Its good to start learning about how to deal with this comments.
I am one of the ones that hates hates hates this aspect of weightloss.
I have found through the years its best not to discuss numbers-tell people you're not sure-you don't weigh -whatever.
While I don't believe 'everyone' is intentionally mean, I do believe that people like to keep order around them and don't like change. They will therefore do their best to keep the status quo.
Her comments were probably made with the intent to discourage you from weightloss (whether she is aware/unaware of it).
I have found that for me, in the past, my weightloss would stall or rebound when dealing with this commentary.
Back to my original statement. Accept the comments as a reality, do your best to cope with them, and expect them to come fast and furious as you get closer to your goal.
I thought about this and several times as I've been losing weight over the last few weeks, I'll do something like go for a walk for half of my lunch and she'll say something like "Don't you get sweaty when you walk at lunch?" or have tons of fruits and veggies or steamed fish for lunch and she'll wrinkle up her nose and say "I can't eat that kind of stuff. You can't just diet; it has to be a lifestyle change."
There's not very much positivity from that quarter. Unfortunately, this is a fairly intimate environment and anything less than sharing and chatting openly is considered being standoffish here, so I'm sure I'll have to learn to deal with the comments over the course of my journey. I'll have to take it with a grain of salt and maybe use it for motivation.
This is why I love this site..We are all going through the same things....I weigh 146 and people are always like "why do you want to lose more weight?" your going to look crazy! My weight doesnt go straight for my hips and ***! I dont get the coke bottle shape until I am about 120lbs! I dont get why people want to bring you down because they're jealous or they want you to be less attractive than they are...When you get to your goal weight show the heck off! You deserve it!
Somehow people expect everyone they know to stay the same, so when you're losing weight (or make any other kind of positive change) it can be seen as a threat to who they are and what role they play in whatever type of setting you're in.
I was losing weight at a great pace once, and a fellow co-worker kept harping on me over how I was supposedly doing it all wrong. Silly me, I didn't know how to react back then, but I let her comments get to me at the time.
...25 pounds, total.
She said, "That's a lot to lose in 5 weeks, a lot.
I have read that after the first 2 weeks of dieting, where extra water is also lost and bumps up the numbers, a 2% of your weight is a safe rate of loss. So you are fine
And as long as a person is dieting in a healthy way, heck, enjoy the big losses! I used to sometimes have 4-5 pound losses when I was under 175 pounds, who knows just why. Less salt that week, extra rowing as exercise, but nothing crazy. I took it as a blessing from the diet fairy.
I don't think the speed of loss matters a bit in relation to possible regains; it's sticking to a plan after the official Diet is over.
I have found through the years its best not to discuss numbers-tell people you're not sure-you don't weigh -whatever.
I agree with this. It is really no one's business. In a binge I can gain 3-5 lbs. from sodium easily and have it come off the very next day if I do the right thing.
misora, thats what i dont like about these weight loss shows...people kill themselves to lose as much weight as possible in a short time...id like to see a "five years later show", a lot can happen when the cameras stop running...to me these people are losing in an unreasonable, unhealthy way...ill take my pound a week
people are ... well you know what people are like. I kind of wonder where all this concern for my "losing so much weight" was when I was packing ON OVER 100 LBS???? hellllloooo??? hahahah But since she's your boss, I guess the old "yup, I've gotta stick with my changes in lifestyle, to be sure" is all you can say. Of course the "I see you're opting for the safe 'stay fat' route?" hahahahah ok in my head that's funny
Your boss is just being an a$$hole!!! Forget about the comment your weight loss speaks for itself!! When people say stupid things to me this is what I hear. I will use your situation...
Boss: How much weight have you loss?
You: 25lbs!!
Boss: Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah!!
You: Yes isn't it great!
people are ... well you know what people are like. I kind of wonder where all this concern for my "losing so much weight" was when I was packing ON OVER 100 LBS???? hellllloooo??? hahahah But since she's your boss, I guess the old "yup, I've gotta stick with my changes in lifestyle, to be sure" is all you can say. Of course the "I see you're opting for the safe 'stay fat' route?" hahahahah ok in my head that's funny
hehe Cute! I so totally agree as well. When I was on my way up the scale, not one single person would question me to how much I gained that week and tell me it was too much...so why are the numbers so important when they are coming down? I have had to remind a person of that recently who JUST. WON'T. STOP.
But in all fairness to your boss. Maybe that's her way of showing her support/concern. Who knows. I too started out in the super-morbidly-obese category, and it took a good 50 pounds before ANYONE noticed. So for your boss to notice already is really saying she's in tune with her staff. Most people just can't see weight loss like others can.
This is going to sound harsh, but I mean it with all sincerity, if I were you, I would really try to stay away from the "every body's jealous/haters" thought process. Not everyone is jealous, and most people really do like to see the morbidly obese lose weight. There will be a few people who will drive you nuts along the way, but all in all MOST people will admire you and be inspired by you as you continue on your journey. Turn this into a positive for all people who struggle with weight and don't worry about what people think, worry about planning your next healthy meal.
Ignore her or laugh inside 
