[taragettingthin]

I have to agree with Velveteen and Apple cheeks... You've known this girl for awhile now...so you know what kind of person she is. Is she usually like in most cases, not just about weight/food? I don't really know her but I have a feeling that she didn't really mean to make you girls feel like you are bigger or fatter. I think she just doesn't have enough self-esteem and self-confidence just like a lot of us.
For example, I'm 204lbs right now...and I could say "why is SHE trying to lose weight?!?!" to members who weigh 150 lbs. But for those members who do weigh 150lbs, they may feel like they are very heavy...
If it makes you uncomfortable, why not try to talk to her something about it? I think it'd be better to get that out of the way than keep thinking about it and end up not wanting to hang out with her again...

[taragettingthin]

Originally Posted by Team Marseilles

Hello everyone! I wanted to get to a group that was in my age group, with the same range of weight.

I've lost 17lbs and have 14lbs to go...can we do a 5 lb challenge? Those are really motivating. Who's in?

Hey Team, I actually tried to IM you but it won't work for some reason...Well, first of all, welcome to the thread! There are many wonderful wonderful wonderful ladies here who are very loving, caring, and supportive. However, I think you may get a better response if you posted your own thread, rather than under this thread as a reply... =) Good luck with the 14lbs to go!

[Team Marseilles]

Yes, it's all relative. I used to be 120, so to me 149 is big. But for me and to me only. Only oneself can determine if they're overweight. And there is another term, overweight. A person can be overweight by their own definition and not actually fat. But i think its better to be skinny (like i was) get fatter, then get smaller because I think we appreciate it more. Plus, we're gonna be way nicer! lol.

[preetyladyserenity]

My best friend for 10 years is skinny but she is overly obsessed over her weight and how she needs to lose that "tummy" (What tummy for heaven's sake?) Yet, since we were young she was obsessed because she heard a boy saying he would never date her because she was fat (fat? please don't make me laugh).

It is her own insecurities expressed and believe me it has nothing to do with you. When my friend complains her weight, I usually joke with things like "Oh if you are fat then I must be huge!" and she always goes "Don't be ridiculous, you are lovely as ever." I guess if you love somebody you see them as perfect. And I guess she just needs to be loved. After that we always brush her comment off by laughing.

[Thousandsunny]

Personally, who I hang around with isn't a reason to censor myself. If I've just eaten an entire 3 course meal with my best friend (who weighs 96 pounds) I don't think I am the only one who gets to say "Boy, I feel huge!" He has every right to say "Man, I pigged out!" or "My pants won't fit tomorrow!" Everyone has their own body and their own feelings about it. I don't think my friends are considering my feelings when they make fat remarks and, frankly, I don't want them to! I don't want them to think "Hmm, what can and can't I say in this situation?" If they feel like they just ate a horse then go ahead and tell me and make the joke, what the **** do I care, it's not my body it's theirs. It's no different than when I say "Crap, these pants are too small I wish I were an 8!" and my friend Jen wears a 10.

Basically, my friends are who they are and the comments they make are part of them. Now, if my friends said "Oh wow, you ate like a pig!" THEN maybe I'd reconsider who they are but some comments are really just innocent and playing on their own insecurities, the same insecurities might affect me but it's not their fault.