Are you surrounded by people that are trying to lose weight?
Ive noticed that one of my biggest emotional problems is that I have no support with my weight in my inner circle. I know that its still very possible to lose weight without it but sometimes its really hard to get in depth conversations with people that do not have the same struggle. Lately Ive been more emotional about this whole journey than anything. Dont get me wrong I LOVE 3fc but there are times when I really wish that I had someone to talk to and or listen to me and help me with different things that I deal with day to day. No of my friends are over weight lol talking to them about it doesnt do me any good. Does anyone else feel like this sometime?
Well, when I started this journey one of my good friends was starting to lose as well...but I haven't talked to her in a very long time, and I don't know if she's even still trying or not...
Other then that, no. I'm the only one trying to lose, and it DOES get lonely...but at the same time, it's something that I need to do for myself, and no one else matters.
I'm alone in my weight loss too.. I guess that's why I'm on here so much!! It's hard, but it will definitely make the efforts & journey worth more in the end..
None of my family were making a concerted effort to lose weight, but they've all had some degree of issue with overweight and/or diabetes, so they're conscious of how to eat better. So they don't give me a hard time or push indulgent foods too hard. My mom asked and brought me plain sweet potatoes to Thanksgiving dinner instead of the candied ones for everyone else; and when I was losing more actively she complimented me a lot.
Yeah, I'm in the same boat too. None of my friends are overweight. I don't talk to anyone except 3FCers about my weight loss...I've gotten used to it, as I've never had overweight friends really, so it's always been a private thing for me.
It's harder to lose when you are surrounded by friends/family who want to eat terrible stuff. Specially on the holiday when they say "oh just a bite" and you are tired of arguing. I didn't go nuts but overall I'm like at 210- not bad for a holiday. This week I'm totally detoxing to get back on track
I feel like this too. None of my friends are overweight but ALL of them eat terribly (around other people at least). They don't understand what it's like to struggle with weight and they don't understand what it's like to have such a troubled relationship with food. That's the reason I'm on here a lot! There's only so much I say about my weight loss to my fiance before I start to feel guilty for boring him lol.
It's harder to lose when you are surrounded by friends/family who want to eat terrible stuff. Specially on the holiday when they say "oh just a bite" and you are tired of arguing. I didn't go nuts but overall I'm like at 210- not bad for a holiday. This week I'm totally detoxing to get back on track
OMG I sooo hate this lol it can be such a pain. Non overweight people have no idea how hard it is for us to "just have a little bite" that little bite turns into eating the whole thing ugh
Its just me who is trying to lose the weight. I do have friends who want to lose weight but do nothing about it but Im the only one actively pursing this weight loss journey. I prefer to go at this journey alone esepcially since my husband is military and my friends are always changing since they move and stuff. My husband helps sometimes but its mostly up to my will power
I feel like all I ever talk about these days is weight and body image. It's getting less so now that people are used to me at this weight again, but I feel like such a broken record about getting healthy and exercising etc. Even though I love talking about fitness and how I'm putting on muscle mass and my endurance is improving...I guess in this way I feel kind of similar to you--like I have to repress talking about this stuff to avoid making people uncomfortable--they always start making comments about how they need to get in shape or seem to feel guilty about eating something unhealthy in front of me, and I don't want things to be weird like that. First of all, I don't even think weight is a great indicator of health. Second of all, my weight loss is not a judgment on anybody else. So while it seems like there are people all around to talk to about this stuff, I'm glad I can share my accomplishments on 3fc without all that awkwardness IRL.
Two of my good friends lost significant amounts of weight before I started losing weight. Another has lost 55 pounds since August (dangerously fast, I know. But damn she looks great! haha and she's had no complications so far). My sister has never had to lose a lot but she is someone who has to work to maintain her weight so she gets it. And my mom has battled with her weight since her teen years (of course "fat" then is like my goal weight!). So I guess I do have a pretty good support system. I do not, however, know anyone who has or needs to lose as much as I do. But they still get it.
But if you really feel like you need to talk to your friends about your weight loss then tell them that. Explain what it's like, what it takes, why it's hard, what you need from them, etc!
I talk about weight loss all the time with just about everyone I'm close to. It's a huge part of my life and when people ask me how things have been weight loss is bound to come up. My best friend is trying to lose weight as well so we talk about food and fitness often. I am starting to feel like people are sick of it though, and they do seem to feel guilty when they are making poor food choices around me.
I also have friends that are starting to avoid me because we used to go out to eat all te time and now I don't want to eat out as much. Sometimes I do wish I had people around me that were more into fitness so i at least had someone to go to the gym with.
I have alot of people around me who "try" to lose weight/ think they need to lose weight;however, very few who are making attempts or seeing progress. We are girls so often we'll make self deprecating remarks and everyone joins in. I am actively trying; however, I never really have "talks" with people about it. I talkto my boyfriend who is 6'2'' and 21O. He always says he wants to get back in shape and he's so flabby and blahblahblah. And how he feels liek he needs to lose weight because I'm in such good shape and he gets weird when I say I want to lose another 15ish pounds. He knows though about my struggle with weight and he's always like, I'm sure you're making it worse than it is. I don't know. He like hates his body more than I hate mine and its strange. I just don't know what to do. So, yes and no.
My mom and some friends back at home are all into weight loss. Most of them have baby weight they are trying to get off. But most of my friends here are not as bad. I have a friend who is a runner and we talk fitness and dieting but she is way skinny (dancers body). And I work at a hospital and everyone gets annoyed when I say I cant eat this or I pull out my hummus and carrots because they all think Im crazy for even thinking I need to lose weight. I tell them I know where my body needs to be and Im gonna get it there...haha!! But yes it would be nice to have someone physically there to chat with and compare notes with when it comes to something this important.
I feel that way. I'm surrounded by family members that are either overweight or obese, with diabetes and high blood pressure and nobody is doing anything about it. My house is stocked with cookies, ice cream, frozen fries and chicken nuggets, microwave burritos, sugary cereals, ramen noodles in a cup (something I love), etc. There is never any fresh fruit, very few vegetables, etc. Temptation is all around me.
Work is my only escape from such bad food until a new girl showed up at work and I befriended her. Said "friend" used to weigh a little more than 300 lbs and got down to the 180s. That's wonderful for her but she started sabotaging me when she lost the motivation to lose her remaining weight. Now that she's gone, work, once more, is my haven for avoiding junk food.
I'm hoping once I get the ball rolling and lose weight that my family members will see and understand that they should try to eat better themselves. But I seriously doubt it.
Are you surrounded by people that are trying to lose weight?
