This thread has made me realize shamefully how judgemental I am myself.
I'm an Early Childhood Educator and i'm very judgemental about peoples parenting skills or there lackof.
I despise smoking.
I hate seeing people have poor priorities in life....partying/smoking/doing drugs/wasting money but can't keep a job to save their life or always looking for handouts...my sibling and bf's sibling for one.
Heck....sad to say but sometimes I've even judged people on how they look. They may appear 'snotty', 'stuck up', 'athletic' etc...when they may not really be at all. I'm sure there's times when we're all guilty of this...I try my best to not do this.
Last edited by angelanicole23; 07-30-2009 at 03:45 PM.
mkroyer- I totally agree with you... for the most part. I am all for lack of judgement on certain things, that really only affect the person doing it. For example, lots of y'all seem to have mentioned judging smoking. IF smoking only affected the person doing it, I don't think it's anyone's right to judge. BUT it doesn't just affect that person. It affects everyone who has to be near them, and breathe the same gross air. AND it affects anyone who has health insurance because costs grow higher and higher with the more insurance has to pay for. Those costs are definitely not just absorbed by smokers, they're absorbed by everyone who is paying. I guess that's where I get my judgement from.
:O now i dont know if i am judgemental or not about somethings. I really dont like people who smoke around bus stops, air vents (-__-), under no-smoking signs...I dont know if I judge them or not, it just really hacks me off that they could be giving me a chunk of their cancer. Well, the entire building is getting a piece of their cancer if they smoke under airducts (which smokers at my uni tend to do -_-)
And I dont like people who are lazy or undriven, but since i really dont like that quality I dont surround myself with those kinds of people, i just about them to other people of the same mind set as me xD I guess I judge people based on that...but if they are too lazy to ever turn up to something on time, when other people travel further and work a longer and harder day before hand and manage it, but they "need" a nap after a 6 hour day or something, is it really judgemental to say they are lazy? techincally it IS making a judgement....but its true :P
My thing with smoking is it never just affects the person doing it - there's the second hand smoke argument, which fine, but there's also the "smoker developing cancer, family having to take care of them and suffer, insurance having to pay, etc. etc."
Truth be told I get more irritated at the family aspect of that from personal experience. I asked my mom to quit smoking for years and she was like I DON'T WANT TO then she got lung cancer and subsequently died, so excuse my bitterness on *that* one.
Drivers! I am INCREDIBLY judgemental of how other people drive, even though I do a lot of the things that p*** me off. I guess I am a driving hypocrite
I am a judgmental person. I cannot even attempt to deny this. Here are a few of mine (there are many):
~ I hate people who do not take care of their children and let them run wild. I worked retail for years and saw this constantly. Mommy and daddy would ignore little Timmy while he screamed and ran through the store destroying things. Then they would be horrified and throw a fit when I explained that they were responsible for paying for the $400 lamp that little Timmy hurled against a wall. I know where Timmy got it from.
~ People who take said ill behaved young to events and activities that are NOT for children. Your toddler does NOT need to go to the midnight showing of Texas Chainsaw Massacre with you. Also, your six year old should not have come to a bachelorette party. Really.
~ People who do not need government assistance, but choose to take it instead of working.
~ People who feel free to sit around in public and air their sexist, racist, etc. B.S. If you are a racist jerk, please feel free not to share.
~ Members of ANY religion who feel the need to save me by shoving their views down my throat and telling me that I am going to go to **** because I a) wore a skirt, b) wore pants, c) own makeup, d) am not married, e) am educated, f) whatever. Also, if you feel the need to stand on a street corner in the middle of the bar district in my town holding a sign that tells everyone on earth that they are going to burn for all time, please F off. Feel free to contemplate my eternal damnation from further away.
Paradoxx I SO love your last one......arghh..I live RIGHT next door to one Religious building......I don't even think they call it a church.I won't go into details about what Religion it is.....and I swear they LIVE there..eat/ sleep/breathe there...sometimes I think they don't work ( all times of day)....bf always wants to go over as a joke to see what its all about but I wouldn't DARE...they would never leave us alone after!
I wonder if it's so terrible to be judgmental? I met this girl a long time ago, I just got a bad feeling, and didn't want to be around her. I gave myself a little lecture about being too judgmental and decided to open my mind and become friends with her. Wow, I wish I could say she proved me wrong. She once told me that if her and I ever stopped being friends that she would key my car beyond repair. I wish I'd listened to my first judgment.
I wonder if it's so terrible to be judgmental? I met this girl a long time ago, I just got a bad feeling, and didn't want to be around her. I gave myself a little lecture about being too judgmental and decided to open my mind and become friends with her. Wow, I wish I could say she proved me wrong. She once told me that if her and I ever stopped being friends that she would key my car beyond repair. I wish I'd listened to my first judgment.
-Aimee
OMG thats terrible. I hope your not still friends with her, and that she didn't key your car.
I try not to be in any way judgmental. I mean, it wont get me anywhere, but i think everyone is to some degree.
I will admit, it irritates me when people use the gov. for support, and then go out and buy stupid crap. things that really aren't right, and people do anyways.
and girls that need too much attention and try to get it in the wrong kinds of way. I don't think i judge them as harshly as I would someone else, but I still do, and I feel sorry for them.
Thank you! I'm glad I'm not the only crazy judgmental person out there.
I guess I'm very judgmental because I try to make smart choices. I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, and I don't rely on the govt for things like food stamps. I don't want to hear people complain about the price of cigarettes going up. I've actually said to these people "you ever think about quitting?" And they act as though it's not even an option. And I agree with the religion thing as well. Practice what you preach. Don't go on and on about "praise Jesus" and what not when you are lying, cheating, and or stealing. I could go on and on.....
I started this topic because of this- I had an on again off again friend who jumped into a relationship with my guy friend. I told her to come with me to my yearly gyno appt because she should start seeing one as well. For one- she's 25 and every woman should see one. Also, she should get on the pill because she didn't want a child, nor was she in a healthy place for one. Needless to say, she got pregnant and we stopped talking. I was extremely disappointed in her and him. We initially stopped talking because when I heard the news, I didn't have anything nice to say, and I knew that nasty judgmental side would come out. So I thought it would be best to keep my mouth shout and step away. Well, I found out yesterday that she suffered a miscarriage but they want to try again for another!! Wait a second- she admitted to someone that being pregnant was what was keeping them together and now you want to try again!! They've only been together since January.
I'm sorry I rambled..... but we are in our 20s now. It's time to grow up and make smart choices!!
I'll ramble more later....... need to go to sleep and now I think I'm not making sense anymore lol
Feel free to contemplate my eternal damnation from further away.
i feel you on this one! i once had some one come up to me at uni and ask to complete their questionnaire. Knowing how hard it is to get participants for research i agreed, it turned out to be a religious beliefs/how "godly" you are questionnaire. I completed it and handed it back- to my surprise they then went on to go through my answers with me and try to convert me to whatever religion they were advocating! Well, since they wanted a discussion about god they got one and lets just say they didnt have all the answers to my questions, and it ended with me telling them to go read their bible Honestly, they drive me nuts the most. I dont mind doing questionnaires, and i dont mind people saying "hey, do you have time to talk to me about God/religion/beliefs?" but when they use their questionnaires to sneakily open up something like that it really gets my goat
Well, since they wanted a discussion about god they got one and lets just say they didnt have all the answers to my questions, and it ended with me telling them to go read their bible
This happened to me at college too! They just stood there, aghast, and I was like don't mess with someone who's had religious education hammered into their head since they were 5 years old if you don't REALLY know your stuff. Thankyouverymuch.
about them to other people of the same mind set as me xD I guess I judge people based on that...but if they are too lazy to ever turn up to something on time, when other people travel further and work a longer and harder day before hand and manage it, but they "need" a nap after a 6 hour day or something, is it really judgemental to say they are lazy? techincally it IS making a judgement....but its true :P
i feel you on this one! i once had some one come up to me at uni and ask to complete their questionnaire. Knowing how hard it is to get participants for research i agreed, it turned out to be a religious beliefs/how "godly" you are questionnaire. I completed it and handed it back- to my surprise they then went on to go through my answers with me and try to convert me to whatever religion they were advocating! Well, since they wanted a discussion about god they got one and lets just say they didnt have all the answers to my questions, and it ended with me telling them to go read their bible 
Honestly, they drive me nuts the most. I dont mind doing questionnaires, and i dont mind people saying "hey, do you have time to talk to me about God/religion/beliefs?" but when they use their questionnaires to sneakily open up something like that it really gets my goat
