Apryl -
While I was growing up, my father always said the wrong thing when it came to weight. I don't know what it was, but it always always hurt. Worse, I think it hurt my efforts to lose weight and all I did was gain gain gain.
My mother confronted him when I was a teenager and he told her it was "tough love." She asked him, "how is that working for you? You're alienating your daughter and it's not making her lose weight."
Frankly, your dad is probably worried about you and thinks that by humiliating you, you might just say, "oh! I need to lose weight?!?" Like you don't know that already. It's a fault and man, does it ever hurt. You know your dad's a good guy, he just sucks at this. I think you handled it very well but you need to tell him...
The whole rest of the world is already telling me that horrible things about my weight and that I'm fat and I'm very aware of it. Dad, you're my safe place. I need to be able to come to you and always feel loved. No matter what my size is.
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