Hmmmm... on that little talk in the car park thing....
You know, planning works for lots of stuff besides weight loss. I think I would plan to say "You have really given me a lot to think about here. Let me take some time to process all this and get back to you" to almost anything he says. Then, you aren't blindsided by some way out of the blue thing he might bring up, so you don't have to react as strongly or whatever as your immediate emotions might lead you to do.
Just a thought.....
Oh I like it! Oh that's so good!
Hey, on this site I might learn not only to be thin but to be a grownup! (About time!)
Rosinante- I so know about that "grey" you talk about, not so depressed that I want to do anything drastic {as my own Mom did}, but that I don't feel like doing anything, but feel sorry for myself, that I'm just letting life just pass me by, but not willing to try and change it, until I read one post-Thank You cfmama-she has "brought me back to reality-and I'm working daily to stay there!!" she has shown me that no matter what is going on, personal or health wise, you can get through it and stay focused to your goals-
I think you are on the right track, as so many before me have said, just try to not think about those grey thoughts and just do what you can. I find getting into a small routine, mine-breakfast, exercise, dishes, making my lunch, getting ready for work, the rest of my day will just fall into place, when I miss one of those tasks it really throws off my day, so I try to make sure that at least all the above are done. Try to save some time for fun, like for me it's getting on this site, and chatting.
One more little piece of advice, try to make sure you are well prepared for your lunch, he sounds like he's very good at making you feel bad, I also think going on that trip to Paris, is wonderful, having something grand to look forward to, is great! My best to you, and let us know how things are going for you-take care
Everyone has offered wonderful advice. I really don't have a lot more to add... but hang in there. Take charge today (like you are) ditch the candy (it will make you feel better) and always remember how far you have come. You are worth MORE than a stupid candy bar.
It sounds to me, from reading your posts along the way, that you are facing a big change right now. New job, weight loss plan, change of an important friendship. So gosh, I would be scared spitless! And feeling overwhelmed. It could be that things have just been going too fast for you, so internally you're trying to put on the brakes and slow down.
Of course it's OK to do that, as long as you don't decide to come to a complete stop and back up!
So take it a bit easier. Maybe the trip to Paris was a bit over the top, but you could still plan a trip for yourself--to somewhere that you would feel safer as a lone traveler and could still have an enjoyable, relaxing time. Perhaps find someone else (other than the silent, absent "friend") to take along.
And keep to your goals, but without haste or rush!
Hang in there!
Jay
what Jay said!
when I was in my 20s I suffered from a real depression, I took meds for about a year, Prozac. The difference was night and day for me. I say that knowing everyone is different, in needs and chemistry.
I'll say that exercise has helped me with keeping my mood up, someone else here could probably explain all the serotonin this and that much better, but it really does have an impact on me.
I wonder if you are crashing a bit as you get to the end of a mini life phase. You have been running towards your trip to Spain for so long, dieting, working towards you trip goal weight. Your mood was up, you were positive and happy. Now the trip is over and splat, you hit the wall. The big, exciting, fun, splashy goal has been achieved. Now you need to clean house, you are planning an emotionally iffy lunch, etc. Nothing nearly as exciting as Spain. It's not like you are going to get yourself all motivated to lose 5 pounds by laundry day. "Woo Hoo, if I get to my goal I will wash three loads instead of 2, WooHooooooo".
So I think you should go ahead with Paris. Set a new weight goal. And have another goal too, the goal being to figure out how to have a fantastic time as a single traveler. You are giving yourself two challenges to work towards. And then, on your way back from Paris, set some other kind of goal, maybe three this time. That way, when you come home and approach the wall again, you can give it a nice hard kick and move on!
You continue to be my inspiration. Keep it up, I know you can. Take up the mantra "Veni, vidi, vici"
