Ahh yes that sounds familiar. I also feel like that when I eat dinner at home. Like I'm wondering what exactly went into each dish, if there's more calories than I can afford. I like to be in control when I'm trying to lose weight, and you never know what's in food you didn't make!
I used to, before I started this diet. I feel a lot more in control most of the time now.
Have you looked into discovering the reason you're so addicted to food? Most people enjoy it, but usually those of us with weight problems have emotional issues tied in to it. Maybe you could talk to a counselor? Your doctor can give you a referral.
It may be important in preventing you from gaining back later what you're losing today.
Yes I work with a therapist for my food addiction and anxiety.
But I feel like the people my age are more interesting in drinking and having a good time then planning when their next workout is. That makes me sad and jealous that I just can't life like that.
But on the other hand I feel like I am making the more adult schedule for my life rather than partying it away.
But I kinda feel cheated out of my college years, especially now I finally declared my major and started making friends.
One thing I've learned from partying is that nobody cares, or even notices, if you're drinking alcohol or not, as long as you act like you're having a good time. One of my best friends doesn't drink at all. ever. and is the funnest person to party with!
I can understand feeling like your college years are passing you by. I agree with aneleh, though, most people won't care if you're drinking or not, many won't even notice. If you really feel like you want to drink, make a plan to nurse a couple of MGD's 64s, which is what I do.
Taylor~
It may seem a bit unfair, but trust me...it's worth it. Remember the 22 inches you've lost? Would you rather be partying heavier/bigger? Would you welcome the hangovers,or possible long term consequences? If you're working through your issues, you know...this too shall pass. Emotions fluctuate like water weight. Write down all the positive things you have going for you...focus on THOSE things...the things you've gained, not the things you may miss. In ten years, little of it will matter anyway. You can always slip the $ you'd spend on partying into an "alternate fun fund"...and save for a spa day for you and your fiance or some other non food reward. The cost of the right choice is always worth it.
[B]Taylor[/B I totally understand how you feel. Everytime I plan to do something or go anywhere the first thing I think about is how I am gonna handle the food issue. What is gonna be there that won't sabotage my hard work. I always work in room for alcohol plus with dancing I gain activity points so it off sets. For Vactions I just the best I can and try to go dancing for some type of excercise. I have my little pity parties and then recognize that everyone is not built the same and I have to work harder.
But yes it does suck sometimes to know that I will counting points until I die.
I totally know what you mean... I used think that when my friends were eating junk or drinking they would look at me crazy if I didn't. It wasn't so much that I wanted the junk. I just didn't want to be the fat girl ordering a salad and diet coke that they looked at with pity.
I went out to a club and ordered a diet coke. I think I thought the music would stop and everyone would look at me crazy. The bartender put it in a pretty glass with a lime. The music kept going and everyone carried on as usual. People don't care us much about what we're doing as we think they do.
Yeah, my social life has come to a halt since I started trying to eat healthy . . . I still goto my parents house, but even that is hard seeing as they are both amazing chefs of the fatty foods and my mom keeps at least two bowls of chocolates and other candies in EVERY room!
Most of my friends moved away and my other friends consist of overweight people who aren't ready to lose weight and size 2 friends who can eat whatever they want and not gain weight! We used to go out to eat all of the time and I've never been much of a club person myself. It frustrates me sometimes, but I think that I need to do this more than worrying about a year of parties, drinking, and eating fatty foods!
I also am kind of a social recluse BECAUSE of how much I weigh . . . I feel like people are always looking and judging me on my appearance. I let my fear of going out in public fuel my battle against weight, and that is usually enough to get me through days that I think like that.
This used to be a big problem for me too, but at the end of the day I found it better to go out with my friends and have a good time.
For instance, I was invited to a Christmas party that was a pot luck. I was already saving calories for the alcoholic beverages I was going to have that night so I didn't leave any for food.
I was worried all week about how I was going to not eat all the food yadda yadda, and guess what? I got there, and I ate a little bit of food. and you know what? I had a freakin blast!
I probably had about 300 calories of food, and it was totally worth it. You're going to have to live this way forever if you want to stay slimmer, so you might as well get used to having to compromise every once in a while.
I have had situations where I knew my friends werent going to a restuarant where I would really find anything on the menu that was lo cal or worth splurging on, so I met them for drinks afterwards and saved myself the harm.
This used to be a big problem for me too, but at the end of the day I found it better to go out with my friends and have a good time.
For instance, I was invited to a Christmas party that was a pot luck. I was already saving calories for the alcoholic beverages I was going to have that night so I didn't leave any for food.
I was worried all week about how I was going to not eat all the food yadda yadda, and guess what? I got there, and I ate a little bit of food. and you know what? I had a freakin blast!
I probably had about 300 calories of food, and it was totally worth it. You're going to have to live this way forever if you want to stay slimmer, so you might as well get used to having to compromise every once in a while.
I have had situations where I knew my friends werent going to a restuarant where I would really find anything on the menu that was lo cal or worth splurging on, so I met them for drinks afterwards and saved myself the harm.
HotNew - What a great idea about meeting afterwards...
I use to feel the same way all the time, but I've gotten over a lot of my anxity because I stopped caring what other people think. I now have no problem saying no and going out watching other people eat and just drink and chat. I firgure it is more about the company and conversation then the food.
I also try and think about the years I've added onto my life and how much happier I am.
Your a great person Taylor just remind yourself of that, continue with your therpy and you'll eventually overcome this.
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