You're kind of in the same place, then, as vast numbers of women coming to this forum who have lived with that experience as women larger than the societal ideal. The same thing is true for you as it is for them - if they're that superficial, they're not worth anything. You have to keep putting yourself out there and keep living your life, regardless, just as all the women ignored by men have to do. The right people are out there. I'm sorry it sucks right now.

well i will believe you if you tell me your real age
but personally i don't like to date young looking guy
personal taste i guess - make me feel old
I wouldn't date someone who's actually younger than me.
I just don't like younger looking/ real younger than me
It all comes to personal taste I guess
And since from beginning I wouldn't want to date you, then I guess I wouldn't give you much chance to improve yourself in my eyes - therefore, no date either

Well, that's probably what a girl might think. :) (I guess?)

Looking young and being young are two different things. I have a friend, he's 7 years younger than I am. He has a huge crush on me, but that's just too young. He's younger than my sister, so there's a weird dynamic there for me. Yes, he looks young (about 16 when he's 20) but it's his actual age thT keeps me from giving him a chance. It just feels like I'd berobbing the cradle or something.

I'd believe you when you told me your age, why wouldn't I? Unless you're a known liar or something, I'd have no problem believing you :P

As for looking young, that's not a bad thing. You and all the ladies you're interested in will probably appreciate it more as you get older!

As for my, I don't really care much what a guy looks like. Yeah, I have to be attracted to him but that comes more from the personality then anything else. The last guy I dated and my current boyfriend look older then me but that's because they are :P

I've also heard several girls state that they would never date a guy that weighs less than them? How many of you feel that way? Might be another strike against me since thee are not many people out there that weight less than me.

I think a lot of women "say" this, but I don't think most women would automatically discount a guy for weighing less than them.

I always said that. My husband is the only man I've been with that has weighed more than me, though, so that shows you how much water that held with me.

Even though I'm not a 20-something, I thought I'd pop my head in here to note that age is not a major issue with me. I'm 33, and my live-in boyfriend is 23. It's all about maturity (personality-wise) and compatibility for me, rather than looks, age, etc. :D

Yes. But I'm waiting until I lose the weight before that/ dating.
I used to weigh.. alot less :lol: and yeah, it's one of the 'criterias' I had (have).

I don't think its a maturatiy issue. I've been told all my life that I act life that I act more mature than people 10+ years older than me. For example most people I know now say that I act more mature than people other people they know who are in there 30's. These people themselves are older than me ranging from 25 - 55.

nah i wouldn't believe i would of ask for proof of your age lol

:hug:

For me , all my boyfriends have looked much younger than they are, see thats my type.

Everyone has one, you just need to realise that yes some women won't be interested in you, but then again if you looked older then there would be some woman that wouldn't be interested in you then.

If when you talk to woman they don't talk back or aren't interested, then thats their issue, you will find someone who is attracted to you because off the way you look AND the the whole person you are.

Easier said than done I know, good luck

i have to ask, what sort of girls are you approaching? i mean, do you know them or do you just see someone you think looks attractive and go up to her? and if you don't mind me asking, what exactly is your usual approach...?

Any girls at all. Not even trying to "pick them" up. Believe me I don't go around like Will Smith from the Fresh Prince of Belair and say corny pick up lines to every attractive girl I see. I go to a restaurant try and start a conversation with the person who takes me to my seat and I get ignored. I try to talk to girls in my college classes past and present and I get ignored. I still take 1 college course a semester towards my masters.

An example there was at a store in the mall and went the counter to ask if they had a specific item in stock the person behind the counter was an average looking early 20 something female. When I asked about the item she was like whatever and yelled out to the next employee "This little kid wants to know if we have item xxx". After that the person behind me, a guy in his late 20's asks a similar question and she starts talking to him and is super friendly.

This is just one example that recently happened to me a few days ago. I could name hundreds of others. Usually I would chalk this up to her being a jerk but this is how I get treated by all. It's like I'm invisible or not worth being around :(

Off on a tangent but I really love it when sales people come to my door and ask if my parents are home so they can talk to them.

I've ranted enough for one morning. Its off to paint my kitchen.

Have you asked friends/family why they think you look so young?

That would probably be a good place to start. I mean, maybe it's your hair cut or something. Or maybe Wwearing too much body spray. Nothing says, "I'm 16" like too much Axe (or really any Axe at all).

And I'm sure maintaining a 5 o' clock shadow wouldn't hurt anything.

I would believe you...
When I was dating (we are exes now) my bf told me I looked like I was 27...if he hadn't known me he would have assumed I was older. My mom says he was lying because I looked younger. Even since losing weight people think I am about 17 or 18 and I think it is flattering. But I guess that is because I am a girl?

That guy was my first and only bf. And I know what you mean. Even since losing the weight I haven't started up a relationship with anyone new. I think part of it is self esteem, but I don't know...
Hang in there though. I am sure you will find someone!