[prepping]

I echo what Schumeany has been saying all along. She's a wise one.

my two cents, just cuz i feel like piping up, is go with your gut. You feel he's too short? then i guess he's too short! i've given short men the chance over the years and I've never been able to get over it myself. being 6' and a big fan of heels that take me to 6'4", I need myself a tall man. As it is i landed one that is only about an inch taller which would mean he's a few less when I'm fancied up -- but he's a broad shouldered big guy in general so it still works!

(btw, I too don't believe short guy is going about it the right way for a healthy romance. Too quick and dirty. Someone said before that he's a week away from proposing... i'd like to add that he's two weeks away from divorcing at that rate too.)

[SwimGirl]

Sherri - I don't really have much to add, except that your friend has a great name The older I get, the more Aimee's there are out there! And this one is also Canadian no less... heh..

I used to like guys who were a little shorter than me - the ego thing.. lol!

-Aimee

[NishKitten]

I feel your pain. I know it's totally shallow, but for me it wouldn't matter how cute or great the guy was, if he's not eye level with me when i'm in 4 inch heels then I can't even *force* myself to be attracted to him. I just don't find short men appealing at all, regardless of whatever else he has to offer.

Now, speaking candidly as though I were still living life before marriage -- IF he was at least close to my same height, I might consider keeping him around as a part time boy toy if he dropped trou and I was actually moved to give him a round of applause because of what he had to offer. *ahem*

But to be honest that only happened once for me. When it comes to men, they're usually height-proportionate when it comes to everything.

Those are my former-maneater words of wisdom.

[Star2Be]

It looks as though you have already gotten plenty of excellent advice on this subject (bravo, Schumeany!!) but I just wanted to throw in my $0.02 on the issue, since this is something that happens to me all the time, too! Like you, I am blessed with the "tall" gene (hehe!) - woohoo 5'8" - and I also find that I am simply not attracted to guys that are shorter than I am... I like 'em to be about 6'-6'2", just the perfect height for me! I'm not sure why, but I think some part of me associates a man's shortness with a "little kid" vibe, and I just can't get attracted to a guy who looks like a kid to me. Sure, that might sound a little harsh, but you really can't help what you're attracted to! It's like many people on here have said--there are plenty of guys for whom I might be the perfect woman, but they'd never give me a chance because they're not attracted to large women. Yes, it sucks for the person who's being rejected for that reason, but IMO physical attraction is a very important part of a relationship... No, certainly not THE most important thing, and if a guy came along who I thought had the perfect personality and everything else about him was right for me, but he just happened to be a few inches shorter--sure, I'd go for it, because his other stellar qualities would make him attractive to me. But it doesn't sound to me like this guy is really blowing you away in the other departments, either, or else maybe you'd be willing to overlook his height, too. So I have to echo what some other posters have said and tell you that I don't think he's the right one for you, heh.

As far as I see it, everyone has certain physical features/traits that they find more/less attractive, and there's very little that can be done to help that. It's just something in our wiring, ya know? We're allowed to be selective, aren't we?--looks DO matter, I know they do, because that's one of the biggest reasons why it's hard for me to find a man, LOL! It would be nice if everyone could just look past other people's exteriors and find every person in the world equally attractive, but they don't... And in some ways, that's what makes it all the more special when you manage to find someone who is right for you on the inside AND out. Anyone who tries to make you feel guilty for being aware of your tastes, or who pretends that we live in a world where ones appearance isn't important, is deluding themselves.

[Maddie89]

I threw away a great guy because he was to short ages ago.

I still regret it, almost every day.

Just think about it.

[pippy90505]

I would be honest that height matters to you and that you would feel awkward being taller than him I dont like short guys either my hubby is 5"10 and I'm 5"2 that is just how it is I could never date or be with a short guy. I think he would appreciate your honesty than just leading him on by saying other things like he's sexy or whatever. good luck