I echo what everyone else has said. Don't stop posting if it helps you. Everyone has an opinion -keep what fits and toss the rest. I am sure that when you are ready to dig out that there are agencies who can assist you thru the mire of legalities and finances. Can't remember if I said it b4, but life on the other side of the pain is so much better. I too am in my second marriage to a really good man who has given me 3 beautiful children and more joy than I ever could have imagined. Stay strong. :grouphug:

Hey, Tammy -- Just checking in while waiting for a flight. Sorry we've not posted in the last couple days while out of town. We've been thinking about you, though!

Hello Tammy, I don't usually post here as part of this group, but I want to extend my support to you and let you know that your reactions and feelings are perfectly justified being what has happened to you. I'm sorry to say I've been in the same boat more than once too.

Please remember that you are the victim here, he sounds like he has some confused sense of *rightous* anger.....NO WAY! He opened this can of worms, deceived you and your children and he should be made to take responsibility for his actions. How dare he call you names and try to "blame" you for upsetting the kids? I feel he is taking advantage of your compromised state of mind and will try to use it to his advantage down the road......I hope you don't confuse this with real compassion, the man is not cutting you a break. Guard yourself.

You've gotten some sound advice from your friends here and I believe you will get through this....your world will turn rightside up and you WILL feel better about your life. One day at a time, but it will happen.
sending you good thoughts, I hope you post soon, take care of yourself.

Tammy, I was just checking in to see how you are doing. I don't get on here on the weekends.

Yeah Tammy, I'm thinking about you too. Please check in and let us know how you're doing.

Beverly

I read Tammy's request on the Faith-based support area.

Just wondering how you are doing??

Here is her post in the other forum:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=65390

I sent her a PM today....
REALLY hoping she hasn't disappeared.

Linda

I talked with her on yahoo. I was hoping she'd post here. Tammy, stay strong and don't let her move in! It's not healthy for you or your children. I see no reason why they would do that to you knowing what state your in! I honestly think they are trying to mess with you! I'm not sure where you life but check to see if there is a woman's health certer. You do have legal right and she DOES NOT have a right to live in your home! If the treatens to take you child away don't listen...you need to get to a lawyer fast!!

Sorry that post was so messed up... I sooo mad!!! Typing and missing keys or hitting the wrong ones.

Sounds like her husband is hoping she'll leave if he brings this woman in. Tammy, keep in touch with us, let us know how you're doing. We're praying for you to have wisdom and God's peace.

Hi Tammy

I have not been on here for too long but I have compassion for what you are going through because I had bad things going on when I was a child and started cutting a little when I was in my early teens and I think I only did it like 3 or 4 times but I understand the feelings. You are suffering alot right now I am sure but you will get through this and realize how happy you can be. Things happen for a reason and this will show benefits at some point to. Keep your chin up and post here often we all care about your wellbeing.
Dani

That B*STARD has a lot of nerve even ASKING Tammy if his girlfriend can move in! How much bullcrap is one person supposed to stand??? He should be a man and just GO be with her if that what he wants.

Anyone wanna go with me to find this guy and knock some sense into him?!?!?

Originally Posted by Jen415:
Anyone wanna go with me to find this guy and knock some sense into him?!?!?

I'm in! :mad: