[KateRN]

my boyfriend gained 40lbs since we met - he is now around 220-230... 5'10" - i love it! i dont like feeling like i can break my man!

[Fairy Sarah]

My boyfriend always jokes that he likes big girls.....

Really he likes tall, slim girls, he is a sucked for nice legs, and boobs....

Me? Im short, kinda chubby, have big strong thighs and calves, short legs, am a 30 B (read: flat chested!). And he loves me anyway!

I reckon it doesn't matter what a guy *likes* because in the end, if he likes you thats all that matters!

[MadameZombie]

My boyfriend loves my body but I never thought it was something to be too crazy over. It took me a while to accept myself and want to do something to change.

Is he a chubby chaser? I don't think so... I'm a little thick.... But he loves that I don't look like a porn star or an anorexic chick.


I think that you should show off your legs! My mother use to criticize me for being overweight or for being a teenager and having breakouts!

[NightengaleShane]

Oh, this is an interesting topic!

At my HW, I encountered a few VERY attractive chubby chasers. One of them looked like a younger version of Gary Dourdan (Warrick from CSI...) and said, "I KNOW you have a GORGEOUS, JUICY fat *** under those baggy pants." He kept telling me all about how he thought I was so hot and loved my "natural, healthy, curvy figure." I personally think I have a natural, healthy, curvy figure NOW - back then, I was just FAT

The other chubby chaser was a total metrosexual prettyboy type. I was pretty surprised to see that someone so hot and obviously vain was hitting on me . I live in a shallow college town where a lot of guys are obsessed with appearances and seem to only like thin/skinny girls. We got into a conversation once and he said (like Shy Moment's son, who also thought I was sexy at my HW ), "I don't like girls with no meat on their bones. They look like they're going to tip over. I don't know why you want to lose weight; you look SO good the way you are. I love plus sized women and honestly, I don't think you'd be as pretty if you lost more weight."

Any time I actually bothered to make myself look good at my HW (I was frumpy for the majority of the time) and a guy hit on me, I'd think, "Wow, you're either a chubby chaser or you have no standards."

But seriously, a lot of guys don't care as much about our weight as we think they do. Many don't even pay close attention to it unless you point it out.

As for what I like?
I'm bisexual and I have different standards for each gender. I'm not too particular on a woman's size, as long as she is proportionate and has a pretty face. A little overweight is fine, as is a little under. I don't like emaciated and I don't like morbidly obese, but anything in the middle is great.

Men, on the other hand, usually can't pull off carrying extra weight because it all goes into the gut. There have been a few mildly overweight men who I've found attractive, but I mostly like a medium frame with some muscle tone. My preferences are the same now as they've always been regardless of my weight and I've always had this little rule of "I can't be with a guy who weighs less than I do" though that was obviously a bit different at 175 than it is at 125...

OH OH... and yes, DO show off your legs!

[BrandNewJen]

I have always liked bigger guys... probably because it made ME feel more comfortable. I like 'em tall and beefy... not disgustingly overweight... just meaty. A belly is fine, but they have to be STRONG too.

Perfect example: A lot of those men on the World's Strongest Man competition. Big guys who wear an XXL but are STRONG. They don't have 6 packs... but they're MANLY Men. ya know?

My hubby is 6'4", about 290, and is pretty well proportioned. His belly's getting a little big, so we're working on losing weight together. I don't even really care about the big belly, I just want him to get healthy, better his stamina, and get some muscles in his arms. Him staying "big" in the belly is fine with me. Oh, and he's bald with a goatee. It's funny b/c when I was a junior in highschool I was in LOVE LOVE LOVE with Bill Goldberg, the wrestler b/c he was big, bald, and with a goatee. Few years later I meet my husband, and everyone I knew was like "hey!!! You met your own Goldberg!"

[twentysixpoint2]

My ex bf was a "chubby chaser" that got defiant and mean when I lost weight... Which makes me wonder about chubby chasers in general as I think his wanting to be with a heavy woman had more to do with control and wasn't necessarily attraction. He was insecure and figured the odds of a large girl being approached and/or leaving him was less likely.

My guy now abhors overweight women (his ex wife turned into one from playing WoW and eating pizza). He tries to pass off that he finds me attractive (mostly because I moan about it) but I know he wishes I was thinner.

As for what I'm attracted to, for some reason I've always found myself with fairly tall, average guys. I don't think body composition is as important to women as it is men.

[Matilda08]

Lots of guys like thick or bigger woman I am always being told I am not fat and so on and so forth but its more about what I feel and I need to lose weight its just not healthy for my height and I want to live better and feel better so I can relate! Hopefully we all get to a point where we are comfy about our bodies!.........

[kaplods]

I'm not sure the reasons are much different for a guy who reacts badly to their lady gaining weight than a guy who reacts badly to her for losing it. For whatever reason, the package was more important than the woman.

I also think the reasons for being attracted to different "types" of women is very broad. Some may believe that a fat woman is easier to control, while others may be attracted to large ladies because their ideal woman is modeled after the women who took care of them in their early life (mother, grandmother...). I remember a study in college that found that men tend to date (and even more tend to marry) women that are physically similar to their mother during their early years (so even if mom is thin now, if she was fat when he was small, his "ideal" woman is likely to be big).

So are preferences instinctual "imprinting," or is it a matter of complex psychological factors? Probably, it depends on the individual.

[twentysixpoint2]

Originally Posted by kaplods

I'm not sure the reasons are much different for a guy who reacts badly to their lady gaining weight than a guy who reacts badly to her for losing it. For whatever reason, the package was more important than the woman.

Well, people are shallow. I guess you'll have that.

[ShannanA]

Originally Posted by BrandNewJen

I have always liked bigger guys... probably because it made ME feel more comfortable. I like 'em tall and beefy... not disgustingly overweight... just meaty. A belly is fine, but they have to be STRONG too.
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I prefer smaller guys. DH is 5'10 and 150 lbs. He is slightly muscular with a small bone frame.

[Taylor86]

My man is a swimmer and at 6'1" I am guessing he weights 180.

He is very lean but does have this little belly which I love! To me it means he can drink a beer and have a burger and relax once in awhile. Plus, it makes a very nice pillow for napping.

He is not a big fan of tiny girls - and it's not the looks but the attitude that comes with it. He calls them the "oH mY GaWd!" girls.

I know he is a fan of my curves (esp. my legs which is odd because I never thought they were "cute" at all) but supports me in my weigh-loss. I think secretly he knows that no matter how thin I get I always be curvy because that my natural build.