I think that might help with your self esteem alot. Did you ever get an ad in freecycle for a bike? Also, you said you live in a little community, maybe they have a bulliten board you can post a wanted ad on? Heck, you may even be able to put a work wanted ad for babysitting on there if the BF would let you sit at your place, or you could go to theirs right there in your park! It would help you pick your head up if you were making some money of your own. I know if I wasn't raising/schooling my 4 kids, I could never handle being a kept woman, it would drive me nuts!
Maybe you can suggest he talk with his son and see if his son would be willing to try staying with you while he works.
Just remember, at the age he is at he is going to see "step mommy" as a threat most likely, so it may not go over great. Offer to play games with him (video, board, card) and you will most likely get along great. (My 10 year old would give me the mom of a lifetime award if I would only play video games with him... sucks to be him, I hate them..lol).
I bet it will happen soon. I don't have children, but I just spent time with my cousin and her three girls. I really enjoyed doing all the kids stuff (maybe a little too much, heh heh). Cheese pizza, that's a staple in Brooklyn! Guess it's a staple in pretty much all of the US, ha! (but we like to say ours is especially good)
Last edited by dragonwoman64; 09-11-2009 at 10:46 AM.
Sorry it didn't work out this weekend, but it sounds like a door has been opened. Keep working on loving yourself- every day, the same way you've lost 140 pounds (!!!)- and doors will keep opening. I'll stop now before I head into some ridiculous metaphor jungle.
I do think the idea of babysitting is a good one, so you can earn some money for yourself. I've also cleaned houses for extra money. I hate cleaning my own place, but cleaning someone else's is less of a chore, especially if I'm getting paid. Are you friendly with any of your neighbors? Maybe you could catch a ride when someone goes shopping or to the library. I don't have a car, either, and while I live in a city where a lot is walkable, sometimes I could use a lift. I have a hard time asking others for help, but I'm always amazed how many people will offer me rides or the use of their car when they learn I don't have a car. People really do like to help others- it gives them a good feeling to say, yes! I can help you!
I haven't really interacted with any of the neighbors. Maybe I will.
You definately should! We live in the country, most people here on the mountain are actually family of hubby's but we are "friendly" with everyone else. We don't go visiting or anything, but we all wave when we see each other or say hi.
