There are times when I think to myself, man, when I get to goal I am really going to need some plastic surgery to be happy with the body I'm left with. And then reality snaps back in to place and I think to myself, by whose standards am I really judging myself? Mine? It's a daily struggle to see things how they really are and not view myself through some hypercritical lens.
When I think of all of the energy I've wasted in my life hating my body or picking myself apart for not being perfect it makes me sad. I finally had to make the decision that if I was going to get the most out of life I was going to have to stop focusing on the damage that I had done and instead start focusing on what my body can DO for me. I try to push it more than I ever thought I could, and if there are things I wish I could change and can't at least I know now that my body will change and adapt in an amazing way to whatever I throw at it, and there is a level of respect there that I didn't have before.
Really, when I start feeling critical I try to take a good look around me and realize that NO ONE has a perfect body. Most of the people I see daily on average have many physical flaws, but that's what makes us human. Even those models you see on TV or in magazines are airbrushed to make them appear flawless.
Sometimes it feels to me that there is an enormous pressure to look perfect all the time, particularly when you're young, and to be honest it makes me a little angry and I have to remind myself that I don't have to buy in to that. I work hard to try to develop some kind of connection to my body so that I'm not just judging it for the superficial. Not that appearance doesn't matter to me, it does, but it doesn't have to define how I feel about myself or determine my self worth, if that makes sense.
i used to hate my body. Flabby stomach, fat thighs, big hips.
Not that i don't hate them anymore, but i feel i don't dislike them as much as i did.
The result of this thinking, i guess it's becuz i exercise regularly and eating good now. My brain is now thinking "ok, you can't be perfect but at least you're doing something to get a near perfect result". So i'm ok with my body. (even though, only god knows when i can even get that "near perfect", but hey, i'm still working on it and ain't give up, righ?)
SO I hope that you can love your body and don't feel dislike it too much.
Love for you guys.
I hate my body too...and recently more than ever before...
I never hated my body like this before. I used to be over-confident as a kid, I think. i mean, I always had insecurities like everyone else. But I never felt like this about my body before... It's just the past three years, when I gained a lot of weight, and now trying to take it all off, getting older I guess... all of a sudden this disgust towards my body developed.
But maybe, since today is Halloween, I'll dress up in something cute and just tell myself... i have to love myself today and take it one day at a time!
mermaid, i don't like my body either..I am saggy and have to wear a special bra to make it LOOK like I have breasts, my stretch marks from pregancies are gross and glow in the sunlight...one goes across my belly button and is disfiguring to my stomach, thank goodness for clothing which at this point is hiding a multitude of imperfections..
if you haven't already, find some clothes you love on yourself..and stick to them...I only have a handful of things to wear but at least I feel acceptable in them..also, be sure to spend time on your hair and your makeup and SKINCARE..this makes me feel better too
thighs be gone - thank you. i agree that hair and skincare is important. Once i get health care, i want to see a dermatologist, to try and finally get rid of these breakouts. and i love my hair. it is the first thing on my what i do love about myself list LOL. I think im going to go through my closet and through out everything i dont like wearing or dont look good and you're right... find what im comfortable in and just keep rewearing. Clothes, if they fit right can be our best friends because they actually can make us look better, however, when they dont flatter, they are your worst enemies!
I find that I was MORE confident as a larger woman than I am at 140 pounds, past my goal. My breasts have gone entirely away...all that's left is excess, saggy skin. I can't even get a bra to fit right because the skin just comes out the sides...I have to wear a cup size bigger than necessary, and there's a huge gap at the top. I can't win, even with a padded bra.
There's also extra skin on my stomach, underarms and thighs, outside and inside. And there's nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm healthier, but I used to feel like a sexy woman. Not anymore....
Thanks for the telling me about this thread mermaid20.
I have similar isses with my body. The other day, I felt good about myself. I woke up feeling "I am the way I am. I am beautiful", telling myself that if I project that right image, I'll be fine.... And then, that evening I went to a networking event. Still tihnking I' look good. Until that evening, when the organizer sent me the pictures fromt hat evening, and the feelings that unleased were overwhelmingly negative. I can't evenbegin to tell you guys ho horrid the thoughts were - i just hated myself in that instant. All day, I'd told myself "so what if you're fat, so what if you have a lot of weight to lose just be confident, let ur inner beauty come out"
and then when i saw the pictures, all i could think was - who the eff am I kidding? I AM beautiful on the inside but what the heck does it matter!? What am I going to do with beautiful kidneys and a pretty little liver, if outwardly I look like the way I do??
Yes I know I need to learn to love myself - but how CAN you begin to learn when you don't know how???
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these are the thoughts I have on my blah days (and in this case, blah week).
:| I have my good days too...but lately, it's been hard...
I have never hated my body as much in my life as I do now. And it's mostly because I know it doesn't look as good as when I first met my husband. I mostly want to look good for him, so that I don't feel like crying at the thought of him seeing me naked.
I have to agree, i hate my body. I need to change for me because i also look in the mirror and think i am ugly and fat. I worry that i will never find the right guy for me because of that.
I have to agree, i hate my body. I need to change for me because i also look in the mirror and think i am ugly and fat. I worry that i will never find the right guy for me because of that.
yeah i feel the same way.
I really do try nowadays though -to tell myself I like the way i look. It's not always effective, but ...some day....it'll be scond nature yes?
I was in the gym yesterday working out and I looked in the mirror after having had several confident days and literally wanted to cry on the spot. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by thinking that I can't believe I have 20 lbs to go until I hit my current goal, not even my final one!
An exercise that really helps me is to have my bf point out all of the spots that he can tell a difference in my body. It helps you refocus on the progress that has been made. I have to remember that before this I was carrying around 15 more pounds than I am now and I wasn't as critical of my body then! Anyway, have someone you love tell you all of the place where they see a difference. It helps. I swear.
Like all of us! I just wish the bad days would be less frequent 
