My mother is Jewish and my father is Lutheran. They got a lot of grief from their families way back in the mid-1970s when they were initially dating and essentially had to elope because their parents were so against it. My grandparents have softened greatly over the years, but my mother still feels really uncomfortable in her in-laws house.
Neither of my parents are very religious (perhaps still bitter over what they went through to get married?), but we three children were raised with elements of both religions. We celebrated holidays from both religions and our parents left us free to be religious or not as we chose.
I am essentially atheist, but I think of myself as culturally and ethnically Jewish. One of my sisters was very active with Hillel in college. The other married a guy who is nominally Catholic and leans more toward the christian side, I think. All of us have always found it easier to date guys who weren't very hardcore into religion. One sister recently had to rebuff a guy she actually liked because he was too religious and she didn't want these problems that you're currently dealing with to come up after she'd gotten entrenched in a relationship.
I see from your last post that you two are trying to work it out and see what happens. I really urge you to think hard about this. If your beliefs are so strong that you can't consider converting (actually a pretty difficult thing to do) and his are leaning more and more orthodox, this may just be delaying the inevitable. You two need to have frank discussions about what the future may bring, especially in regards to extended family interaction and children.
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