kind of noticeable at the time. Blue/pink mohawk, ripped up clothes, stompey boots etc. I was quite alternative. In a small, conservative town. Yeah. I didn't "blend" well. LOL.
i know what you mean . I am 21 will be 22 soon. This girl and i were really close in high school i gave her my number and address and she just never called ( she never gave me her number) i found her on facebook 3 years after high school and she has a baby. i dont know really how to talk to her when i look at this person she has become i can honestly say i dont know her. it hurts to know that things wont ever be the same. But hey when i look back i can still say she was once my best friend..
as for talking with other friends from high school i actually still hang out with one and talk to a bunch via myspace and facebook.. Its hard but honestly who really keeps in touch with everyone they knew in high school..
I'm friends with a few, three to be exact and then I am friends with some women I went to university with. And these are real friends with who I can talk about anything. I had one more from university but she started avoiding me and getting very jealous last time I lost weight, so I'm glad I found that she wasn't all that reliable after all. I still get a lot of people from HS who are curious about where I am and what I do, not really sure why as they didn't seem very interested at the time.
Im still best friends a with about 5 girls that I grew up with. I was the only one to leave MO and go away to college so they all hang out together and all but two of us are married and dont have kids. I luv them to death and I they are really my roll dawgs!!! I also have a group of college buddies that are my travel crew because no of them are married and with kids. All my HS friends and I have been thru a lot w/ eachother so I am happy to say that they are still in my life. Our 10yr reunion is this yr and Im sure we are the only ones that hang out w/ such a lrg pack!!!
Okay I totally understand this. I never wanted to stop being friends with my HS friends but it just seemed to happen. You slowly move apart, phone calls become shorter and shorter, you have a RL and can't seem to make time to meet. It sucks, but it happens. I'm friends with my high school friends only when I go back to my home town. Other than that I really don't talk to them, and in return they really don't talk to me. My best friend (who still holds the title) is from my HS days, granted we had known each other since kindergarten but hadn't became friends until our last semester of senior year. It's hard to be her friend as I live half-way around the world, but I think we try as best we can to still be friends.
Unfortunately I've noticed that a lot of my HS friends and I are on different pages in our lives. The majority of them have kids and husbands, while I've got school and traveling. We just don't have much to talk about anymore. I do the random fb commenting sometimes, but honestly it's not much.
You probably feel hurt because they were an important part of your life for so long. Heck, I still feel hurt sometimes when I don't get responded to. But, if they were real friends they wouldn't do that to you.
I am still friends with half a dozen of my old school friends. However some that I am quite close with now I was only an acquaintance of during school. We ended up in the same city and just grew closer.
It takes a lot of effort to maintain a friendship which is easy when you're put together day in and day out at school. In the real world you have to create those situations and thats where it can take effort. You quickly realise who are the people worth making that effort for and those who can just fall by the wayside.
I had a lot of friends who went to the same high school AND church as I did, and were within a grade or two of me, and I'm still close with a few of those (one is my very best friend!). But I'm trying to think of people I knew JUST from high school that I still talk to outside of facebook... and I don't think there are any.
I've definitely reconnected with a few people on facebook, and even started NEW "friendships" with people I never once talked to in high school that turned out to be cool and interesting. But I don't talk to them on the phone or anything.
Except the ones who occasionally call me trying to get me to join their current pyramid scheme of choice. Is anyone else having this issue?? "Wow, I haven't talked to you in 8 years, how's it going? ... Oh, cool, yeah, I'm doing well. ... What's that? Helping companies transition to the web? What does that even mean? ... Um, I've gotta go, but I'll call you back some time. *cough*noiwont*cough*"
Am I one of the few that doesn't care? I do have a few friends I keep in touch with from high school. There are maybe a dozen or so that I'm friends with on facebook. That's mainly to see how they're doing every now and then. I have some friends that have gotten married and have children and we don't get to hang so I mostly use it to keep up with them.
I have had plenty of requests from people in high school and I have ignored them because I wasn't friends with them afterwards and don't care what they're doing now.
Although... I'll be the first to admit that I secretly revel in seeing really skinny popular girls from high school gain a ton of weight and look like crap.
My two best friends are girls I went to highschool with, one I met there and one I've been friends with since 7th grade. We regularly hang out with a handful of other girls that we graduated with, but honestly I do not think I would hang out with these girls at all if my best friends didn't.
I have a 1 y/o and a fiance and we are building a house right now, I've graduated from college and am looking for my career job so I am in a totally different place than those girls, but it's still fun to hang out with them every once in a while. My best friends are better friends with these girls than I am, but luckily we all get along and I would probably feel hurt if they didn't want to include me even though I don't really care about a true friendship with them. Go figure.
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Is anyone else having this issue?? "Wow, I haven't talked to you in 8 years, how's it going? ... Oh, cool, yeah, I'm doing well. ... What's that? Helping companies transition to the web? What does that even mean? ... Um, I've gotta go, but I'll call you back some time. *cough*noiwont*cough*"
